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[GypsyJulie]

I have noticed I start out feeling sorry for them. I am going to take that as a big red flag now.

[Sweetpea-]

Mine all started with not having healthy boundaries, ignoring red flags, making excuses for bad behavior. It took the last horrific relationship to need to seek knowledge about the patterns. So if you’re here you are already on the right track. When you know you can start to do better.

[MichaelSkinner-ej]

Haven’t dated anyone.

I have a lot of women as friends, but I’ve never had a girlfriend.

- I always prefer to take my time. That’s the way people did it before and it’s the safest way to get to know somebody.

Usually, people generally show you their stripes after about a year - and there are usually multiple instances of them being terrible to people or abusing/ manipulating.

Don’t ignore red flags. That’s one of the things I’ve learned.

[maaikekamstra]

For what it's worth, 5 years ago I met a man. Aged, in the park. I wore Croccs, looked shabby...because dog, busy and 0.0 interested in menfolk. This man started talking to me about politics and was charming. Invited me for coffee. I had a very bad feeling about this man. But thought: "That's mean, the man is lonely and hey, a cup of coffee with a neighbor isn't bad after all." Long story short. After 3 months of coffee he started to conquer me and slowly treated me very badly. Feel free to say terrorize. It was after this fling that I finally discovered what Narcissism was at the age of 51. Thanks to my hero Doctor Ramani. May you be blessed and receive much love in your life, in your heart. Thank you beautiful woman.

[OmniTarget]

It’s easy to blame yourself for ending up in toxic relationship after another, and it’s like we tend to miss the red flags because everything seems normal with them. But it’s not about who’s at fault but learning the patterns and to protect yourself and heal from the experiences and find growth.

[GeistreichN]

This: “it feels automatic, reflexive.”
What I wouldn’t give to have had that perfect realization at that time.

[carlfreiermuth]

it's because if we are already conditioned/ trained to tolerate what comes with the narcissistic abuse, then the narcissists just wind up with us. As we become aware, we may need to distance ourselves from their meddle in order to fully find ourselves enjoying life again.

[ajdAew]

This made me feel so proud of myself. Because I've run away after the very first time the dude has treated me badly. I didn't know what narcissism is, but I got very curious about his motivations and his ability to switch his behaviour that quickly. For me it made no sense to pretend for months that you like someone, and than treat them so badly out of nowhere. So now I'm here, and I've educated myself on the topic. And, most importantly, I stopped blaming myself for not predicting this turn of events and not seeing a monster in him.

[caseybirgitta-skoog]

It took awhile, but I felt less lonely being alone than when I was in antagonistic relationships. I am so comfortable with solitude now that I am not all that interested in looking for another relationship. I'm not not interested but being happy with myself is empowering. I don't fear rejection or being alone and no one can leverage that against me.

[redlikewineagain]

Thank you, Dr. Ramani. So sick of the victim blaming. And thank you for emphasizing a year break when coming out of a narcissistic relationship. So many people just won't do this. But it's so crucial. If not, they'll find themselves back at square one with even more baggage.

[HeauxlySmokes]

It's my energy. They know a good source when they see one. That's why following my gut feeling Immediately is important

[JC.Realm]

We keep end up being in narcissistic relationships, because we live in a very narcissistic time.

[Isabel-ouyu]

Dr Ramani such a wonderful professional but also adorable person

[sushmayen]

One is enough for a lifetime. Not again.

[lionheartklaric]

I am grateful for this video. It's for me. I have dated 4 narcissistic men over 27 years. My father was also a narcissist. It's 2.5 yrs since my last relationship and I am looking back to my childhood and also the relationships to fix the problem. My dad's behaviour made me tolerate toxic behaviour in men I dated - raging, blaming me, playing the victim, being controlling and you name it. All forms of abuse. Plus my mother felt sorry for my father. Cue me behaving the same way. I have grown into a deeply empathetic person with decades of narcissistic abuse. Oddly tho I have also had an amazing career so far working on my passion, which no narcissist could destroy. I am determined never to be in such a relationship again. Wish me luck! ❤

[lostnomads]

I now understand why you said a year pause before moving to another relationship, as in these 6 months I can feel me as me, I am getting an idea what life should be.

[txspacemom]

I'm done with relationships. I was married, 20 years, and he lied/narc the whole time. Now, these men out here lying, gas lighting, trying all these tactics to get you. I'm done. It's not me, it's their lying behinds. I've gone to 2 different therapists and asked "AM I THE NARC?" Nope.

[naveedrehman]

I know this community doesn’t want to hear this but this message is to all empaths: everyone who is selfless start being SELFISH to protect your self from these predators. That is the only way to protect your selves!

[TheNintendoDScollector]

I saw every red flag and said "oooo pretty color"

[christelleny]

Narcs are everywhere! The risk of meeting another one is huge! The only way to avoid them is to REPEL them, and we can't do that until we project a different "aura". Relationship detox is a must. We shouldn't even date until we're comfortable being on our own. Recognizing patterns is also essential (ours + Narc awareness). I'm not sure I'll ever be Narc-proof, but I'm working very hard on making myself as unattractive as possible as a source of supply!!! The trick is to go from an aura that projects "I want to be loved/wanted" to one that screams "I'm way overqualified for you!". 😅