Some narcissists will discard the kids if they don’t have access to the other parent

Some narcissists will discard the kids if they don’t have access to the other parent

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[charmainemontgomery]

I just unblocked the ex-Narc in my life after working on my healing journey. He immediately told me that I shouldn’t have blocked him because he didn’t have access to our daughter. He went on to say that he was about to say f’it and just forget about her and that any other single mother would be glad to have a father that’s trying. Meanwhile he was so quick to blame me that he must have forgotten the clear boundaries I gave him to reach out to my parents (who were aware) to see her. Of course that would have taken to much energy and effort. He didn’t even give a care about me needing to recover from the emotional abuse and him walking away from us. Thank you for this validation Lee. You’re right on point for me and I appreciate you!

[tati]

This is sooo true. My soon to be narc husband tells me once I leave he will not support our son with his first car or college funds. 😒 since I finally woke up and derseve to be happy after dealing with his toxic abuse for 18.5 years I'm wrong and he thinks he punishing me but in reality abandoning the relationship he can have with his son because I don't want him anymore. I'm like dude whatever my son and I will be just fine.

[AshleyChristina]

Facts 🥺 He gets mad that I don’t want him in my house. He said I’m not letting him see our son because he isn’t welcomed in my house.

[CathyDanielRealtor]

Raising our Grandkids because our son couldn't be saddled with kids. They got more attention than he did so he left. Their mother left because she wasn't getting enough attention. This all a bunch of BS. Validation needs to come from within and then be shared

[KaleidoscopicJubil]

The narc discarding our child when i stopped responding is the biggest blessing that poor kid has ever got. They were 2 when i left and they have anxiety problems from witnessing all the abuse and seeing their mother completely break.

I dread the day the will reappear. I know its going to happen and am mentally prepping the best i can as they send their new supply after me to try and stalk me.

[oliviae]

I’m currently going through a divorce with my ex narc husband, he was never really involved helping raise my daughter but now all of a sudden he wants to take her 3 days out of a week, he admits he has no clue how to take care of her and will even let some strangers I never meet take care of her. He even admitted that he’s paying so much money for this divorce he has to get unsupervised visitations and weekends with her. I know he just using my daughter as a shield and it’s just a bout the money. I agree with you that there are some narcs that are just pure evil

[melissanguyen]

Experiencing this now. He will only see the kids to get access to seeing me.

[grisel]

Definitely using our daughter as leverage but won’t even acknowledge our newborn son 🙈. That’s the one thing that hurts me to my core. I’ve made peace w/ the fact that we will never work together. I was willing to coparent and be cordial and he asked me not communicate w/ him at all. So I blocked him on everything. He can only communicate w/ our daughter. But doesn’t help me at all w/ anything.

[amandaflowers]

Correct again Lee! Thank you for advocating for the victims and for being honest with us!

[jha]

My ex completely. Both kids waiting at the door on the younger ones birthday, ready to go on a promised zoo trip...he just doesn't show and then tries to blame me and called me a narcissist TO THE KIDS. Tucking my kids in at night and they cry and ask when they will see him again and I have no idea what to say to them.

[carlymcfarly]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼exactly!

Vile, disgusting people who hurt children this way. This is what happened to me and my children once I ended things with my narc ex - he’s completely abandoned his kids and just got engaged to his ex less than a year after we broke up…and we have a 3 month old kid he’s never met…the new/old supply knows he’s walked out on 2 of his 4 children…and has previously broke up with her about 5x!!! THESE PEOPLE ARE GROSS

[rastabae]

Hit it right on the nail. He uses the kids as leverage to gain access to me !!! No longer be able to come to my house after leaving the kids alone in the house while I run errands.

[kirsikka]

My father... I'm happy I finally found out the truth some years ago. Until then I thought that he was somehow ill and pitied him. Now no more sympathy, none.

[lifeordeath]

This is my current situation.. he treated her so bad for her birthday.. he doesn't call to check on her or anything and she loves him so much.. I have to be in court September 22 because he wants full custody 😐 ..he manipulates our daughter, he always tell her he will call her back and never do . I knew it had something to do with me... Thanks for the confirmation 😊

[conken]

When my x discarded me after finding someone that understands him and has more " passion".. we have several children, at home that was never the problem..
He started divorce first, I then divorced him too. I think that was when it started, the head games through the kids, it was repulsive and I blocked him off the phone, he was furious. I just wouldn't speak to him, he started to see kids 4 x's a year, then 2, then 1 and one year nothing. So your saying the reason why he didn't come see kids, is i cut him out of mine.
I have a grown daughter. He has open visiting and was allowed to pick kids up there anytime, except 4 holiday days, just had to call daughter when he was coming, and she call me, and I would drop them off, cept he never came.
It was so strange. So it was because I cut him off.. I am blown away...

[nmbango]

, .Being a narcissist survivor.... I myself have learned alot from listening to your videos .. eversince I subscribed to ur channel in 2021.
My ex baby daddy is a never does anything for our 5year old son now, even he is so arrogant when you just say he must pay the child school fees. Eversince this year 2022 I decide to go mute on him, I have blocked him and just don't have anything to do with him doesn't exist in our lives. Wherever he is, doing or going through I don't give a shshttt.

Now his mother pass away recently in August 2022, guess what he did he send a friend to come get my son apparently they are driving to the funeral, with him not asking me a permission over our child. I decide to go mute, total mute and not even respond to his friend who came to fetch the boy. Until today now I have decided enough is enough he is already dead in our lives. He must leave his life wherever he is. I had enough of his bulshits all those years, he is an animal that doesn't care over his child, if it's so I don't wanna see him ever again.or even if I meet with him in towns mall I would just walk away like as if I never knew him.
Eversince discarding him, I have found peace, love and happiness and currently now I'm pregnant with another man, I've been protecting my energy and my family. So this ex narcissist must just go to abyss, and never return to come look for us. I'm done with him.

[malgorzatadymecka]

This is such an importamt topic! Thank you.

[babydoll]

I'm scouring through the internet trying to find answers of what to do with my situation and thank God I ran into this video. You are an angel on this Earth and thank you for spreading your wisdom and knowledge I just want to be a good mom and not keep my kids from their father but I don't know what to do when he discarded his own children and left me alone with all the responsibilities. I need advice on how to talk to my children about this when they get older so they don't hate their parents. I'm all for contributing to my children thriving. do you have any advice?

[ashleighberryman]

Years ago my husband and I were going adopt our nephews. A lot of thing happen and ultimately we were trying to adopt the out of the foster care system. After an ugly fight two of my husband sisters told the judges and CPS “once they adopt them we won’t have access to them anymore” treating the situation as if we would take them away from the whole family. We realized what we’d be in for down the road……my husband and I immediately decided to drop our case and literally let her have them……were starting to regret it though.

[gonegirl]

My 24 yr old son hasn’t seen his dad since he was 3. When I cut him off sexually. Smh