Best techniques to STOP thinking about someone

[Pallavi.___]

No more obsession no more desperation... Only a healthy detachment ❤

[goofytunes]

Out of dignity, I will not lose to my fantasy because I am too proud. Even if I'm obsessed, I will behave as though the other person does not exist. I refuse to sell myself cheap!

[draapulus]

Summary/ Overview:
0:00 Intro
0:50 Why obsession happens - Escapism
2:02 Childhood trauma - Escapism, Everyone has something
3:03 Fantasy - Idealization
5:59 Everyone is flawed - Projection, goals, meaningful life, take care of yourself, have choices, escapism - savior from bad boring life. Social, connection, community, needs, wants. Validation. Work on your self-worth/ yourself.
14:27 How to stop obsessing
1 Become conscious, its not about them, its about you, your unmet childhood needs, your fantasy.
2 Start seeing reality, get grounded into the present, reality check them and you. Get to know them, 'un-mystify them', 'un-fantasize them'.
3 Meet your own needs, what brings you meaning, solve/ work on your problems, self-development. Goals, work, career, hobby, community. Grow. Get focused.
18:30 Summary/ Repetition of the three.

[noremac]

I don’t feel like I have to fight for love but rather, because I was mostly ignored as a child, I accept and feel more comfortable with that type of treatment in a relationship. Someone who is unavailable, disinterested, ghosts me, disappears suddenly is immediately on my radar and I “love” them, want to suffer for them…it’s sick, really.

[Rebecca-vtrp]

woah, this has definitely opened my eyes. When you said "i'm sure this isn't the first person you've obsessed over" made it hit home. it really isn't. wow. thank you for opening my eyes. i've done a lot of reading and research and have studied psychology but the way you've explained this has been like a personal therapy session. Thank you so much. i'm going to give you a subcription

[cinextvisuals]

I finally feel released bc you made me realize that it's not her, she isn't a unicorn. She just resembled the same avoidant style as my mom. Now I see that and I can accept that I created a fantasy of trying to feel secure bc of my mom. Now there is less power in it so thank you.

[Magnificento]

I always thought someone will come and save me and I still think. But I am trying to manage it by believing that I am that one person.

[push_yourself_]

Brooo... This girl literally saved my life😢❤

[Sam._.]

I don't know why I'm crying while watching it😭😭

[IAmMadMattDog]

I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. Framing it an issue with myself and not another person really helps put it into perspective.

[lbuzzmaroc]

One of the most subtle traps to fall in is when a person used to be attracted to you while you probably don't feel the same way towards them, but all of a sudden all the interest fades away, if you are not aware you can fall into a big obsession trap that is a mixture of the forbidden fruit and curiosity about why the interest collapsed this way? What did I do wrong? Is there a chance for me to win the interest over? If you start following these thoughts you will fall into quicksand and end up obsessed with that person and that's going to be a very bad plot twist for you..

[YukonFox]

“Shared fantasies” with narcissists are tough to break away from. This is probably why so many of us also develop obsessive trauma bonds. 😕

[sal_onii]

Girl you literally saved me! I had been consuming so much crap on the YouTube such as Soulmates twin flame and manifestation shit I myself do not believe in but gave into it. I just needed to hear the advice you gave! Thank You so much! It all does stems from childhood as I look back now and yeah its NOT the first person I am obsessing over😢

[sallytemraz]

You are very wise and I think your channel is underrated!

[dmegamanful]

I never noticed that I was obsessed until I started to think of someone constantly and fantasizing. It made me uncomfortable but also curious. But when it started to make me feel sad, I felt it wasn’t healthy. After watching this video, I know what I need to do now and I really thank you for that. Everything seems so much clearer and also it did play apart from stemming from my childhood. I’m shooked 🤣 we humans are something, huh?

[emanuelmajstorovic]

Just wow . I was wondering why I am obsessed with her even after seeing her flaws and red flags and her being completely emotionally detached most of the time, now I get it . Thank you

[twinsoul]

This has been …. Surreal. Every single thing you said was like someone put a mirror to my life and I was made to see it through your words. Every single thought pattern, actions and behaviour matched with what I have been doing all life long.
I guess acknowledging it is the first step, then comes the acceptance part and then hopefully I will be able to believe enough in myself to even try to change this. Hopefully 🤞🏻

[Munchkinbaby]

Oh God, you hit the nail! I used to believe that my ex had this fantastic life that he didn't share with me (because that's how my life is, but I always shared and tried to invite him into it) and then I realised- his life was hella boring 😂😂😂
Now when they act all misterious I just assume they are that boring that they have nothing to say

[paris_]

You just healed part of me and that is very hard for anyone to do. You’re brilliant thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

[msbonni]

This is so clear and true and when you said we look for distance because we didn’t have closeness as a child. It’s not about the other person. #wakeup