STOP Being a Pushover - Learn How to Stand Up for YOURSELF!

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[kendras]

I’m learning how to have a voice again. Being in an abusive relationship, I became scared to express myself, give input, ask questions, ect. I feared making them mad because I didn’t know if I’d be rejected or given the silent treatment and other punishments.

I am healing and I know I’ll move into empowerment.

[desertangelfish]

Moral of the story here folks. Know your audience and act accordingly. Recognize when you're around a toxic individual. Then put your protective armor on! It's not about being a victim and you attracted this person and who did what. Not everyone is emotionally intelligent and kind and comes from a good place.

[breakthroughmoment]

Narcissists ask questions they already know the answers to. It’s a way of baiting you into a quick response. I like the stop and not giving them an answer. Thanks, Stephanie. This was very helpful.

[ellysetaylor]

I take every situation where I have to stand up for myself as a learning opportunity. I feel the adrenaline rush and panic that always comes when I face conflict and think: good. The more I go through this, the easier it will get and my life will get a little better each time. Not all negative emotions need to have negative outcomes

[sanjeevbains]

The unhealthy people are moving out of my life - fast! It's amazing to see. What worked for me is to slowly and calmly state what my needs were and what I needed to see happen when the toxic person clearly thought it was okay to take advantage of me.

[jammyjay]

Exactly, these people don't like it when you say no....and I have had friends who have gone silent on me because I said no to them over something.... Yet these same people have said no to me.... I'm done with these types of people, I am taking care of myself 💖💖

[terriwhalen]

I was a people pleaser no more! I was the push over, no more. I am thankful. And thank you Stephanie for your hard work in making these important videos. 😊

[ChristianaSenibo]

Ultimately remember that you should be no1 priority in your life. And it’s very important to practice self awareness and be intentional about what you agree to.

[vidyam]

This is what am working on now !!!
No boundaries.... Fear of confrontation !!!!
Taking one step at a time !!!!

[hamilton]

I do stand up for myself, and I get condemned for doing so!

[fyk]

Thanks for the video, really trying to not to be a pushover, this is a long hard run since childhood with deep influence by parents, it will also take long to actually change but will keep trying.

[sueharrison]

Quite a while back I had a very negative reaction from someone I said no to and at the time I felt very guilty even though I knew I was right to say no to this person as I didn't want to do what they were asking of me. They even trashed me to others, making out I was being unreasonable which added to my feelings of guilt. It was only after watching your videos and learning so much from you Steph that I came to realise I had done nothing wrong and that this person was being manipulative and a taker, it was such a weight off my shoulders and the guilt dropped away, replaced by a feeling of inner strength that I had managed to stand up for myself at that time. This video has reminded and reinforced that understanding, thank you.

[izawaniek]

Thank you for a supportive video. Confrontation is just verbal communication.

[smallenginerepair]

I want to thank u steph from the bottom of my heart! U lead me on a journey that I never thought was possible for me and with some hard work and drive to become a happy person. I left my ex narc wife 8 months ago was married for 13 years thought it was all my fault i cant believe I stayed for so long u opened my eyes and I left her I was laying in bed 277lbs at my worst. I found lots of other videos on self improvement and now 8 months later I'm 226lbs hitting the gym and feel better than I have in years! U were sent from God THANK U 😘

[kayAc]

These are great tips, I wonder if you could give some tips on dealing with the confrontation part. I’ve dealt with people who become very nasty when I say no or set boundaries.

[JoannaCubana]

Yes girl, spot on! A friend of mine asked me if she could use my car for a couple of weeks. I barely drive it and she knew that. Instead of me just pausing my reasons of what was best for me to allow her to, I AUTOMATICALLY replied, "Sure!". She had the financial means to rent a car or take UBER, and your talk today made me aware of how reactive I can be. Thank you. ❤ BTW, she figured out a way to get around town without my car...🦋

[RonnieWisdom]

Never be afraid to assert yourself, always go with your gut, and if it doesn’t feel right do not do it! Narcissists often want you to bend to their will. Let them know that it aint happening! 😏

[openmindeduk]

I've been manipulated by almost every one I've know since childhood.
45 years later and I'm now literally all alone in life, except for Mum... I've cut all those people out of my life now, it's a tough lesson learning that people "guilt-trip" you into doing things you really would rather not do. Life is extremely lonely without "friends" especially as the only real friend I had is sadly no longer with "us". Life is certainly one big learning curve... sending you thanks from the UK Stephanie.

[TheQueensWish]

Excellent video! Many of us have been groomed from child hood to be people pleasers. In adult hood we need to realize our bit in this habitual pattern and begin to recognize that inner people pleaser coming out. Stop the pattern in small baby steps as suggested. Say, “I’m not sure, I’ll think about it.” Even saying these few small words aloud gives strength to your inner self and puts you first, not them.

[luvyatubers]

I will say no but if person starts in instantly wanting to know why and try talking me into it. By trying to make me feel sorry for them etc. It doesn't feel good to me. I don't want to answer. The awkwardness where they are angry and Im feeling bad even tho I know I come first is so unfun