If You've Been Abandoned, Do This

Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, and Speaker. She was born with a range of extrasensory abilities and is a survivor of severe childhood abuse. Today she uses her gifts as well as her own harrowing life experience to inspire millions of people towards authenticity, freedom, and joy and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pain.

The result when people are restored to wholeness is that the world will be restored to wholeness. Teal Swan's teachings invite people to step fully into their authenticity, knowing that this will bring about the positive change that we want to see in the world.

[Marcycat]

People today act like it's abnormal to be close.

[Sunny_ichrak]

the fact that abbandoned people attract just people who are not available to be close to them, its even a paradox

[Mandapandax]

Me and my husband have those. WE were both emotionally abused and abandoned. We do everything together ❤

[butterflytiffany]

I loveeee seeing those businesses where it’s 2 partners together 😭 it’s so beautiful they often compliment one another so well

[yashinaka]

I have this in my husband. He's made himself a place I call home. He's been consistent for over 20 years. Never changes, (unless it's to become better), never lies, is always kind, always giving and always there. I was so clingy in the beginning, and I'm not now. I don't need to be. She's right.

[PersonalArtWorkshop]

Here I am, the most anxious attached person I know, alone in an apartment trying to heal. This is wonderful to hear!

[tomevans]

Fascinating. My wife and I grew apart, I was helping homeless, food water hygiene, and I found that females were not wanting me near them at all. I told my wife and she said I’ll go with you. We have gotten so much closer, hand out 6 to 8 bags every other day.
Hit Starbucks sometimes on the way and talk. Beautiful.

[sagular]

This is precisely how genuine love can be healing, there is no paradox.

[ThePojengsidur]

That is also what we need to give to OUR children, not give them to strangers to ignore at 3 months old. Children need to be with their parents and families in absolute closeness. And they will thrive, because they have their needs met ❤

[geoffreyokrongly]

That sounds great. What I have observed is that people with abandonment issues create self fulfilling prophecies. Wherein they drive their partners away until they are abandoned again.

[nenahanderson]

Alot of people think they need to be alone to heal, i knew it wasnt because ive done it. Now i need closeness&snuggles and some think its needy asf but its normal reaction &emotion. Thankyou for this reel

[shannonwheeler]

Being single nineteen years, I'm terrified of getting close again!

[soundseeker]

She speaks complete sense.
What's problematic is that in this dimension of "mirroring", people who were abondoned as children are going to attract further situations where the will be abondoned again and again and again, to the point where many will have no option but to completely close the door on closeness with others because they just continue to get re-traumatised in the same way repetitively no matter what they do.... now THAT is the paradox part. The very nature of this dimension is the paradox.

[jesswisdom]

My husband and I did this, and together, we are healing, growing, and expanding exponentially. I feel blessed beyond measure to walk by his side through this magical ride every day ♡

[NLTops]

The problem is, I thought I found that person. And then they abandoned me. And it hurt worse than when my parents neglected/abandoned me. So yes, I'm learning to give people their space. I wouldn't mind getting closer to someone. But I feel like they would mind.

[M.M-tu]

I've been trying the opposite and trying my best to stop being needy... But it kills me inside.. I really tried my best, meditating, doing all kinds of things to distract myself. Even sitting with the feelings (which was more of a lying on the floor and sobbing while being tormented by the feelings). I still feel like dying a thousand times when someone I like needs space. So maybe I should start accepting that I'm a needy person and that I need tons of attention, validation, time and love 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Emotionally_Mature]

Manifesting a loving partner who also agrees with this! Thank you, Teal! 🙏🏾🙂‍↕️☮️🧘🏾‍♂️

[turquoisetoile-universalethics]

This is a really radical idea🎉. What a breath of fresh air. I'm dealing with a woman right now where I wish I could just plant myself in front of her and say, "what in the world do you want? More than anything in the world I want a friend that I can be with every day." The statement that you make helps me feel vindicated about the guilt I feel every day about being needy. This woman might not be a person to meet my needs but maybe my needs aren't so shameful?🎉 I feel vindicated.

[chairmansservices]

This is exactly what I did. 100%. It changed my life. It was an amazing 25 years until that beautiful man passed. ❤

[chelly]

All family ever told me was “better learn to love yourself or no one else is going to”
Led to where I am now, isolated, feeling as though I am too flawed for anyone to possibly love me until I figure out “how to love myself more”…. 💔💔💔