The EMPTINESS You Feel Is Trying to TELL YOU Something

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I received several letters this week (the fifth week of lockdown) about the ache of emptiness that's getting hard to escape. Is real love even possible for people with CPTSD? Here's my answer.
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[livingitup]

Your explanation about connection to Oneness was beautifully done. And, YES, this is what we are all longing for, from our core-- connection to our spiritual Home, to Source, to The Creator. We should regularly practice ways to locate, and to re-connect to, this Oneness, and to the truest experience of Love that we can have in these rather dense human bodies. I, too, believe that our relationships with others are essential pathways to these spiritual Connections, if we can bring consciousness and an open heart to those relationships. Thanks so much for this timely video lesson. 🙏

[elizabethjones]

It's almost an absence of feeling you belong. It's a void so deep that you feel as though no hug could ever be big enough & that no person could ever be there enough.

[SkyePhoenix]

Lockdown was actually easy for me. I've been in isolation for just about my entire life.

[carolynmalone]

My grandmother found the love of her life at age 65. So, yes, I agree that there is still time to find your great love. As long as you are alive, there is still time.

[CatEyedGoddess]

I have felt this emptiness since I was 12, I am now in my 30s. On an idealized level I crave that connection with ppl, but in reality it's not something I am comfortable with. There is a part of my brain that goes, "walls up, one foot out, be prepared to bale quick". I remember my best friends mom was motherly to me and I was so uncomfortable I stopped going to her house. Now I know why, my inner child was never loved by my single mother and has created this idealized dream of prefect love that comes from an outside sources because my needs were never met. In reality, I have to heal and nurture that wounded inner child. That the perfect love is me learning to love myself unconditionally, that perfect love I have been looking for in others to provide to me but they have all fallen short everytime is really my responsibility to give to myself. It's no future bf's job to heal that woundedness in me, that's my job. I think once complete this journey of self healing in love, l will be in a better place to attract better energy. But it hard y'all.

[PetCoachApril]

“What you didn’t get as a child is gone and it can’t be replaced by humans.” … epic quote.

[kronos]

Just one BIG precaution about being open, people with CPTSD are natural taget for narcissists both overt and covert.
It's a lot better to heal first, then looking for love and relationships.

[cutiepoodle]

“If you’re going to struggle for love, struggle for what you Really Want” 💕

[leahhuser]

Ive felt this emptiness in my chest that physically hurts and feels hollow. I've explained this feeling to my friends and all my therapists and no one understood or also felt it. It means so much to just hear that other people feel it too

[McKay]

I have never felt more seen than when I watch these videos. My husband left me right at the start of lockdown, I'm now alone and staring all my pain in the face and I do feel empty, numb and hopeless. Thank you for the glimmer of hope, Anna.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I have felt so cheated due to all of the complex traumas I have experienced in my life...

[cathywestholt]

I don't expect to ever find a loving relationship. Not only was there the abusive childhood, but I wound up marrying a man who turned out to be abusive. I have no trust in my ability to truly discern who will be abusive or not. He seemed like Mr. Prince Charming while dating and engaged. I am 67, and have even more damages. I used to be a great cook, now I can't cook. I used to keep a beautiful home. Now it is a shameful cluttered mess no one would want to experience. My family is all gone now. It's just me and the two sweet cats. I love my coworkers and manager dearly. They are amazing. I am so thankful for them. I hope I keep working there for a long time.

[cmickie]

A feeling that “Love can’t get in”. Wow. How exact.

[fluffyclouds]

I feel like this is the most unfiltered, genuine, comfortable, and inspired I’ve seen of you.

[ontoyoualways]

My good love came into my life. He died after a 20 year relationship. I am lost and back to the "crap and emptiness". He was my very best friend. Not many people will have what I had for 20 years. Now I feel like I am dying of broken heart syndrome. I want it back!! While he was here, all the trauma didn't matter.

[silentfriend]

Is it normal not to feel as valid as others? Like, my perception of me is not the same as how I perceive others. I was always the kid who compromised for the sake of others. I have felt like "they want this thing from me, so they must have it". I dont trust my own reality enough to not be gaslight into doubt by those I was and am close to. I'm lucky that I've found real love. It is hard to let myself feel vulnerable and connected to my partner. But I'm working on it. My real issue is doubting myself and seeing myself as less valid or deserving or trustworthy. I search for validation from others because I dont feel valid on my own. I dont trust my memories or perceptions.

[marywolfe]

The realization that basically we are all alone because anyone can leave at any
time do to divorce, death, someone just deciding to leave, stop calling, finding someone else, etc. As we grow older this is more evident. This sounds sad but it's true. God can bring new people into our lives but they could leave too.
Let Gods Will be done.

[exploringuncertainty]

Thank you for being gentle towards those of us whom are healing. Also I like how you didn’t push religion on us, and instead told us to only resonate with the words. You are love.

[eroneous]

You have a real gift for nurturing wounded souls. I am incredibly grateful to hear such powerful and gentle words. I always feel better after I watch your videos. Thanks so much CCF❤

[thehealingplace]

I’m 40 and have been feeling that emptiness, lack of connection, aloneness, longing to belong since I was a child. This year I have been working really hard on healing this.