Facing Your Narcissistic Ex in Public

Running into your narcissistic ex in public can be a stressful and emotionally charged experience. Whether you bump into your narcissistic ex unexpectedly or plan to attend the same event, these 10 tips will help you handle the situation calmly, as well as protect yourself from their manipulative behavior.

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If you have thoughts about harming yourself, get help right away by taking one of these actions:
Call 911 or your emergency services.
Call a suicide hotline number. In the U.S., call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) In Canada: 1.833.456.4566
Call your mental health provider, doctor or other health care provider.
Reach out to a loved one, trusted friend.

Timestamp:
Introduction (0:00)
Narcissists Will Run Into You (0:35)
Why They Do It (1:30)
1: Stay Calm (3:05)
2: Mentally Rehearse (4:28)
3: Recognize Manipulation (5:30)
4: Don't Fuel the Fire (6:35)
5: Keep Interactions Minimal (7:14)
6: Boundaries and Exit Plan (8:10)
7: Self-Care (8:50)
8: Debrief (9:12)
9: Make Changes (9:32)
10: Safety Measures (9:58)

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[charliebubbles]

‘Love me or hate me but don’t you dare ignore me’ is their mantra…..don’t react either positively or negatively just totally ignore them…any reaction is supply for them. Deny them the ego boost.

[kennethfreeman]

Public humiliation is her favorite game.

[stevehartwell]

Triggered. That Ex would show up in many places for no real reason. There aren't any coincidences.

[JohnSmith-wons]

The scorpion and the frog. Keep your guard up, its in their nature to try to hurt.

[AlexRyan]

Mentally rehearsing how we would handle challenging situations with resilience is fantastic advice.

[KazuyaSnakeSK]

Haven’t seen her since August 2023, last time I emailed her was December 2023, last time she stopped bothering me was March 2024, I’ve heard from even my gas station clerk she’s been around, she knows I buy beer after work there, but I started getting it from somewhere else or another time instead of my usual afterwork. Other ppl around me have seen her car parked around my complex, I’ve definitely been trying to not think about what could happen if we do run into each other, mind you she lives 25 min away from my house, and I definitely have not been around her place since August of last year, and avoided her neighborhood like the plague in case she’d try to blame me for stalking her. But this video is good advice, stay on your toes y’all. Do not engage unless it’s necessary, the less interaction the better. Even a how you doing could initiate their manipulative behavior and guilt trips, also I have my recording app ready in case I have to record the conversations for legal actions. Stay safe y’all, also I love your content.

[carryonsailing]

Another great one Lise, as always based upon your steadfast knowledge on the subject. Best wishes,

[tomaszszczech]

I met my narcissistic ex in public places several times since a divorce. It is more close to a situation within a computer game, than to interhuman dynamics. She is so completely predictable, follows a script without any variations. She cries with tears, accuses and is telling lies. I watch her behavior like old tv show. Even if we are in the same room at the same time, I have the impression that I'm in the present, and she is in the past. Literally, like we are in two different timeframes. Maybe it's my psychological defense, kind of derealization. I don't know. But it makes me feel good, and even smile to her. To this odd person from the past.

[AN-yrvd]

New subscriber here to just say that I love how clear and digestible you make everything in just enough time to keep my attention focused. Your bite-size videos are awesome ❤

[marshallrobinson]

I've completely altered direction and fled the scene on multiple occasions. It's been absolutely terrifying because I had no idea what she'd do or say. This is despite having an equally worded form of a restraining order on both parties in our agreement. She lied about our marriage to everyone. I doubt there's even a slight chance she wouldn't react in a histrionic manner to me even saying "hello."

[lilfairycupcake]

totally ignore them. just like they are invisible.

[Hairyderriere]

Excellent content. Studying. Much to prepare before this happens. Thank you!

[laszlonagy]

The problem with encountering the ex could be when one still likes them.

[mamun]

You are a very good Counselor ❤ with your guidelines I am completely feeling well & moving on. Thanks a lot for these extremely life savior videos ❤

[firsttbone]

I've looking for a video like this for some time. It's bound to happen and I don't want to give her any power back! I want her to feel my indifference towards her!!

[doranvee]

When someone is happy to ruin your day, they should automatically be moved into the "ignore" category. Give them zero attention.

[Sigmamale]

I'm completely ready to be calm.That's why she don't want me anywhere's around where she's at because the truth then hurl come out

[AnyaAnnika]

This is great advice similarly in my own MH practice we're taught with regards to BPD how to remain calm in highly contentious situations or else you risk escalating the situation further even in the context of threats of suicide, self harm etc. I do find it mentally taxing tbh, I wouldn't have time for a narc relationship after dealing with mental health all day at work. I was cyberstalked by a psychopath for 2 years which nearly caused me to end my life - when I say it was f*cked up it really was. I had a lot of diagnostic overshadowing as I have bipolar professionals apart from my psychiatrist in hospital thought I was delusional. I was literally driven to the point of insanity by the amount of abuse I received. I know it's hard but if you have an avenue to get out leave as soon as you can, I didn't have that choice. As you say documentation is vitally important- I deleted so much evidence as I was ashamed at what they'd posted about me on my phone that they hacked.

[tuhinsuryachakraborty]

I want to delete my feelings forever for my ex girlfriend with narcissistic personality disorder.

[vampireslayer]

Mine happenes to be a "Ex" business partner, so it is easy for me;
"Pay off your note, then give me a ya...."
He is a coward; so will more likely avoid me at any kind of business convention.
The other two narcissists in my personal life are long gone for years now. Never again!