Attachment theory is the science of love | Anne Power | TEDxWaldegrave Road

Attachment theory now has a global reach through social media and provides insights and
support to individuals, parents, couples and professionals who provide care. This talk tells
the story of attachment theory’s emergence in 1950s London and provides three key takeouts from John Bowlby’s thinking:

• All behaviour makes sense in context
• Security enables curiosity
• Learning to regulate our feelings gives us new opportunities in relationships.

[chafaq]

Attachment theory should be thaught early on at schools. It would save the world so much pain and struggles. Not so many therapists know about it actually. I went to couple's therapy with different therapists and none of them understood that the biggest problem in my couple was the anxious-avoidant trap. Broken up since but here i am now working hard to heal my avoidant attachment to be in a better place the next time love comes knocking on my door 😊

[isanchez]

Safety enables learning => curiosity => openness => vulnerability = the heartbeat of all intimate relationships.

[CherryBoa-sd]

I loved the gentle pace of this talk. it enabled me to really take in the ideas the speaker was putting across. Ideas which are so important but which require reflective attention. Really important and informative talk. Thank you

[rizishere]

She is so gentle and calm, with a saintly demeanour. Loved the talk ❤

[waterlilynymph]

It’s true. I fell in love with an avoidant at a distance and it caused my anxious/disorganized style to become more secure because when I learned to slow down, trust and give him space to feel, he always comes back. We have been talking for two years long distance and can’t seem to let go of each other. In the beginning it was rough with me questioning him, going off on him, but I pulled way back with my anxiety and just now observe and love him, and I truly feel it’s been a healing process to bring me more into security within. I believe he is feeling more safe as well, which is why he still tells me can’t wait to marry me one day.

The more secure I become in his love, as well as my self love, I think that day is soon to come. But either way I will be ok cause through this experience I healed my anxious attachment style.

[DimitrivGregor]

Curiosity brings Openness to the other. Openness brings Vulnerability, and Vulnerability is the heartbeat of all intimate relationships.

[juneyang]

Absolutely. The attachment is the science of love. It saves our child.❤

[MariBe.]

My dear Annie. I love your soul, spirit and speech, your deep, loving thoughts, your clarity and purity and sensitivity. Great talk.

[ivor]

I would like to add:
my theory that why these types end up attracted to each other is that being triggered by the one you love, and who also loves you, that when both persons understand the dynamic this way, they are both in the best position to work on themselves, for themself, their partner, and the relationship

and when this happens: magic

[gregandcarrie]

It is hearbeaking to think that parents were encouraged to let children "cry it out" and were told they were spoiling the child if child was held too long. So much damage since to generations.

[asayeed]

Eloquent, articulate and engaging right from the start! A pleasure to watch x

[LauraJohnson-whjx]

This is why loneliness impacts so significantly on mental health

[KathrynRheem]

Fantastic, Anne! You have truly captured the essence of attachment science! This is one more excellent contribution from you! I'm proud to be your colleague and friend!

[johnbeveridge]

'The gift that keeps on giving...' Thanks Annie for a beautiful and clear talk on the science of loving.

[islandbreeze]

Excellent talk. I love the slow and easy pace of the lecture. It allowed me time to think and let what you were saying sink in. Thank you for giving us the formula to self sooth ourselves: Slowing Down!

[s.h.]

with curiosity and respect can we look at our emotions♥

[arthurthomasware]

Enjoyed this talk. There is always a however, and my however is this: Why are the removal of fears described as love? Is relief from stress love? Is reliance on a safe relationship love? Certainly it better enables love to rise into consciousness, where it can be felt and radiated. But love is our Essence. Love is what we are when ego, or the imagined self is - albeit only for a moment - laid aside. Love does not flow from our conditioning, it penetrates through it. To me, attachment is not love.

[rolfzartner]

Do well presented Annie . It reminded me to my time in school when we spoke about attachment. My wife wasch big fan of your speech. You were so calm .. well well done Annie

[louisecundy]

So clearly articulated - thank you for telling this 'science' as such an engaging story. It really makes sense

[nicj]

I'm anxious avoidant - best of both worlds 😊