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[jayantonie]

Shout out to the men that had to deal with this

[loriderewitz]

Anoushka, this is a lesson you taught me from the very beginning. I was with him for 30 years and now it’s been over 3 years that I’ve been free so now that mental list I wrote of the pros and cons is ingrained in my head. When I find myself thinking I miss him, I recall that list so I can remind myself that it’s not him I miss but the fake person he showed me while he went about destroying me. This is how I realize it’s not him I miss but the need for a true love is what I’m needing. That’s when I snap myself out of it, realize what he gave me was truly nothing but pain and continue to put one foot in front of the other toward truly loving myself without needing another’s approval to be whole. Thank you so much for these lessons learned. I use them day after day to move forward. 💞

[lyniroquai]

I can't think of hardly any nice things that I can put on the pros list! The cons list is never ending 🤣🙌

[juanderuano]

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

[CraveevarC]

Thank you so much. I will do my damnest to get through this. Whatever it takes. She is not worth my pain I feel.

[tuxtux]

Great idea - I made a list and timeline of everything she did to me that was cruel with evil intentions. Every time I think I miss her I look at the list and I realise why I don’t like her anymore

[silverarrow]

I agree totally with this I actually wrote the list before I decided to leave but I still have days when I miss her despite all the negative and cruel things she did... its such a weird feeling ... my rational self says I did the right thing but despite the facts I have to force my self not to want to contact her.

[DawidRogusz-bbkn]

Thank you so much. I just found out there is such a thing as trauma bond. it's very helpful for me to understand what's going on with me. I feel like I'm high and in rehab at the same time. it's really messing with my head.

[jessieschatz]

So true.. I have to write it down.. Both sides. It hurts so bad thinking about all the bad things because I've tried to justify every single one of them but I have to do it. Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes. There's so much trauma and I really have to go through it all. Thank you so much Anoushka!

[AL-ppyy]

10 years with my ex. They left the area which has made it a little easier. It’s been six weeks no physical contact but a few texts initiated by them. But there is no going back. I like this suggestion and will give it a try. Thank you.

[elsie]

I'm going to do the lists tonight when the kids are in bed. This is a great idea.

[Lailob]

Thank you for this video, again. I have had to unfollow some pages and channels about NPD because they end up going too far to the point where they post videos talking about "How to make the Narcissist suffer", "What makes the narcissist think of you?".... For me, that only makes me obssess over the possibility of things changing for the better, of him reaching out, hoovering me one more time, and it is honestly mentally harmful. I have been fighting with my head and thoughts for over a year now while I struggle to keep NC, but I seem to fall back into the darkness of my mind and obsses over this person and it is, personally, torture. So, listening to this explanations and reminding myself that the abuse was real, the most difficult thing at least for me: reminding myself, making myself believe I am not the problem, I am enough and it wasn't my fault, has really helped me a lot. So thank you again!

[nissmone]

i wish someone had given me this advice during my process of healing maybe wouldnt had taken so much time. i had to find my way everytime i was in a difficult moment i just kept me seeing videos and videos of narcissism to bring me back to the reality. im over it now but i became passionated by all subjects of psychologie. im living a new moment in my life now

[ianunlimited]

I just watch your videos when that happens….. still ghosting biblically silence and distance are the key ….. I try to pretend she never existed and I have felt the best I have in years …… everything seems to be great for me once I built up the courage to leave the toxic never ending drama filled emotional roller coaster through hell that I was living in …… something changes and even though you might think of them you know you could never go back

[shawners]

Thank you, Anoushka. You're very helpful. At the beginning of this video you explained EXACTLY how I'm feeling. The times I miss her, the times i think about how she could do the things she did to me, etc. It's exactly how you said. It's just so hard to wrap my head around everything that's happened and I've honestly NEVER in my life experienced something so painful. I never thought something like this would happen to me. I'm even having to see a therapist over this for the first time in my life. You know, there are a lot of times where I want to reach out to my wife so bad it feels like torture. It's an indescribable experience. Thank you for making the videos you do. They have been very helpful helping me to understand what happened, what to expect, and what I can do that will help.

[AliceD.Pittman]

Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.

[christinefury]

Yes! Pros and cons! I do it with everything! My Mother taught me this!

[KvonD]

Pretend in your mind the person DIED. As they weren't real anyway.

[sll]

Yes, this really works, the truth really awaken me before, Thank you 😘

[bobyk]

Writing is great cause it will help you take it out of your mind. Start a diary. Poetry is great if you like. If you like music, write a song. It'll lighten yo burden, it might be possible to create something, which other people could relate to. Don't try to be perfect, just release. The idea is to try to take those experiences and feelings out, into some piece of art. With time improve it if you like. This has been working out for me. Great channel. Cheers.