Scared of Him Losing Interest After Sleeping Together? WATCH THIS | Matthew Hussey

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The content in this video incorporates some of the top questions I’ve been asked on this subject—the ones that cause people to reach out to me in SOS mode—including:

• When to have sex with someone you’re dating.
• How to have the conversation about sex before you sleep together (and as a bonus, I even provide a sample script you can adapt).
• How to handle rejection and ghosting.

I promise you won’t have to worry about “losing your power” ever again, because you’ll be OK no matter the outcome.

Your coach,

Matthew x

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[nivi]

“The only thing you lost is a Person who is not worthy of your energy”
This is so true!!

[Lmay]

“You did not give up a piece of you.” Beautiful words for survivors of assault.

[erinmcmom]

I cried about 15 minutes in. This video spoke to me at the right time. Online dating is hard.

[Itspavi]

Thank you for this, the feeling of self guilt when something doesn’t work out after being intimate, always hits the hardest.

[dolcemaddalena]

Wow amazing video. My aunt gave me the most important lesson about sex. "If he isn't daddy material, he isn't sex material". Her meaning was that pregnancy should be part of the conversation as condoms break and birth control is never 100% guaranteed. In other words, if you don't want this man to father your baby (a.k.a. he will be attached to you for the life of that baby) keep your legs crossed. My aunt was bold but it was the best advice she ever gave me. A lot of guys left after I had that conversation prior to sex. The ones that stayed were men of substance. Keep your standards very high ladies for your sake and God forbid to the child you may bring to this world planned or unplanned.

[___melanie]

The upsetting part for me is wanting to enjoy sex, but knowing men will judge you for doing it- somehow you become “not worth dating” even though they also participated 🙄

[cecileturner]

i was just ghosted by someone after being celibate for 15 years. thank you so much for reminding me that I didn't give my power but my energy and time, I felt so very empty, angry with myself and with him. I believe i was clear about my expectations so this really hit me hard.

[PJHEATERMAN]

I'm a man and was very particular in what woman i chose to sleep with. I had to have at least an emotional connection with them to feel right about sleeping with them. I met my wife and have been with her 36 years, 33 married. I fall in love with her every day. I hope others find what i have.

[MC-lgyb]

"This was a good filtration system. He wasn't meant to get through." So powerful thank you so much Matt

[sakshisingh]

Is it just me or this guy always shows up with the exact advice at the time when you need it the most? 🤔

[bunnypajan]

I am facing losing self respect after a guy has ghosted after sex. This video is like someone holding me, and say to me that it is alright. Thank you ❤

[debbigilbert]

As a single woman, mother, and teacher, I believe this is one of the most important and necessary videos you have produced. Well done!

[youyoua]

It has happened to me twice now. We start talking, they express so much interest and say how much they like me, how they are also looking for a deep connection and relationship and we end up sleeping together then they bail. They don’t text anymore, they don’t have time. I mean why not just say what you want other than lie like that. Men do not want to put an effort anymore, they want to have fun without a responsibility to their words or the fact that you created a profile for a relationship. One lesson: do not trust anything they say whatsoever especially in the beginning, only give it time as much time as you can.

10:28 omg exactly it!!!! Avoiders- that’s why I now believe in keep pushing what you want, standing up for you want out of the connection and nothing less

[liz_lemon]

Thank you for reminding and clarifying that a women's power is a lot more than sex.
I was/am so trapped in this belief and I'm starting to understand why I sometimes felt awful when I had sex with someone but didn't have the conversation and acted like I was ok with going casual: I felt powerless.

[simontmn]

I love how my gf made me wait; it has made our relationship feel really special, and each milestone feels very important and meaningful. I'm 49 and feel like I'm 17!

[xdxdxdxd]

If you speak up this, and he says he is gonna wait for you, that also does not mean, that he is gonna wait. He can say, that he waits, and disappears after having sex after a lot of times and dates, or the worst... He say, he waits for you, and during this time he sleeps with another girls. You find out the truth just after he sleeps with you.
My opinion is: sleep with him whenewer you feel that it is a good choice, and not on the dependence of fear or pressure! In that case, if he won't commit after, you still have the confidece, because you more less feel to regret it, because you did it just for you, instead of external circumstances.

[DD-icbd]

DON'T do it women!! It is true.. a quality guy, that sincerely likes you, will respect YOUR timing! Truth is.. nothing is as exciting as the build up and foreplay prior to that.. you'll be looking back one day, remembering those early times.. also, now I know why Matthew's advice is so wonderful.. he's so caring towards
women's self esteem and wellbeing... like hes giving advice to his daughter:)... appreciate it!!!:))

[cyrenebader]

Absolutely love this! I was shamed by my conservative community if I had sex early on with someone I connected with and their argument was typically "he looses interest and respect". I always said if I am attracted the vibe and setting was right and even if we established we weren't in a place for a long term relationship I would follow my heart 'consciously'. I have had magical experiences with guys who ended up great friends, and hookups that turned out into dating for a year. My answer was 'if he disappears cause I was authentic and didnt play games, that's on him'.

[tricialouisse]

“You gave energy but you didn’t lose anything. You just lost a person that you can be glad you lost”

Thanks Matt. I needed this. I was worried that he will lose interest just because we had sex on the first date.

[USNBLUE]

If he really likes you, he will wait. The right time will unfold naturally. Now if he is pushing it, RUN.