The Secret to Helping ANY Child Follow Your Directions

In this video, I'm going to break down how to help your child follow your directions so you can make the most of your time and reduce you and your little one's frustration!

Remember: every child is different. So find out what works best for YOUR child and stick to that!

[telepopstudios]

I would love if you could demo this with a child on camera

[Lighthouse_Leadership]

I watched this with my 7 year old last night. And tonight she caught me asking my 4 year old “do you want to brush your teeth now sweetie?” My 7 year old says “daddy, look her in the eye and use a firm voice” 🤯😳

So this time I got in my 4 year olds face, touched her shoulder and said “time to brush your teeth sweetie. Do you want to start with the top or bottom?”

“TOP!”

Amazing. So clearly explained my 7 year old could coach me. and it worked perfectly when applied.

You, sir, are a gift. THANK YOU

[threefish]

My eyes are watering. I did this was my toddler this morning and no tantrums changing his diaper, putting on his clothes, getting him in the car. Thank you SO much for this.

[MsPearl]

This is great. I especially appreciate the statement, "we don't ask questions about things that matter." That hit home.

[angelaearly]

This method was how I dealt with my son’s autism. Thankyou for this😊.

[dyrich]

1. Face 2 Face
2.Keep Eye Contact
3. Physical Contact
4. Calm and Confident Energy
5. Clear and Specific
6.Questions(Yes or No) or Statements(😟🙃)Or Directions (🤓)

[Indigobluehues]

The world needs more men like this to help mentor our children. 🙌

[ezedoesit]

I started implementing this a few days ago. I realized in order to give my children instructions, I have to know what I want them to do. I have to have a plan. I also realized how often I ask my children questions! wow. no wonder it's getting complicated and heated. Thank you for sharing this! I am a better communicator!

[anncorrell]

The VERY BEST explanation of Questions vs Statements vs Directions!

[greatestsportslegends]

Finally, the YouTube algorithm sent me something of value.

This is the best video I've seen on this topic. Ever.

Thank you for this.

While every child is different, there are definitely some amazing takeaways. For me, the single most important thing is to start off right. When I get this part right, everything else flows. And within that, the single most important thing is my energy level. If I have this set right, and I connect with my son and provide clear direction, things go so, so much better.

And never quite understood why some days were so much better than others until I saw this video. And now, I know exactly where I need to focus and fine tune.

Thank you for this. I'm going to share it with a number of groups now. Parents that are struggling with the same thing.

Thank you again.

[reginashdown]

It worked a treat with my 12yo this morning! I gave her directions: get out of bed and put your uniform on (with my hand on her hair). Then you can choose what to have for breakfast. And she did it. No shouting, no threats, just cuddles 😅😮❤. Thank you so much🎉

[ashleygwenolyn]

You have to believe in your kid. WOW teachers and parents of teenagers especially need to hear this.

[PortaPunch]

What is incredible is that I think I did this method without knowing it the other day.

My 3-year-old daughter was bicycling ahead of us too far and we were yelling at her to come back but she wouldn't. Once I caught up with her I knelt down in front of her looked her in the eye and held her arm and told her why not to do that and that we were trying to make her safe. From then on she listened to us when we told her to come back.

This is really amazing teaching. I'm going to try this when I get home again.

[noorhermiz]

I’ve been a teacher/literacy coach for the last 11 years and i’ve never seen it explained this way. Thank you. I needed this.

[Magdalena]

I’m a mom of 5 kids, the act alone of going up to your kid and looking them in the eye is incredibly helpful

[ALL_CAPS__]

Teaching is definitely an art form, as much as it is a skill and labor of love. You all need more respect and especially compensation than you get in our society.

thank you for what you do and everyone in the profession.

[foulkesfamaccount]

I don’t have any young children but I used to be a teacher for over 25 years and you are amazing! I never leave comments but I wish I had known you when I began teaching. Such great advice. Teaching others is definitely a gift you have and I thank you for sharing.

[KeeperOfThe]

I love this guy BUT what I love MOST is that kid he threw behind the chair is SO quiet...not bouncing, screaming, throwing a fit or a shoe at his head, crying, making himself throw up. That KID is amazing! 😵🤣 Silliness aside though, I'm sure this is valid. You're a good teacher.

[Blockishbookhead]

What you’re saying about attention sounds a lot like what my holistic doctor told me about a baby’s nervous system. The baby’s nervous system is underdeveloped so they need to be held a lot to learn to be calm. So through touch, the baby feels us being calm and then learns to be calm as well. I wonder if a similar thing is happening in the brain with attention. Through our gaze and touch being directed at the kids (our full attention), their brains are learning to pay attention. It’s like a synchronizing process. If our attention is split, so will theirs. If we are not calm, they won’t be either. Very interesting.
Great video! Thank you for all this thought-provoking content!

[elizsend]

I love this method. This method means the parent has to put their devices away.