10 Signs of a Dark Empath – The Most Dangerous Personality Type

Do you see signs of a dark empath? They could be the most dangerous person in the room. Dark empaths are notoriously difficult to spot and discover. They can seem like a psychopath if you know them well, but it’s most likely they seem like a normal person in almost every setting and situation.

Sources:

Introducing the Dark Empath
 
New Research: Beware ‘Dark Empaths’
 
How to Spot a Dark Empath

Chief Editor: Tristan Reed
Voice Over: Troy W. Hudson

[jeffwylie]

This is good reason not to over share with people you don't know. Keep your secrets private and make sure you know who you're dealing with. Fast friends aren't usually "friends".

[TheLittleThingsAroundUs]

I'm a dark empath because of trauma so I believe everyone is susceptible to this. From childhood abuse to relationship trauma has lead me to try to protect myself. But work on yourself through repetition. It can help to understand your attachment style and see a professional as well. Don't turn yourself into a villain, don't see yourself as one, make the change you want to. Let your past teach you; don't reflect the past.

[charlotteburton]

Highly empathetic working in nursing. Yet I've always always been able to shut a door and never look back. I don't feel responsible for others happiness.

[TheFirstManticore]

There is a difference between empathy and sympathy.Crying or rejoicing with others is sympathy. Empathy is understanding the experiences of others, whether or not you share their feelings.

[lovejtaylor]

I feel like they are describing Empaths who have been hurt, and in turn are protective of themselves. Yes…some people are full assholes, but being able to read and feel people help in deciding who you want/don’t want in your life.

[tonyp]

It's sad it all gets so confusing when they say don't mistake someone's kindness as being genuine, which starts to make you doubt any good in the world. This sucks.

[eden]

It seems to me that there's a danger to misdiagnose oneself. We all, as humans, have good and evil in ourselves and we can choose either one. Some do deliberately choose the dark side, but it's not a given. People of high intelligence are gifted and able to discern easily the emotions and motives of others, but they have a higher responsibility for their actions. It's all about who we choose to be. We're capable of good or evil...or both.

[kmac]

I don't think I'm a dark empath, but have the ability to be. There's a point where your so aware of the emotions around you and even your own where you can cross realms especially if you've lived long enough and been hurt enough.

[SinArtavia]

We all share traits of dark empaths, just because you share traits... For instance I share 4 traits.
1. I'm introverted, however social settings I become confident and comfortable but I'm really critical...
2. I will show empathy but I may not care deep down, I won't use anything against you or anything.
3. Only in some settings, I use it in competitive settings sure but that's competition...
4. Affection starving I have done because I don't feel people have earned it other times I forget... I studied psychology and often wonder if I am psychopath or sociopath but I don't think I'm either... We are human, different in our own ways just because you share traits does not mean you are one

[nickb]

I believe you can be both a empath and dark empath depending on the situation and people you are dealing with.

[markambrose]

Empath and empathy have two different meanings. I understand a dark empath to be a warrior for good especially against narcissist.

[MegaJesseman]

