You Don't Think You Deserve It | Mel Robbins

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You know what to do, but you just can't seem to do it. You have a million excuses as to why you can't, the idea isn't good enough, you aren't good enough. Maybe there's something bigger here holding you back, and for good reason.

In this video, I talk to an alumna of my Power of You course who wanted to know WHY she just wasn't making her website she knew she needed to make for her business.

I think some of you will see yourselves in her story because it is not always about the surface-level issue of "procrastination" or "indecisiveness," sometimes it is much deeper.

Sometimes it's because somewhere in your past someone made you feel like you didn't deserve it. But you don't have to stay there forever. If you identify with this video and the feeling of unworthiness, I want you to know that everyone is rooting for you, and the only person that can make it happen and prove that you truly do deserve it...is you.

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[twheeler]

"Trying to self improve in isolation." Broke my brain!!! Story of my life.

[leannakekai]

As a survivor of emotional abuse, I am so grateful that Mel Robbins is sharing her wisdom on this topic. I know that so many people need to hear this.

[EmpressofChrist]

The reason why you wont change is because you think you dont deserve it💞. I've felt that way for 29 yrs. It is so hard to believe in yourself and truly do it and commit to it

[bluecatblu]

Oh my God! This is me! I never seem to finish anything I start. My mum always said to me growing up and when I wanted to do something “you’ll never do that” or “ I can’t see you ever doing that” Now I’m so scared of failure I don’t try. I don’t want to prove my mother right. 😞😞

[amely]

She's telling the truth. A lot of it is our parents. Mine is or was.

[DPmusicForTheMind]

I don't think im not good enough, I just always think I could be doing more than im doing so I never feel like I deserve to be carefree/happy.

[melissabaumann]

Self confidence begins with positive self talk! Thank you, Today, I take action!

[boltoht]

This video spoke to me on a cellular level.  Thank you for posting this.

[josephzuniga]

5:03 "I don't think there's anybody in your life but you that's saying it." like WOAH

[gailarmstrong]

I’m beginning to think you are psychic Mel. Once again you have talked about the exact thing I needed to hear this week. Although I don’t feel I was in any kind of abusive relationship at any time, I did live with parents who had high expectations of me, and I now know that my ‘thing’ is that I think I must have been a disappointment to them. They never told me that, it’s a story I made for myself and am still choosing to believe it. Thank you for bringing it to the fore this morning.

[squreshi]

my mother always told me that ever since i was born, there was no blessing in her house. I constantly hear those words in my head decades later. everytime i get close to things finally working out in life- i massively self sabotage to keep myself in a state of failure. Ive pushed myself to take action before- but eventually fall back into the same pattern. Im going to watch this video everytime I start going this way- this video is a godsend!

[lolarene]

This makes perfect sense about my life. I wasn’t in a bad relationship, but I grew up with an alcoholic father and whenever he drank he would go on rants and lectures about my life and never felt good enough. I am almost 30 and I finally have come to these realizations about my thinking and past behaviors

[bethcourt]

Like Julia said in Pretty Women, the negative stuff is easier to believe.

[goat]

This literally brought tears...thank you Mel.

[melodyxu]

Hi Mel, I really needed to listen to this. I went through extensive therapy to heal from a decade of emotional and physical abuse. In order to move forward with my life, I had to cut ties with toxic people. I realized that while I'm free from those people, I still deep down feel worthless a lot of the time because of the tapes that replay when I am not performing to my best of my abilities. Since I was a child, I was constantly told that I just didn't have the talent in math and science and was not good at anything. I used to believe those lies, but through therapy I finally understood how they deeply impeded my success. After some self reflection, I figured out that I want to get into digital marketing and want to learn more about apps. At first I dealt with a lot of self doubt. I thought, "nah I can't learn how to code. I was never good at math or science. It isn't realistic." However, I pushed through the fear and signed up for an online beginning coding class! In doing so, I showed myself that I believe I can learn this new skill! Thanks for all your videos. Your Ted X talk was really inspiring!

[beam]

Thank you, Mel. And to your guest in the audience for being vulnerable, and sharing her story to help others see themselves in her place. I've got some work to do! ❤️

[snirks]

True.. Mine was "You don't deserve to have anything that I don't have" I still struggle with it. I need physical evidence that I deserve it👐🏽

[positivelight]

When I was at the gym today I did this high knee marching exercise while lifting weights above my head. While I was doing the exercise I kept envisioning the weights I was lifting above my head were my life goals. It was interesting that all of a sudden the weights felt precious and my goals felt more achievable. I mean if my goals were those weights than my goals were not that far away and were achievable. Afterall they were right there over my head and I was the one holding them. Thank you for your insightful and inspiring videos.

[nic]

I'm actually crying watching this because it's so true. I am literally just a year away from my dream job that I've worked damn hard for 8 years to get to and STILL 13 years out of a mainly emotionally abusive relationship I'm projecting on myself what he projected onto me. I thought I was over it. Clearly I still have some work to do on my self esteem! I love these videos so much. Thank you ❤

[lauralaine]

Good advice! A decade of "Spinning in Place"