Infidelity Counseling — How Effective Is It?

Many counselors still believe a cause-and-effect approach will treat infidelity. Spoiler alert: It won’t! So how do you get the support you need for your complex, unique-to-you situation? Today, Wayne is sharing some surprising facts about infidelity therapy as well as how to navigate your options and pick one that’ll help you heal.



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[AL_FARID_]

“Every situation is different”
This is what people need to truly grasp
It’s not all black and white
It’s not easy
Stay strong my friends

[katrinal]

Thank you so much Wayne. I am so very thankful that I have found your video blogs. They are so amazing and more helpful than I could have ever imagined. Thank you Affair Recovery!!!❤️

[lenavoyles]

What is the success rate of EMS, and how do you define “success”?

[offroadchixrule]

Thank you Wayne for this info. I would lie to add that if you’re dealing with sex/porn addiction to PLEASE ensure you have a qualified therapist (CSAT & APSAT) who is not only experienced and certified to help with the addicts but ALSO is partner sensitive.

[CharlesINTEL]

The right therapist with a specialty in infidelity and trauma does matter! Yes, they may charge a little more however think of it like paying for a few flower arrangements versus the cost of possibly losing the love of your life. Choose wisely!

[wandapattersonkelley]

I have a two part comment/question. First is that my husband and I have had great difficulty finding expert help. The three therapists we have seen definitely were caring and tried, with the last by far our best experience (emotionally focused couples therapy). I am an MFT and still have had trouble finding a good fit even with connection to therapy resources. We did EMS weekend in August 2019 and it was a turning point but we needed long term support and help beyond that. The videos and material at AR have helped me maintain some sanity through the past 4 years. I suspect we are very difficult to work with and I have given up. I don’t know where else to turn except to end the marriage. We are no longer seeing a therapist and have agreed to a Legal Separation but I fear it will only be a step closer to actual divorce. My second comment is a question. Will AR ever consider a training or certification program for therapists? I don’t know if our marriage would have survived with additional long term help or not, but I know that more knowledge and focused training are needed for therapists who truly want to help those affected by infidelity. Thanks for all the videos and resources you provide!

[kevinkennett]

Where can I find an infidelity specialist? My wife needs an individual therapist, and we need a marriage counselor. Our current one, sadly, does not help. Can you offer resources to find a couple if them for us? My unfaithful wife hurts me all the time, because, deep down she hurts, but won't admit it. I am taking harboring hope right now.

[featheryprey]

Should the individual therapists for both spouses also be experienced in infidelity?

[danacwt]

I'm in Massachusetts and don't have a lot of money for a weekend or even online ems. I can't find any counselors here that specialize in Infidelity. Any recommendations for out of state counselors who maybe do virtual sessions? We are desperate for help.