Narcissist love to make you pity them. when a narcissist says 'you deserve better' they mean it

NARCISSIST LOVE TO MAKE YOU PITY THEM. WHEN A NARCISSIST SAYS "YOU DESERVE BETTER" THEY MEAN IT

NARCISSIST LOVE TO PLAY THE V*CTIM AND LOVE TO MAKE YOU PITY THEM. MAKING YOU PITY THEM MAKES YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR THE THINGS THAT THEY DO TO YOU AND YOU END UP STAYING LONGER IN A TOXIC SITUATION THAN YOU NEED TO .

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you so much and lets HEAL together

[deep_dives_withdee]

Only way I was able to “see what’s real” is by recording our conversations… just waiting on this divorce to become final to be legally free of him!! Next step, physically free!!

[latormentaperfecta]

When we first broke up he told me I would never find someone like him.. this last and final breakup, he then told me you deserve better, you need a good man, you are the best woman I have met and the best partner I have had, you are an angel and I am the devil....you calm my demons. I believed him and left.

[celestelee]

Very proud of you young man. I agree, feel sorry for the person that keeps engaging with an abusive person whether the abuser is a narcissist or not.

[BecauseYoureBlessed]

He seriously offered me 1 thousand dollars to leave him. ( I now know he was testing my loyalty 😆😀) cause I deserve better. Which I do. I know he knew he treated me awful at times. But foolishly tried to prove to him he was worth loving. ( I went through crazy things as well but focused on them. I would be triggered constantly because he reminded me of my own covert narc parents. And family . Words I was called as a child. Same cycles even.
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This says a lot - He parked in the same spot made ruts because he’d go about a foot or 2 over my driveway. Iv said multiple times throughout the years park your truck sideways if need be but not over my flowers. 😩He then went and bought all kinds of dirt and filled it in so no more ruts. So I happily planted flowers and flower seeds and a neighbor man is passing away so I went and got all his tulips in honor of him planted the bulbs (he was concerned about his flowers,
I spent hours planting and preparing the soil. He rolled in and backed in over the obviously prepared spot. Saying it’s not a big deal . I got mad stating obviouslyi know what your doing. And it’s my fault when I enable you to continue this stupid control stuff. Squashing my efforts.
His reply .. we will get through this together. 🤪
Any sane person would kick em to the curb the 1.2nd time at most. Empathy give so many chances they in my own words spiritually speaking start digging and the other person directs untill they are not pleased and say move out the way ( as you consistently try to prove excuse me, I know how to dig my own grave and don’t need your assistance) and think yourself ok maybe they know better than I do so you hand them the shovel as you knowingly watch them dig both your graves. He helps beacause he loves you He says . And he has more strength than I do and after all that’s why God brought him into my life was to help me ..
He caused the death of our relationship, all my hopes, dreams, goals, stupid future faking we wrap in a blanket and toss into the grave. He then buries it. He’s got it he says. He then notices my tears and tells me I need him for support don’t forget how much that Iv put him through and he stayed through it all. He didn’t give up on me he says as I realize it could’ve been me in the grave . And as I numbly stagger off to bed he says that I’m so selfish. 💩
This is my analogy of emotional abuse of last few years.

[zaralizzy]

My favourite video so far. So true…my ex always said that I deserved better. One day after another round of invalidating and devaluation I cracked and said “we’re done! Take your tornado and create your collateral damage elsewhere” ✌🏽

[ahamilton]

Lee!!! I just want to tell you THIS. NO ONE could get through to me about my 10 year Narcissistic relationship. And I mean NO ONE. I have went back 20+ times. Been mentally and physically abused..I found your channel. You are correct.. The Narc love bombing got shorter each time and the mental abuse more intense..You have opened my eyes. Everything you say, I have heard, felt and experienced. I am 3 months NO CONTACT and feel grateful. I am hurting but have peace. Your encouragement and wisdom has given me STRENTH. Thank you!!!

