10 SIGNS YOU'RE SETTLING FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE

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[tacrewgirl]

"Don’t be so concerned about being chosen that you forget to choose."

Great video. Lots of truths.

[myrna]

I always tell young people “just because they ask, doesn’t mean you have to say yes.”

[whitevsdarkasmr]

10 signs you are settling for less

1- you justify him a lot ( - but he...)
2- you don't fully accept him for who he is
3- when you're out, you have wandering eyes
4- you envy other couples
5- you fantasize about being single
6- he gives you the "ick"
7- it feels like a chore
8- they don't inspire you
9- you don't respect him (you are not excited about him)
9.5- you pity him
10- you downplay your desires

[fruitypopwhickle]

When I referred to him as "that boy over there", I knew I didn't respect him anymore. He was a man-child that sat back, forcing me to do everything. It was such a terrible experience. I'm grateful I got rid of him.

[kenniefae]

I'd rather be single and focused solely on my faith, family, friends, and self than settle for a man who doesn't impress me and complement my personality, faith, and lifestyle. ❣

[christinereider]

I lost myself, settling for someone I thought I had a genuine connection with. Never again will I lower myself for someone else's comfort. I fell too many times in the relationship that it became normalized. I was so confused why I was even doing it to myself, it didn't feel right. Allowing this man to cross my boundaries and interfere with my alone time, was one of the worst mistakes. I feel like I wasted a whole summer. No more. We leveling up from here. Thank you ma'am!

[kamrynetia]

never settle cuz you’ll regret it wasted time wasted energy

[xoxosisihere]

When you see potential but it’s not reality

[DiLLyi]

I lowered my standards and settled for someone because they were nice to me and loved me.. but i had all the signs you mentioned.. but i felt too bad to dump him because he was a good man and i should be grateful and not be picky... well after investing 17 years into it (we got together when we were teenagers), he actually left me for someone 10 yrs younger (7 months ago).. i wish i would have put myself first and had the courage to walk away with my dignity.

[marierichter]

Recently broke up with my boyfriend because I neither felt loved nor treated right. Have been doubting my decision everyday since then. Just watched this video. Every single sign applies. Jesus. When you look through rose colored glasses all the red flags really do look just like flags

[nikki]

Settling is dating online. I've had nothing but online dating/relationships and none of them workout. When the time is right you'll meet your husband out and about. Just always be prepared to meet him! 😀

[realhealing]

Justification is a problem. I used made excuses for everybody in my life who abused me. Never make excuses for bad behavior.

[cupsmics]

I almost settled for less than I want in a man because this guy is always around me, what I did is left for holidays just to think clearly and when I thought of it, I realized that’s not the man I want to be in relationship with so I called
Him and told him I’m sorry but let’s stay as friends and all this happened like few weeks ago … felt peace right after that …

[brendanana]

I totally agree with RESPECT, when you don’t respect a man you are not proud of him and the relationship makes you feel uncomfortable 😣

[halah.]

I think that sometimes we refuse to acknowledge that we're settling because the person doesn't have any outwardly aspects that make it seem like we're settling. For example they're attractive, or have a good education, they can even be kind. I think settling can happen even with good people. We can settle with someone who is good but not our person. Just my thoughts. I haven't watched the video yet 😅

[Tay-nshf]

I’ve just left a 2 year relationship after being extremely attached and this also just clarified that my decision was for the best! I had a lot of these things towards the end!

[ToraydoBull]

I lived with my totally unremarkable, uninspiring ex-bf during the lockdown and it really showed me how much I had settled for him but I chose to turn a blind eye because I thought what we had was love. It was when he abandoned me at my lowest that I began to recall myself occasionally thinking how mundane my life would be if we were going to live like this for the next 40 years of our lives. When these thoughts cross you, listen to them.

[Christianbigsister]

Yes justification is such a big sign & no more dating POTENTIALLY what they could be that’s false hope. He has to tik ALL my boxes manifesting and praying for this!! Also Love this look! Looking like a doll 😍😍💗💗🤍🤍

[claudiaismakingmusic]

also, settling is disrespecting the person in question. they don't know you don't really love them for them. im pretty sure they'd want you to leave them if they knew why you were staying. free them and yourself 💗

[thecalmingspace]

My cousin once said " I am so grateful to be chosen". I asked if she " chose" her husband and she said " after years of being rejected by men and through relationships, I don't want to choose anymore, it's more important he loves me more" . It's very fear-based. She has her daughter now, but I don't often see her really smile around him.