Things Not To Say To Someone With Cancer

Of all the challenges you might face after a cancer diagnosis, the reactions of those around you might seem low on the list. So what's the best thing to say? Well, it seems that, as with most things, timing is key.

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[piphraraspangons]

Let the guy in the white shirt talk! He was quiet throughout the video, then when he had his moment at 2:59, BAM it was snatched away.

[serinat]

Bless the guy in the white shirt, you could tell he really wanted to speak at 2:59

[Ollie-ogwv]

uncomfortable how the girl in the red shirt is speaking over the guy next to her

[ZhenweiWangLover]

3:00 made me cringe... she didn't let him talk wtf

[Feliciatanktop]

Dude with the white shirt wants to talk so bad

[delaneym.]

"How long do you have left?!" Well if everything goes as planned about 50-60 years? Not every cancer is terminal.

[chloebarnes]

These 'What not to say' videos are honestly so informative & helpful. Thank you for making them!

[MistyRoxes]

It was really annoying to me when the lady in red interrupted the guy in the creme colored shirt when he was trying to talk let the damn guy talk

[Harry-hdwn]

Super honoured to have been able to take part and share my experience in this and hopefully help others understand a bit more. The truth is, when it comes to cancer, there is no right or wrong answer (or question in this case). We understand that sometimes it is difficult to know what to say/ask. Just don't beat around the bush, if our wisdom can help others who are worried about/going through cancer then we are humbled to help. That's what humanity is all about. Appreciate the lovely kind comments already :)

[wackity.]

I feel bad that I feel almost desensitized to cancer. My mum got diagnosed when me and my twin were 4, now we are nearly adults and she's still here keeping us healthy and moving. I don't think I've ever really sat down enough and appreciated what she went through, or what consequences she still has to cope with. For those of you wanting a success story, my mother got told she had a 5% chance of surviving into the near future when diagnosed, other than a leg with dead nerve endings (meaning that walking is hard for her. She requires a stick and has a disability badge to put in my dad's car) she is alive, and hopefully happy. (She's got two shitty teenage twins)

[TheChickenRiceBowl]

Things Not To Say To A Child Abuse Survivor pleeeease!

[thekawaiicripple]

I'd love if you could do a "things not to say to someone with a chronic illness" or "things not to say to someone who uses a wheelchair" <3

[callmecrybaby]

what the hell she didn't even let him talk at 3:00 he barely got a chance to talk wtf??

[welovemichaeljacksonr.i.po]

I have a big chance of having cancer, so thankyou for making me smile

[BradMcDee]

Both me and my mom were diagnosed with lymphoma (6 months apart at that). This video was phenomenal, we're both laughing way too hard at this!

[markshepherd]

What about the people that always come out with " smoke some weed, it's shown to cure cancer"

[Catqueen-lkeq]

My Teacher Had Cancer and was given six months to live and here she is five yrs later. Strong and most importantly Alive.

[ShirleyLestrade]

“Saying nothing is also good.” 👏 👏 👏 yes sir it is

[totestazz]

I feel alone during treatment, this is extremely supportive thankyou ❤️ reminds me that I am not alone or have to change my behavior towards others who are less informed

[mossychaossystem]

I'm happy to share a success story! My uncle had testicular cancer. He went through chemotherapy, and hormone therapy, and he finally beat it awhile back. He's healthy and happy with 2 kids. He has new allergies and stuff but he is alright with them!