[terridavis-cole]

Thanks Lee! I appreciate your honesty. My ex tried that “crying “ stuff in court. The judge called for a recess. I was sitting outside waiting for the judge to call us back in when I looked out at this fool. He had a smirk on his face and started chuckling. He “played” the court with his fake tears! I immediately told my lawyer and the judge was furious. So your video confirmed it for me.

[cathy_clarinet]

Right on. I agree, and have said for yrs the relationships with Narcs are addictions, not love

[blondie]

He would always say "I'll never be able to make you happy" or "you'll never be happy with me" anytime I tried to talk about an issue.

[margaritales]

You're 100% right. We should learn to pity ourselves first, so as to remove ourselves from unhappiness and danger.

[duskeemcqueary]

I do agree. It is an addiction. Without the chaos, love with someone normal seems boring. Recognition is the hardest part, but it is so important for healing and growth.

[heidicropper]

Narcissist always cries victim they claim that they've been victimized when indeed they are the victimizer and then they slander the other party so badly of course people that know them know better in the narcissist ends up with nothing because even the secondary Supply figures it out it's sad

[bpassionfashion]

This narc is accusing me of “mistreatment from me “ bc I am calling him out on withholding information and being sneaky !

Instead of taking responsibility for his actions, he is trying to switch subjects and somehow I end up defending myself for something completely different 🥵.

He is saying that “HE deserves better and that he is the best man I’ve ever had“ hahaha . He makes me sick . I tell him truth after truth, but I noticed it doesn’t matter - he comes back with some crazy making lines. They are truly crazy-making for someone like me that wants to communicate coming from the truth ! I get it . Nothing will work . Thank you for using the word “pity. “ as that is the only reason why I continue to entertain him. I’m blocking him now

[drebugsita]

Yup, if they get violent towards you and pull that whole repentant crying thing, they will do it again. They are masters of guilt-tripping. It doesn't matter how much they put you through, they manage to turn it around and make themselves into the victim. Speaking from experience, obviously. They will do it again. Never have pity on them.

[VictoriaMeeker]

They use your trauma and guilt when you freak out to make you think your crazy when in reality they are crazy and they use your own trauma they know to deflect what there actually doing

[VictoriaMeeker]

Honestly thank you so much for this video. I’ve been crying and literally crazy the past few days why this person fed off my trauma from him and my own even to make me feel like a victim or feeling bad about being a victim even though he’s the abuser and the victim person omg ..

[constanceharris]

My sister is married to an abusive narcissistic for over 40 years. She left him once and how he hoovered her back he said, "please come home I don't want to lose my house or my dogs". She came running back home and nothing has changed, it actually got worse.

[LoveGodEternal]

You are so true, people will stay stuck with a straight murderer for no reason, there is NO love worth losing your life...but cheek clappin is always needed for a prosperous life, hee hee!!

[dclarke]

You are so funny! "Pity gets you cheeks!" 😂😂😂😂

[spicyphilly]

I had no idea at first the pity was one of his main ways of getting attention. Especially from exs or other women, even complete strangers. He told me bars is were he went to therapy. He'd stop at one, get drunk, tell his tall tales of life threatening adventures, sob stories of betrayal, and even his childhood trauma to complete strangers randomly, then walk away. He also talks down about himself or things he does to induce stronger adulation from others. I didn't get it for the longest! I kept falling for it until over the years I finally recognized the pattern and figured out what it's really about. I still didn't realize it was a narcissistic trait until recently. Makes me sick, now he has his young kids always stroking his ego with all this nonsense backwards behavior for attention. I even called him out on it, politely of course, he paused, and said he thinks I'm right, he said he hadn't realized it, but he could definitely see that. I frequently call him out on his crap when he's not in a "Eeyore mode", that's what he reminds me of lol, or more manic, and he frequently agrees with my observations and assessments. That changes when he's back in eeyore or manic mode, then he conveniently forgets he just admitted these traits and projects on me. What a roller coaster.