Netflix is EXPLOITING Autistic People?

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00:00 Is this insulting garbage?
00:49 Infantilising autism?
03:50 Not great, Ellen
06:40 What would your likes and dislikes be?
08:24 The editing is too harsh?
11:15 Do autistic people lack empathy?
15:09 This sentence broke my heart
19:05 It would be morally wrong to pay the cast?
22:20 The promise of love is payment enough?
25:00 It's ableist to say the cast were exploited?
27:10 Kaelyn from last season

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[imautisticnowwhat]

What you do think about this? I'm so excited to have a discussion with you! I watched it all on the first day it came out and have been thinking on it and scripting this ever since. I think the main thing I enjoy about the show is the people. They do make great casting choices and I'm glad I got to 'meet' so many lovely autistic people. It makes me feel really proud to be a part of this community!

[opalwreck]

likes: bees (concept)
dislikes: bees (reality)

[stephiechefy]

Likes: fresh pens
Dislikes: interruptions

Pay the talent. Full stop.

[laurenjb]

I watched a show that was all about penguins and the presenter sounds the exact same as in love on the spectrum, each penguin was introduced in the exact same way as the people on love on the spectrum. It was cute and whimsical for penguins, for adult humans it's definitely infantilising.

[Jakesoriginals]

Hello this Is Jake, Dani’s friend who went on the date with her in episodes 3 and 4, alot of what you are saying about how things are edited to increase awkwardness are very accurate! At 9:50 the old guy it showed with the grumpy face was not at all like he was that night he was actually really cheerful and was there for his wife’s anniversary I believe, he was interested in what was going on with the filming and wasn’t aware of what it was for. He seemed to really enjoy the performance me and Dani did and shook our hands afterwords. It was a nice moment that I wondered why they didn’t capture that in the edit. I am not sure if grumpy was the tone the editors were going for or if it was suppose to be a more serious “deep” kind of moment. There are a few things that were edited out of the date that kind of confuses viewers, like how I am also a diagnosed Autistic person and how i work with Dani teaching animation in her business with students before the filming of the date and I still do today. I like the show overall, but i have had to explain myself quite a bit to people on instagram who had a negative perception of the date and our friendship. Thank you for your unbiased review of the show!

[mikaylaeager]

The music is pretty similar to the Great British Bake-Off… so it may just be generic wholesome music.

[drtaverner]

I don't like that they seem to keep trying to shoe-horn them into neurotypical culturally normal relationship models. We get very stuck in rule-sets, so telling us "this is what a relationship looks like" means we'll miss out on satisfying relationships because they don't immediately look like the blueprints imposed on them.

[cleonanderson]

Acting is labor and deserves compensation. All the justification around what is maximizing profitability is business sophistry.

[cleonanderson]

Documentarians do not actively concoct scenarios, direct behavior and insert themselves into the lives of their subjects.

[emmaanastasi]

Honestly iconic to do a vibrator sponsorship on a video about how it’s bad to infantilize autistic people on an adult dating show. Like just emphasizes the fact that autistic adults are adults (duh)

[Professor_Brie]

I just saw a video from Kaelynn who was apparently on the show, and she said that she and the other members of the cast did not feel infantilized like many people are criticizing the show for and that they found it to be a comfortable experience.

[greasybumpkin]

"yeah I entered this show about dating to go on dates"

Talk show host: OMG THAT IS HILARIOUS *claps while bursting their sides*

[tjzambonischwartz]

What appalls me most is that as an autistic person watching these scenes... the directors have no idea how many of the behaviors they're playing up for comedy are trauma responses. Not so cute and funny now is it?

[Adrian-]

“people will like you even if you’re quiet”. i wasn’t expecting that to hit me so hard. i started sobbing. like i know it’s been a reoccurring theme in my life for other people to make me feel bad for not talking as much as they’d like and not always knowing how to respond but i don’t think i realized the full level of pain this has caused me until this moment.

[travistreadway]

As someone with autism the show is literally perfect to see people do what they can to make it work and showing the growth cause even at 40 we can still grow and learn. Tanner literally makes me cry cause he seems like such a pure soul and I just wanna have a person like that around that’ll know that the positive looks is all we have

[IndiaHeathIRL]

"I can't think of anything to say but I'm having a really nice time." Wow, this is perfect. I'd be so happy to hear someone say that to me and I'm going to make an effort to use this if I have one of those moments. Love it.

[Pim_The_Crow]

Pim likes: frogs, and hands on crafts
Pim doesn't like: infantilizing autistic adults

[shezmeister]

The soundtrack sounds like the sounds used for secret life of a 4 year old and educating manchester, essex, etc. So it does give like infantilisation of autistic people.

[ma.]

My sequence would be:
"Likes to go into various online forums to talk about very controversial political topics and argue about it for hour with absolute strangers."
"Dislikes to tie shoelaces."

[Emperor-Quill]

They still need to be paid. Time is money, and each person there is spending time and energy to be there. Getting a job while being formally diagnosed as Autistic is difficult.

It's bad enough that Allistic actors/reality show contestants are paid very little, but they can still get and hold down a well-paying job.
Some employers won't even hire an autistic person by the fact that they're autistic alone, so being paid to partake in a "documentary" should be a given!

In this instance, BOTH equality and equity demand payment for these people, for spending valuable time, energy, and braincells masking for a show where it's unclear if it actually respects them as humans.