5 Things I Wish I Had Known as a New Husband

After 31 years of marriage, there are some things that I know now that I wish I had known back when I got started. I think if my wife and I had known these 31 years ago, we could have bypassed some difficult points in our marriage.

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[timothycave]

40 years together. My wife passed 3 years ago. Enjoy every bump in the journey. The vowl "until death do you part" is no joke. Love while you can.

[growitheflow]

1 - Wish I knew I knew nothing
2 - Forgiveness daily
3 - Listen
4 - Compromise to support interests
5 - Get on same page on finances

[jacobhiller]

The question: "Do you need solutions or do you need comfort?" Has been the single most important phrase in our marriage.

[wingdwolf]

Yeah! It took me a bit to realize that my wife didn’t want me to fix her problems. Just listen to her about them. For us, divorce was never in our vocabulary. Murder… yes… but divorce? No!

[Cayde]

“Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends.”

[jasminestrout]

Hey Dwayne, coming from a female, I would love to hear Mom’s perspective on 5 things she had known as a new wife. Thanks for always sharing; we appreciate you.

[REV.]

42 year marriage, wife died 2 years ago. I will never remarry. I was her home nurse for the last 5 years, changing diapers, giving medication, showers, and cooking for her every day. I sat next to her bed here at home holding her hand as she passed away. I Did my duty, and fulfilled my vows above and beyond the normal. Today women like to say you are not a man if you won't take on a woman. I already served my time and won't do it again. I am tired and just ready to go be with my one and only Wife in heaven.

[mikemorris]

28 years old father of 2 boys and one in the chamber. Just got back from gatlinburg with the family. 2months ago I was drinking beer way too much letting it bleed to my relationships and work ethic. I found out my Fiancé of 6 months was pregnant about a month ago half lit I stared at those pregnancy tests for hours with a different feeling then my two boys before. I talked to God for two hours straight that night I found out my sweet woman was pregnant. I haven’t had a drop of alcohol since that night like I had told God I would in result he’s blessing me more and more everyday. I found your channel literally the morning after me and God made that pact and I do feel that it was for a reason. God bless brother from your neighbors down in middle Tennessee! Your videos are just a piece of me trying to educate myself and be a man I can be proud of. Your words don’t fall on deaf ears brother I promise you that.

[annsparling]

Look for your talks daily. 56 here Sir, father of 5 from 28-8 yrs of age. Wisdom comes from all places if your seeking positive influence. Jeff here Mich Resident great respects for you and your wife for the years together. YOU HAVE TO MARRY SMART AND HAVE TO HAVE INFLUENCE FROM A STRONG MOTHER WHO TEACHES YOU RESPECT FOR THE GALS. My Mom said, "You want to save a bunch of money on flowers, learn how to clean your house.

[Flysh]

I made our anniversary my password for various things, never forgot again!

[Bwanar]

Coming from someone that's been with the same woman for 47 years, it's not always a bumpy road. When you find that someone that was made for you, and that you would do anything in the world for, that you want to spend the rest of your life with; it's an easy time. Sure you don't always agree about everything, but you work it out (as you said). Never for a minute did I think I had made a mistake in my choice for a wife. Of course, as everyone always told me, I married an Angel!

[lordvrouxgames]

You don’t see lots of channels as wholesome as this one. It’s not flashy, it’s not trendy, it’s not quick. But what it IS, is it’s real.
I’m a suburban from PA. And this channel is as real as it gets folks.

[josephq]

Extremely grateful you decided to make this channel, life is the greatest teacher. Sometimes there are people who are humble enough and smart enough to sit and listen to others and follow their wisdom. It makes all the difference

[lucas.likes.fishing]

I’m proposing this upcoming Sunday. I feel like this was posted for me, obviously it wasn’t but it feels like it. Sometimes at church the sermon feels like the pastor is talking directly to you and this has the same vibe. Thanks Dewayne!

[treycherry]

I discovered this account while I was dating my now ex. we were polar opposites as far as politics and religion, but by watching this guy, I noticed a huge improvement in our relationship. I found ways to grow closer with her, was more understanding, and approached dating as a man should rather than carelessly navigating the relationship. Her and I mutually agreed to cut things off, but I've found great value in continuing to seek guidance from him even as a single man in preparation for my next relationship.

I'm 28 and lost my dad my senior year in highschool, so hearing this wisdom from a man who's already experienced life is beyond valuable to me.

[Spokenwisdom]

This is like if Arthur Morgan never fell ill and survived RDR2

[goobertoober]

It's fascinating to see all these experienced men step up and mentor what is largely a "fatherless" generation. Most of late Millenials and GenZ either had no father figure or our father figures were not great men. Thank you, and those like you, who are taking time to invest in the young men of my and the next generation. We crave true masculinity, and men like you are beacons of what a man can and should become.

[Helloomadison]

Boy oh boy that 7th year! That is spot on. At the 10/11 year mark and we are very happy. Year seven was a doozy, year 3 was tough too but we were too clueless to really be all that miserable 😂

[cecilyerker]

That story about Hobby Lobby was a hoot 😂 it really is more of a women’s space, but some of my best memories are with my dad going to the framing department to get my college artwork matted and framed. The lady who did the framing did an amazing job and taught me a lot too.

[richardhooper]

Agree with all 5 points. 54 and married 31 years. Listening was a big lesson, my wife told me just listen I don’t need you to fix anything till I tell you. Also the two becoming one, the hard part is the becoming. An older couple that has mentored us for 25 years will say to to the other from time to time “I love you but right now I don’t like you”, that means give me time and space so we can process this like adults. Keep up the wonderful advice and wisdom.