I actually started feeling nauseous while watching this and my jaw was dropped during almost the whole video. I realized my childhood "friend" had every single one of these traits. I eventually got sick of his crap and after being in a psychology class years later I began to suspect that the "friend" I finally had enough of was a sociopath. He wasn't though. He was a dark empath. Here is a little fun story about the worst friend I ever had. We became friends in the 2nd grade. Everything was good and fun. I loved him like a brother. But I started to notice some toxic things about him. His lack of loyalty. We were best friends. Joined at the hip. And yet any time that I told him about a girl that I liked he would go sabotage it, by snitching to them and making an awkward scene that humiliated me. Eventually I got sick of him doing this and told his crush that he had feelings for her. Not to get revenge even though that is probably what it seemed like, but just to show him how it would make him feel. He actually had the audacity to get angry with me and I somehow ended up being the one who apologized. He made me feel like he was allowed to spread my secrets to anyone who would listen, but if I spread his I was a piece of crap. Thanks to me being his first friend, I was able to get him into a friend group with my other friends. Everything was good for 3 years, aside from me learning to never tell him any secrets. But then he started sowing seeds of doubt in me. He started bringing up this guy I had never heard of and claimed he was "his real best friend." And I even blatantly said, "I thought I was your best friend." And he responded with, "No, you are just one of my friends, he is my best friend." That may have not seemed like a big deal, but when you have someone who you spend almost every moment of your school day with whenever applicable and the only person you hang out with outside of school telling you that someone else is their best friend it is an extreme blow to your self-esteem. It screwed me up for so long. I was desperate to finally find someone who would view me as their favorite. I became very self-destructive because of it. I wanted someone to love me so badly to the point it was unhealthy thanks to him. And then it got even worse. He started "teasing" me with really mean things that he kept writing off as jokes. Any time I would call him out on his really mean and humiliating remarks he would always write them off as jokes. I put up with this abuse for 3 more years after this started. Eventually other "friends" seemed to start turning against me. They started insulting me. And eventually it got to the point where I was always uncomfortable around my so-called friends. I finally had enough whenever I caught him talking crap about me behind my back. As a side note since it doesn't really fit in anywhere all that well in this narrative, he also had this weird thing with his elf-esteem. He acted arrogant in front of others, but whenever it was just, he and I he would put himself down. One of the reasons I started to suspect he was a sociopath aside from the ton of other reasons already mentioned about him being a dark empath which I initially mistook for being a sociopath, was his extreme charisma to the point it was unsettling. I did not notice it whenever I was a child, because I did not know what sociopaths were at the time. But after learning about it in a psychology class I looked back on the moments where he was so abnormally charismatic especially for someone his age and it frightened me. Back then I thought it was charming. After looking back once learning about sociopaths it just sent chills up my spine. Like how could anybody have been as charming as him without their being something wrong with him? I don't fall for charm after learning how sociopaths use it to manipulate people. I find charm repugnant. I only trust people who are awkward like me. It is so creepy knowing how close I was to someone who was a dark empath. I still have nightmares remembering all of the suffering I endured as a child from not having a good father (he eventually turned around, but he took his own sweet time), an abusive teacher, an abusive best friend, and growing up in a Baptist church where I was basically brainwashed into believing that I was going to hell for making a blasphemous joke that would not be forgiven.

[michaelsebastian]

I think from what we seen the most important thing is hold anybody accountable for their actions or make them realized they're wrong rather than destroying them

[ThePeachyCat]

I had a close friend for about 4 or 5 years who is a dark empath. After about 2 years of our friendship I got a weird gut feeling about her and I saw weird behavior in her. Sadly I tried to ignore it for a long time. I talked my own intuition down and gaslight myself

[tecmowbeats]

I dated dark empathic women, I've been heart broken and deceived. I'm glad I'm learning all this before I go off dating in the future. Aggression should be taken out in other ways and not on the people we love!

[Anubis]

Watching this video, I realize that this is probably what my dad is. #3 is a behavior I've noticed from him a lot; that when he does favors for me or someone else, the whole point is to make other people feel like they owe him, instead of helping just because he wants to help. Being raised by someone like that messed me up in ways that are hard to deal with. Even I noticed in the past that I started to act like him, but had to learn how to not be that way. It's been hard.

[NatureAndBee]

Thoughtful video but it made me feel that everyone else is dangerous. I'd like to just treat others with trust and respect. Positive attitude and thoughts create easy and friendly social atmosphere.

[Kiymbah]

This accurately describes the man I've been seeing. He doesn't fit the mold for a traditional narcissist, so I've been a bit confused as to discover what exactly is going on here. The term dark empath came up recently and now I'm pretty sure I've figured it out. He has behaved text book to this description. Totally live bombed me for 2 months, then pulled away and has been playing games. Just as I have decided to let him go, he comes back saying all the right things. In the beginning I was asking how he knows to say precisely what I wanted to hear.
If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

[The_Savage_Wombat]

All the people in my HR department fit this description perfectly.

[gregoryporch]

This describes most narcissists and sociopaths, the latter has a very sharp read on the body language and responses of others