growing apart from friends…

for when you feel yourself growing apart from your friends

[Poizin]

This came out at the same time i lost a whole friend group. Thank you I needed this. :)

[oil]

damn I needed this man you're a real help and hope you channel grows even larger than Mr. Breast

[novariii]

a freshman in college and i already feel im drifting apart from a lot of hs friends. one thing about moving countries is i noticed i dont have to keep people around that dont necessarily benefit me. yes, some were mad at me for losing contacts but i believe my time is only getting more precious since i have tons of workload and its only worth spent on friends that actually think for you.

[jarodmyers]

Recently, I've been having this sensation with some of my friends. It's really difficult because I thought I didn't have a lot of friends because that's how it was when I met them. In the past few months, I've been getting out of the house more and talking with more people, and making true connections. You've helped me realize that just because I don't yet know the people I've been talking to, it doesn't mean that I have few friends. It just means that my old friends no longer align with my goals and perspective. Thank you.

[devarious]

Been thinking a lot about the topic of drifting apart from friends recently, constantly looking at the things i do in a very critical light. With the insight shared in this video, i can now be fully certain that i'm the toxic one in all of those examples, and have been doing a lot more harm to my surroundings than i ever wanted to do good.

I have a very strong conscience and sense of morale, good intents and positive hopes, but irritability and fear of becoming "no longer needed" always turn it sour. Either i'm better than everyone, or i'm "not good enough" for anyone. It's a horrible, overly competetive and self-destructive mindset on someone who wants to be supportive and cooperative. Friendships always have been hard to come by, with mountains of effort and stress at no payoff. And everytime it eventually just snaps me apart. Always there for others, never seeing it returned, blow up on them once, and only rarely talk again. Repeat, with greater shame each time.

I'll work my way through your other videos, hopefully within the week. Maybe i'll find a way to actually succeed at turning this around for once. Or it's time to go full eremite, nobody can foresee it.
I still thank you for your contribution to this waking call. Don't let that good soul go sour anytime soon, the world's gonna need it, and it's always going to do more good than anyone could ask for.

[ronaldajoseph]

I feel this. Once I moved away to college in another state and my hometown friends stayed behind to do community college/work, we slowly drifted more and more apart. At first our hangouts were great and it was like nothing changed. Then fast forward to my second year, and a few of them got into relationships and became more distant. One of them started acting like he was better than everyone else because he finally got a gf, and clearly prioritized her over us. He’d always show up late to our hangouts (sometimes hours after the original time we agreed to meet) but be on time to see her. I’ve known these guys ever since we were kids and the history we have makes it hard to let them go. The last time I saw them left a sour taste in my mouth and now I’m sitting here in my hometown for spring break not even really wanting to see them. I don’t plan to reach out myself since making plans with them always fell on me. It’s a tough situation and sucks to slowly lose your childhood friends like that but like you said, that’s life.

[capri]

Friendships don’t scare me but growing apart with family or your life long partner terrifies me

[pastachef]

I have found as a high school student in my last years, I had this same problem, I felt that no one really had similar interests of directions and choices that I lost 90% of my friends just in high school, leaving me to hang out with two people neither in the same grade, and me still going way different direction killed me.

[Maxisnotmyname]

These videos are bomb. You
Really inspire me

[teapotsticker]

I think my issue is that I don't think I'll find friends again, and it was honestly a stroke of luck that I ever managed to have a friend group at all. So losing 3 of the 4 of them and growing apart from the fourth due to her responsibilities and family issues really sucks. Sometimes I think about resolving things with them, but I never end up doing it because of, as you said, knowing things will never be like how they were. Also, for context for whoever's also nosy, the inciting event was removing myself from the groupchat because it felt overwhelming; 2 of the 4 people agreed to keep contacting me through alternate means, and 1 of those 2 didn't follow through. And yeah, I've tried making friends online and it simply hasn't worked out. And I'm basically a recluse so... meeting people irl isn't really an option either. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exposure therapy and baby steps and "you do need to go out eventually, " I get all that. It's just hard tho :/

[BackpackComics]

Spent most of last year clearing out my friends as well as this year. You are defined by the people you surround yourself with, and I wholeheartedly believe that. Finding friends irl vs online may be different but they can be equally as challenging. Genuine connections are something I always look for in people, but as you said keeping distance sometimes is a good call too. Happy for you that you are cutting the toxic people off and have a relationship you can find peace in :) I was surrounded by narcissistic people for quite some time and was able to not only get rid of them, but also to clear my head and attain footing in who I am as a person. Really great video dude :D

[GovaGaming]

I really needed this video, im 18 turning 19 and thinking like this now when growing apart from highschool friends, you gave me a whole new perspective to look at things

[prussianeagle]

You just earned a sub bromingo! Keep at it!

[HemmiHedman]

Such a good timing for this video. I have been thinking about this topic a lot these past months. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying.

[potato_pandaa]

This was such a good video I think you did a great job summarizing your points in a incredible manner

[Monkey-Pan]

I lost I thought were important friends because we were friends for years since high school. I disconnected with them because they didn’t believe in me becoming teacher an getting my masters. Also they were heavy drinkers. They were toxic too one mistake they automatically unfriend someone. They were good friends one points an I wish I could go back to that. This video reminded me why I made that choice. This video really helped I always lose people an wish things were the same. This video shows me that it is for the best for me an that person. Thanks.

[milkywegian]

Took me a while to realize this is robokast

[jospehjack]

If you were a military brat you would have learned all those things by 3rd or 4th move(done personally at age 9). I have 3 friends(2 of them army brats like myself) because of all that constant moving.

[nicuvalentin]

I did notice that your robokast channel kinda lost it's soul in the past few months but i'm glad you're doing something that you're actually enjoying :)

[epic_paul]

Can you make a video about living in the present? I am struggling with that rn.

Edit: or if there is one already drop link I wanna watch it