5 Types of Dysfunctional Families

As you become aware of how your upbringing impacted your life, it can be helpful to understand some themes of dysfunction you may have grown up with. Today I want to talk about dysfunctional families and five types that I have seen impact the mental and emotional health of people negatively.

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[lovewhoyouare]

Mom always told us “be on your best behavior since we don’t know what kind of mood your father will be in.”

[chicenburger]

Thank God for Mark and Melissa's work, it has been so helpful in healing my family.

[LexHeroux]

Things that weren’t given that I didn’t know I needed. Definitely emotional neglect in my family. And grew up without Mom living with me because of addictions. Also performance-driven because Dad, grandmother, and grandpa had their expectations of me and when I didn’t do well it didn’t perform to their standard, I could feel the disappointment. I remember my grandpa’s disapproval and his mad voice just emotionally wrecking me, like I couldn’t control my tears when he’d talk to me a certain way.

[graceplease]

2, 3, and 5. Domestically violent home. I was told never to tell. Only child. Perfectionism in hyperdrive. Past fifty years old now and still suffering. Having a couple of therapists earlier in adult life, I was told around menopause one will have some reconciling with regard to childhood. Very true in my case. Along side the birth of my daughter, such a gift from God, I have landed in a wonderful journey to Jesus. All that misery has me in love with Jesus. The most wonderful gift He has given me. Still finding my way but now I know I don’t walk alone and I’m slowly feeling stronger. I’m truly blessed.

[daleenduplessis]

Thank U Mark...Neglect was a big part in my life.😢

[Chelz]

It was real difficult... but bec of ur videos I experienced God's grace in my heart healing

[muskee]

hi mark it would be great to do a book for emotional neglect as a child and a workbook how to recover thx

[familybuildingblocktv]

This therapist is doing a great job of helping one to read self dark spots to those who always think that they are right and just others are against them.
*Call it self discovery*

[MarvinEngle-hekq]

Numbers 1, 2, 3 were definitely what I grew up with. My dad left us for a time then was an alcoholic and my mom was very sick with massive migraines and inner ear problems. Thanks you for helping me heal to the point where I know and experience God's everlasting love more and more, and I'm learning to be kind and graceful to myself. Keep up the good work!

[jesuslovesme]

1, 2, 5 a little of 3. Thankyou. I appreciate you confirming the areas of my life today and upbringing that I thought were unhealthy, but today I see them in a new light, one that can be healed. I am not damaged forever, and I see that you will probably help me thru biblical aspects into forgiveness and aright relationship with my unfortunately, I must say, damaged father and family. Praise God for you and letting God use you for our sake. God will bless you my friend!

[shirkiahbull]

Thank you. I can relate to 3-5 my father was in and out of my life and now just out & my mom is here but emotionally absent. She’s a christian and i often get tripped up about talking about what’s really hurting me..Glad you talked about this❤️.

[katiesanders]

Just as positive feedback on the set, I like the wood background and this lighting the best. Makes it very warm and inviting. The whiteboard sessions feel the most personal of your videos. I always feel like I’m receiving personal training. How fun would it be if these were in person, with you teaching at the whiteboard and us attending in small groups?! Then we could have live interaction, connection, and opportunities to ask questions. Maybe an adaptation of this idea would be possible in a private online format, which I think you’re already planning to do in your community for the book.

[lovewhoyouare]

Yes, i grew up with my father being alcoholic and abusive with my mom. This is very helpful to me as i am still healing from this even at my age

[jonathanr.]

This is so helpful and True. I've had struggles with family..I'm now an adult and I definitely see things different...I'm so wanting change in family and for the individuals within

[loriwicker]

Yes Mark, really enjoyed this teaching. Pls do more teaching on this subject.

[clarealice]

Wow thank you mark this is SO helpful. I grew up with not addictions in parents but in a sibling. My teen years and early 20s contained a lot of drama anxiety and unpredictability around my older brothers alcohol abuse, drug use, porn mags and awful friends who were mixed up in crime at times. Mark I’d be interested to hear your comments on how much of an impact this can have when it’s not your parents but a sibling. There was also constant strife and yelling between my father and brother, and a feeling of distance between parents. Emotional disconnection was big. Our dad was perfectionist and unwittingly had a performance mentaility. was pleased with us if we did good work.I’m a perfectionist, depression anxiety and OCD person ... you’ve explained so much in this video . I’ll talk to my psych about this stuff next week!!

[VanillaJzilla]

God bless. Love your work and help you provide toward all of those who listen 👍

[Heath-jqxj]

Lectures like this feel like these teachings make forgiveness easier, while learning the mechanics of boundaries

[erhardtharris]

This was one of the best 'psych' videos I've watched.

[antjaguar]

My father always used to tell me "You want more and more and it's never enough you don't appreciate anything and mean while he's not taking accountability from where it's coming from"