Healing After Infidelity // Where Do We Start?

If you decide to stay together after infidelity, you will need help on what to do. No sense in staying together if you are not going to do the work to make it great. But, how? Where do you start? How do you forgive? Can it really be fixed?

[ValerieBrown-vi]

Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.

[DJM]

"The pain won't last forever."
I needed that reminder. The pain is so intense right now. 😪

[KatherineHolden-hf]

I needed this. I can’t believe I let him slip away. We were together for 3 amazing years, and then I made a mistake that pushed him away. I’ve apologized countless times, but he refuses to even talk to me. I’m still so in love with him, and it’s tearing me apart. I don’t know what to do anymore

[toadman]

Save yourself the pain, forgive them and divorce them. Betrayal cannot be undone, and a relationship isn't real without loyalty.

[letdragon]

I have been through this and now our marriage has flourished and more intimate than ever before plus deep individual healing that needed to take place. God is in the center and I love him more than ever and vice versa. Stay ! This is great advice. We got help and again God is in it and restores

[MamaMimi-nz]

😢thank God I found your channel... God please see me through this journey

[ScottAT]

Don’t stay. I immediately got a divorce. It went my way because I stood up for myself.

[peninahcher]

Forgiveness and reconciliation is possible only if you want to make your marriage work and if you are willing.

[wehavesomthingincommonmich]

GOD is so good! I'm just as guilty as he is. God, thank you that we're trusting you to help us in this journey back

[antiqueguns]

I am synical about 90% of psychologists, I feel most who get into this profession do it because they are wrecks in their personal lives, the last who should be giving advise, but Clifton you make sense and are reasonable, I enjoyed your advise

[chaimaejeddou]

He looks sincere about wanting to work on it, I forgave him it’s still raw not even a month passed since it happened the last time, he genuinely believe that because we discussed it the chapter is closed and I shouldn’t mention anything about how I’m feeling, he gets so defensive and runs away… I came across your video, I requested him to listen and the one thing he hates is therapy and anything related to it, I know deep inside he loves me, he chose me, he wants me and he has changed A LOT, but the hurting is so intense 😔

[passthegravy]

What you should you do if you decide to stay. Don't stay. I'll say it again. Don't Stay.

[yknowwhatcrys]

Not married, but this is a word frfr❤. Healing can occur though with/through God. 🙏🏾

[akankundapriscilla]

I regret the day I apologised about cheating, yet he had cheated on me first.even with children. Marriage is the hardest game on earth.

[shooshoo]

It’s been over a year since I found out my husband cheated among other things. I threw him out for 5 months and he’s been back a year. He done the work. He’s done all the things he should do but I still hate him with a burning hatred I have never felt before. I realize now there is nothing he can do.

[jerrykasinger]

This is the kind of person that would be good to have in your own Circle of Friends

[MaryJeanPahayahay-if]

It hurts me so much, my husband cheated me again and again😥😥😥

[Gary-ydzm]

I had to come back to watch this video again and see a lot of hurt guys in these comments.... Guys listen... This dude is legit... I have watched some of his videos and it helped me tremendously!!!! .... I have literally created a new marriage we are in the best place we have ever been in and a huge reason why is because I watched this video 20x 😂😂... Each situation is different from the other but love is the same!! ... My wife has been so remorseful and transparent with me about everything!!! I mean it's a little annoying but I accept it because it's her way of trying... It's not easy at all... But it's possible to get past and fix .. it's like a broken bone... It's more than likely going to heal up stronger than ever before!!!! .. guys you know your wives... You know if she's remorseful and you know if she wants to fix it... Acknowledge that something led to it... Don't take accountability for her actions but take accountability for your actions because in most cases we as men as husbands... Don't wanna acknowledge that we regressed with how we treat her and stop being that guy she fell in love with

[Africahot]

Found out my wife was cheating on me when we first started dating. Also found out she was lying about several other things. If we didn't have kids, I'd already be gone. I haven't been able to get over the humps of being lied to, disrespected, and cheated on. She's not really doing much to help me get through it, and I don't believe she's emotionally mature enough to do the necessary work. Therapist aren't helping because none of them acknowledge my hurt or condem her actions as wrong. This video has been more helpful than months and hundreds of dollars of therapy. Lol. Im still moving out today.

[krexo]

even though im not married, i still needed this. I just recently made the biggest mistake of my life, and i have no idea on how i can fix up. This girl is my everything. And i now realize i took it for granted. She says she is doing me the biggest favor ever to even still talk to me. Even though that is hard for me to accept, its still the truth. Since this happened so recently, i dont know how to be transparent and honest enough to where we both can heal from my mistake.