Toxic Positivity is Annoying and Gaslighting!

Don’t dismiss or minimize your true experience and feelings. Acknowledge them and address them so you can solve the problem to find the answer to move forward. It’s ok to realize the issue to find the solution.

[bluexblondebaby]

Yes! My coworker does this, it’s important to not always see the negative but don’t hide the problems under fake bs.

[kilipakioritahiti]

YAAAS! So tired of toxic positivity. It's not normal to always be happy, positive, and never feel or have negative emotions. Very toxic and invalidating. Especially as a trauma survivour of bullying and abuse, who's suicidal, but also been fighting anxiety and depression for the past 10 years. Thank you for talking about this<3 Love from Norway to you my fellow Asian, gender non conforming, POC, and hairdresser, The Best at color! Happy pride!

[adiposeNarnian]

The worst is people who say "positive vibes only!" But they really just mean "i only want your sound me when you're happy".

[clayfeathers]

Guy Tang is a great hair artist and singer. And he’s correct here. Toxic Positivity is very close to being delusional about reality.

[alimccreery]

Thank you for sharing, I’m absolutely on board with how dangerous and damaging this is to someone who needs validation that when they explain that they are being mentally and physically abused. I’m totally against toxic positivity 👍

[MsEJMcLaren]

It's even worse when you've been taught to do this to yourself as a "coping mechanism" and that talking about pain and mental illness is going to make it worse. I'm still learning in my 40s the therapeutic benefits of venting and not being artificially positive with the people around me.

[YoungDymisty]

This is the exact issue I have and see all the time it’s like they see everything through rose coloured glasses to the point where anything that’s negative doesn’t exist to them so they don’t think your problems are that bad. And because I have a toxic family and whenever I try and talk about my issues with people this is how they talk to me and it makes me feel like my feelings aren’t validated or important enough to be heard. I’m constantly being compared and told that I’m attention seeking and I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill when my whole life you’re taught not to talk about your problems or express how you feel which is incredibly dangerous and why so many of us have mental health problems. Then the irony is as soon as you end your life that’s when everybody comes out saying oh we should’ve done this we should’ve done that. That’s why I encourage people to talk about what they’ve been through especially men because they’re often told suck it up be a man and it’s not fair on them they’re human too.

[Apachemiwokmexican]

Toxic Positivity isn't reality. I should know with my CPTSD and being taken advantage of twice.

[sarahtorres]

You're hair!? Woah! Yeah toxic positivity and gaslighting is a serious issue when's there's no healthy boundaries.

[etherealone]

SO TRUE. people mean well but sometimes they minimize struggles.

[TheFocalProjectMusicProduction]

Excellent! 💎 Thank you so much for making this video ❤ Mel Robbins wrote a book called, 'Quit Saying You're Fine'. It's all about how it's important to first acknowledge where in your life improvement would be beneficial. 📘

[hartleyb]

THANK YOU!!! People who do this are the worst!

[Beavers]

Amen, I used to be like that now I’m like screw you. I’m gonna do my job. I’m gonna go home that’s it.

[MiaCarter]

Yes it's dismissive! I understand that some people cant deal with reality but sheesh.

[ninawhiskers]

I can't stand toxic positivity!! Especially when you're trying to get counseling to process and heal from trauma, and all they want to do is talk about breath work and shame you with the toxic positivity.

[sirdeadlock]

We live in a time that has the Americans With Disabilities Act, where many mental health discussions are related to various protected classes of people. In this way, an employer is at risk for punishing some behaviors and mental health discussions, which provides a sense of security in breaking down thoughts and exploring wellness options. Whereas in the past, discussing these thoughts or seeking help may have resulted in unemployment or shunning by a community's businesses, which makes it difficult to keep living.
So by changing the rules of the economy, people changed the normative behaviors of mental health.

[HUGLF]

Oh yeah thts like my cousin right there .. fr.. good advice guy❤

[girlie]

everything i needed to express but had no words

[TARAdubbleyuu]

There was a Black Mirror episode in which a mother wanted to “protect” her daughter from negative and potentially scary/dangerous things by implanting a device that pixelated anything that caused “negative” emotions. The child became disconnected and sociopathic. It was a pretty interesting take on this issue.

And yes, we need to wipe our asses with all this “TP” lol 😂

[DrinkYourNailPolish]

Eugenia Cooney is notorious for that. Like ppl who legit care for her and will say things like "I'm really worried abt you, I want you to be healthy" she will accuse them of being negative or call them a hater. She only wants ppl who affirm her that she looks great eventhough she is engaging in self harm.