When is a red flag a dealbreaker? @SusanWinter

Theodor writes, “Hi Susan, I have watched so much of your content and really admire the work you do! About a year ago me and my partner at the time, broke up. I've come to realize she was whimsical and very insecure. I know that we all are insecure to a lesser or greater extent, but at what point does it become a red flag and thus a deal breaker? And what are the signs for someone that are too insecure?”

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[leannesmith]

"All this relationship business- it's about trusting ourselves." -amazing truth!

[timturner]

Susan had to be a model at some point. What a beautiful woman

[larssonnsx]

Susan is the only relationship coach that talks with sincere compassion. She is the only coach that sympathises with the people watching these videos are hurting because they care about someone.

[cherbug]

I’m a licensed therapist and Love your channel!

[lil--mo]

When a person goes overboard to show you how much they live and want you, but will continue to put bars, and toxic family/friends over your relationship and will not discuss it with you…LEAVE and NEVER Look Back no matter what they say. Let them figure their garbage out for themselves.

[k.w.]

Insecurity can be amplified and resurface when the other person has repeatedly been untrustworthy or let’s you go and comes back. That’s the insecure person looking out for themselves for past repeated behavior.

[brego]

Thank you Susan. This really hit home for me. I can't believe how spot on this is after following you for the last year and a half. I have learned quite a bit. I needed this. Thank you!

[ManifestationPowerhouse]

I would love to you to do a video about the markers of a person who’s mindset / emotional skill set is too immature for a relationship
Im finding myself wading through a lot of seemingly immature daters
Thanks!

[m.j.]

Love this and grateful for you, Susan. I’ve been listening to you since late 2018. You are the BEST out here and I have listened and watched many relationship coaches/experts.

[PiaLoveBSNRNCCBTP]

Hostility🚩
Aggression🚩
Overly critical🚩

[jenniferwinokur]

You have the best topics and discussions ! 🌊🌊🐠🌴

[morganlefay]

Thank you so much Susan. Your videos have been helping me so much. You always make me feel confident of myself and brings me so much positive energy. Keep up the great work! We love you! ♡

[KidCrowder]

Am glad he recognized his partner's insecurity signs early and talked about it. hope she gets help and come to build a healthy sustainable relationship

[TheSLK]

Lying and drinking....deal breaker! It was

[maydibii]

I am very insecure in relationship. How to work that out to not be jealous and how to be selfconfident and get the peace at heart in relationship?

[StonyStevenson]

A red flag is a dealbreaker when perceived as enough evidence of guilt.

[amandaxoxo]

Hi Susan, can I run something by you. I’ve been talking with a guy and last night we had a conversation about being a gentleman. And he was almost making fun of me for liking when a guy is a gentleman and saying that my mind is too traditional. And he said, oh so you like when the guy holds open doors for you… and I said yes.. I do. And I feel really disappointed today. I didn’t stand my ground enough in my beliefs because I was scared but I feel disappointed that he thinks that being a gentleman isn’t important…. How can I bring it up again because it’s really bothers me..?

[alexfinn]

I met a really beautiful girl and I realized she was very toxic (many different red flags). I ended it with face to face conversation in a calm manner and just said we are looking for two different things. She wasn’t even interested in me and just wanted short term thing. She is very negative, demanding, judgemental, and feels entitled to everything. It was not long with her, just 10 days or so but we did a lot of things together (travel, cooking, etc.). The problem is I can’t stop thinking about her and it hurts. Why is this? How can i let it go?

[tuff]

Why??? Because people are set in their ways. They are products of their environment. Change is difficult and often resisted. I have one or two deal breakers. Just like some don't like smoking cigarettes because of allergies. It's just how it is. (This is just my view from life experience.) a nice day Susan. :)

[theplantainchiplover]

Hi Susan! Thank you for this series. I was wondering what your thoughts were on exclusivity before sex. I'm a 21 year old woman and have found that a lot of guys are not willing to be exclusive before being intimate. I feel that I am sex-positive with good boundaries but am having a hard time expressing that I would prefer to be exclusive before having sex without guys assuming I am pressuring them to commit too early. How do you recommend navigating this?