Inner Children Need A Process With New Adult- Like You

[alexiayearty]

"You have to treat your inner child like a foster kid you just adopted who has your story."


.... brb implementing this shit yesterday.

[ZarathaZarati]

'Kids...are going to not trust adults"

My inner child hates adults. Adults are the enemy. Adults are the ones who aren't reliable, are liars, are there only when they are breaking something I worked hard to make.

[angelakh]

I love this analogy! At first the inner child concept did seem a little weird - especially because I had surrounded myself with people who would make fun of such a concept. I decided to put a black and white picture of myself at three years old as my screensaver on my phone. Not only was it a constant reminder of that little girl, but I had to bravely contend with any comments it brought from others. There were no negative comments. There were some positive, and with people I knew I could trust, I explained that it was a reminder for me that no one took good care of that little girl. Now I take good care of her. Interesting to see some tear up when I say it.

[brightphoebeuploads]

I remember several adults during my upbringing, disagreeing with the way I was being raised, and all but offering to parent me instead. I've been thinking a lot lately about the idea of separating my inner child from grown up me, and I am starting to see the differences, starting to get the idea about "I see that's too much for you, I'll take care of that for you." I parented a child, but never thought of re-parenting myself. Like as if to imagine I am my child. I raised my kid in full memory of what my parents did wrong, and changed it. I remember those neighbours, friends and uncles though, who offered a different perspective from my parents, their listening, their compassion, and their discipline too. It is sad when you see how your parents didn't measure up.

[legzandherpiano]

I became a foster parent, and it has really accelerated the healing of my inner child.

[mamastired]

WOW!! Yes that makes so much sense. So many gems you have given us lately. I immediately want to go into fixing myself like us 'adults' like to do, then get despondent when it doesnt work so then assume i am broken and stuck like this forever (who loves that cycle)..This make so much more sense... im busy beating myself up instead of having self compassion and realising its effectively a child I'm helping. Thank you

[LightingLotusLove]

My inner child doesn’t trust me, it hurts, I’ve locked away all of my parts and kinda just been in neutral “getting by” i understand now that I need to give those parts of my inner child love. I’m still learning how to love all parts of me, know, and grow trust and relationship, so I can be whole. Thank you.

[cupcakeninjaandlama]

heart chakra explosion with welly tears ! Awesome!

[fairygurl]

🤗Warm Hugs to all Our Inner Childrens
💔💝💗💖💞

[BluVie]

Great analogy to help build a healthy process

[heyyourebeautiful]

Great tip!! Your mentor is amazing please bring her on again.

[hwaidasweilem]

Thank you. This is the most helpful advice on this topic that I've ever heard. Nothing seemed to work so far. 🙏

[a.k.]

Yes that's very helpful. To hold the space for the process and the time those tender and hurt parts need to grow in some trust. Thank you.

[jt]

I just want to say, there’s so many times I’ve watched your videos and started to cry because I’ve never felt so seen, heard and understood… I show your videos to my boyfriend all the time and tell him how much I love you and your work, I hope you had a great thanksgiving, I am so thankful for you and your content!

[MagisterialVoyager]

This is brilliant. Thank you so much, Patrick. 💕

[Sashas-mom]

Do you go into depth further on this topic? For instance how do I provide safety and encouragement to my inner child?

[baby.-qg]

this short and the previous one about putting the little extra context on the affirmations have been really helpful for me. As in, my brain said "yes, this, we actually get xD" Thank you so so much. Hope you have a great day!

[frflstne]

thank you! this feels so much more tangible to me... Ill give it a try.

[sirensHeartsong]

My foster/adopted family set me up for failure as well. They didnt really want another child, they just needed to keep up with their sisters, etc who adopted.
I raised my kids differently than I was parented, and now I am healing even further, so my grandchildren have the best shot available.

I now care for that little girl, and this time I won't fail her.

Good luck! With the right frame of mind, fostering can be amazing. I've seen it firsthand work for other people!

[suzannemaroney]

Can you recommend other videos you’ve made similar to this one? One that goes deeper.