Did you get accused of this when you started dating after a narcissistic relationship?

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[simonecrevecoeur]

Better single than with the wrong person....that's what I have learned.

[pettylabelle]

Something I’ve learned: if someone is pressuring you to trust them, they don’t deserve your trust. Trust is earned. And it is earned on YOUR TERMS. Not anyone else’s.

[JoC-mpsf]

One of the best memes I’ve seen and one I always keep in mind:
“I’m not picky. I’ve seen this pattern of behavior before and I’m not falling for it”.

[jennifergodwin]

Toxic people push and rush a relationship. Healthy people take their time. Thank you for this validating video and reframe.

[djmadijohnson]

I haven't started dating. I don't think I even want to. I'll be going on a little over 4 years of being single. Whats going on in the world of dating is scary now. I'm happy being single and alone. Alone does not mean lonely

[davidhinkson]

If someone seems too good to be true, or moves too fast, that is a problem. Better to be alone and happy than to have someone in your life and be miserable!

[rakhisingh]

Finding someone authentic is like a needle in a hay stack...

[NarcSurvivor]

When you start dating after a narcissistic relationship, you will be accused of cheating or being neglectful. They see it as though you’re their property for life.

[gloriastroedecke]

As you already know, there are worse things than being alone. Do not forget that.

[andreaturnquist]

They don't want you but God forbid if anyone else does. Does anybody else relate?

[radish-xdzz]

I had a friend tell me if I didn't stop being so picky I was going to end up an old cat lady. I told him he was overestimating how much I had liked being married and underestimating how much I love my cat. 😂

[heisenberg]

Staying single is better than rushing another relationship stayed with covert narc for 12yrs now i m single since 6 yrs feels inner peace n freedom to take proper decisions

[joywebster]

For us older folks...my grandfather was married to a covert narc. My grandma died age 64. Grandpa met a lovely lady and remarried a year later. HIS kids were horrified. My new grandma was WONDERFUL. She was good to him, loved all 20 grandkids, and was his companion for 24yrs. She helped me as a child so much. So with discernment you can find a good partner and have good outcomes. Blessings to us all as we heal.

[foteotw]

Honestly, we can keep ourselves MUCH better company than the narcissists ever would.

[AR-edpj]

After I left a 20 year marriage, my first relationship was with a much more toxic narcissist. It was the best thing I could have done. I had read up on narcissist, and could see, and for the first time, feel, in real time, the narcissistic flips: how he would shame me for my emotions, or blame me for bringing up minor issues I had with him. I saw how he followed the script of a narcissistic relationship, and really understood love bombing and devaluation with a more critical eye. He wanted love and admiration, but as I got to know him better, he had to devalue me, because I was seeing the real him.

I realized that I was attracted to these qualities because it reflected my experiences with my mother. Having the power to leave this relationship, after carefully seeing the narcissistic red flags, gave me confidence that I can do so again until I find a person who I want to be with. It also gave me confidence that I can recognize red flags and act accordingly.

[mariaalaniz]

I’m 42 years old and I honestly feel like I’m better off being alone the rest of my life . I guess I’m terrified of being in another narcissistic abusive relationship.

[mandimarie]

Being raised by a narcissist you learn to take what you can get & unconditional love is nonexistent. So it feels selfish to be discerning and more practical to think that it’s just unlikely there is a good person out there for a future relationship. I guess this is the next step in the healing process! 🌈💖

[-iu]

There is a saying that goes something like this - People are more discerning when buying a new car than they are in choosing a life partner.

[ericab]

I recall telling the narcissist that trust is something be earned and he said, “you don’t have to earn my trust. You already have it.” This made me feel silly for stating that trust is something to be earned overtime which in turn made me second guess myself! I thought, “oh, maybe I’m being too hard on him. Maybe I need to give him a chance!” And this was his psychological manipulation into progressing the relationship to his benefit and at faster pace of course. I’ll never forget how made me feel when he said you already have my trust when I had only dated him for 2-3 months. I certainly thought something must be wrong with me but now i understand it.

[heatherstacy]

The perpetuated social fear of being alone makes me angry, to be honest. It's so damaging and unrealistic for people with the best of intentions. People deserve quality in relationships, not quantity of time.