How To Win Her Back

[gary_buckley]

The timing of this video makes me think Todd is watching me

[TheDao]

Todd is the only useful dating coach. Everyone else is way too much inner game. What these coaches don’t understand is that life inherently forces you to develop from within, thus the self-development coaching is moot. Todd understands that his audience wants actionable strategies

[Kevtron]

Dude wish you dropped this yesterday morning. Rough night ;)

[Lewis]

Viewers will always choose short, helpful, real advice over hours of dribble. Keep it up Todd.

[angrykumu]

Notes:

1. As long as you have regular contact with somebody, you can turn it around and do good things.
- Time is your main currency

2. More recent behaviors will be more valid

3. You’re actually going to have to step up and change

4. Start adding in little bits of value over the course of maybe a year or two
- don’t change instantaneously to the point where it’s jarring. it will only make you look incongruent and remind her of how low value you are.

[ThePrinceOfwealth]

Slowly ramp up behavior, don't just shock change.
If you see someone regularly, time is on your side. Thanks todd

[OffGridInvestor]

I CAN ASSURE you that people you've know WILL think you're going strange or something is wrong when you DO CHANGE socially. I was a very fearful worried person and when I changed all the negative thoughts and excessive worrying and overthinking, NEW PEOPLE were fine with me but people who I KNEW FOR AGES were either confused and a few were trying to RESIST the change. So Todd is completely right

[icyberg]

Dude actually is one of the only people I trust on YouTube didn’t follow your advice once while drunk and it fucked things up wish I watched more of your videos to help me not making things worse I don’t think I’ll be able to get back into this relationship I’m trying to now but I’ll try with your advice

[p.cap.]

great advice, i would add that while you do that, keep options open and start talking to other women.

[xchalibur]

I highly recommend to not starting this. Because it's a very slow and painful process. Only do it if you are always near that person, all the time. If that's true, you as might as well work on your technique of being a true male. If you succeed on forgetting that person and try with others you will be getting your dignity back and regain your happiness.

[matsherzog]

Hey Buddy! If you read this, then it's probably just better to move to the next beautiful girl and behave better in that relationship.
Try to deny it, but it's the truth.
You're probably overinvested in that one girl. Not a good place to be...

[TheMaleRoleModel]

Question: do you ever feel like you’re being more analytical in interactions than experiential? With women sure but even in general. Sometimes when talking to people I’m thinking about: pulling, eye contact, I’m analysing their face for emotions, offering value etc. I often feel disconnected even though I’m chatting, and bantering. Maybe I’m not present. Obviously much more I could say but I feel like you understand coming from a more technical and analytical perspective. Does this happen in your head? Does it go away with time? Am I advanced enough that I’m bored and able to think of other things or so beginner that I still think these things and they’re not done naturally and subconsciously?

[snakeooca]

What are some of these "high value" things

[changlonglij]

my current situation lol awesome timing

[andrijajovanovic]

I am extremely motivated to change since we both didn't like what was happening, so the bad news are not my problem.

There was a "breakup" stemmed from toxicity that I WILL to erradicate.

Thabks for the advice.

[julianhindriks]

I heard a while ago that a girl had a crush on me, she told anyone that she likes me exept for me. with all the respect to the girl but kissing her was easy, and i am 17 so kissing is actually on a party night where i am look for. But eventually it was obvious to me that see likes me but i really mess it up because only thing i wanted to do was kissing and not more like building a relationship. This was 3 months ago and the girl and i started to talk again but she kinda made it clear that it is just not gonna happen, but the problem is i have the feeling now that i really like getting earlier on. What is smart to do

[erikg]

I know this video is old but I wanna say that if you need to change, please don't see it as something difficult or bad. Any change will be a bit difficult in the beginning but with just some persistence, it will be a lasting change, and if you change yourself, you will set a new basis for any new relationship with anybody else, which is priceless over time, because it will last no matter what happens with your current relationships

[topsecret]

I Just lowerd my high value frame damn 😂

[cokedupnormies]

So the first date went EXTREMELY well but I got low value on text. Can't see the girl regularly either, should I just wait it out?

[orysher]

Daniel Negreanu is a good (and of a famous person) example of this. It took for him a long time of adding value in order to make Amenda see him as a high value guy