THIS is Gaslighting!

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[Katimorton]

Has this happened to you? Share your story in the comments.

[MintyCow]

“we never hit you, if we did you were a bad child”
“we’ve never called you stupid stop making up stories!”
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[liinav.]

big thanks to every therapist out there who puts out help for free! because not everyone can pay for therapy, and free content like this actually saves their lives.

[grimmpseudonym]

Both of my parents are abusive narcissists. Their favorite phrases are "that never happened", "you don't know what you are talking about", "I never said that".

[CYSYS]

Gaslighting has made me a perfectionist in paying attention and listening skills.

[staborama]

"Just trust wifey."
She always said that. She always wanted me to go by what she told me.
"I love you."
But the actions didn't match. If you love me, why does it feel like you hate me? Why do I feel like nothing more than an accessory to your life, unworthy of having opinions unless they're shared by you already?
"I love you."
Why, then, are you constantly exposing me to things you know trigger me? Why do you refuse to talk to me about this life we 'share'?
I'm taking ownership of myself this year. Just 3 weeks away from her, and therapy is helping so much more. It's harder than ever, but I'm no longer uncertain about reality. No longer fighting ghosts. No longer trying to deal with your amateur extra diagnosis of my condition. I'll trust my therapist and doctor and my own eyes and ears from now on. I'm me, and I'm mine. No one else's.

[allisoneuph]

This is my dad. I’m still living with my parents and it’s been horrific. Hoping to move out soon. Y’all aren’t alone. ❤️

[alolune]

my mom gaslights me.. she's done it for years and I never thought that it can be a way of control and making me rely on her. because I grew up needing to and it's made me lag behind in life :( this really opened my eyes to how harmful it is

[perfumaphilia]

My ex-boyfriend did this to me and I'm not sure he even realized he was doing it. I've always wondered whether he was a sociopath and a narcissist.

[ShelleyG]

I was gaslighted in every romantic relationship I’ve had with a man. 🧐 I’m finally making a fresh start to understand myself so my next one will be healthy for me and him🙃

[mernatoni]

Someone I've been friends with for 13 years has done this to me since we were 6, and we are 20 now. I was sexually assaulted, and I told her about it, and she acknowledged that it happened. One day when we were together, the situation came up in conversation, and she asked me why I didn't make the guy who assaulted me use a condom. I confronted her about this later. I asked her how the hell I can force someone to use a condom while they're raping me, and she said that I never told her he raped me, which is a crazy fucking lie. She proceeded to say that I told her I had sex with him and then regretted it, and that sometimes people have sex and they regret it. I honestly never realized how messed up this was until I typed it out and read it just now.

[natashagrayson]

I grew up with two narcissist parents and still don’t trust my own memory. I could be telling a story and question myself in the middle, “Wait- did it really happen like that? Maybe I am remembering wrong.” It’s terrible.

[AugustAdvice]

This is something my mom always did when I was growing up and still tries to do to me til this day. She would always invalidate things like say, "I never said that." or "That never happened. You're crazy." when I brought up certain arguments or certain horrible things she had said.

[megannicole]

Gaslighting, from my experience, is when you try to communicate concerns and he says something along the lines of, "You're just being anxious. That's not real or rational. I know I didn't do that. What you think is your own fault." I literally developed a situational anxiety disorder (GAD) because of my last relationship. I made it out, and I'm thankful for what I've learned, but it was tough as hell.

[gailbird]

Mine use to gaslight me and when I started to stand up for myself I was told if I did not shut up he was going to call the police right now and have me put in a mental institution and locked up until he decided to let me out. I gave him the phone and said call. Always be true to you even if your scared, you will soon learn it’s not you

[krislee]

If this person is your parent? How do you get out? As an adult, I find myself struggling to leave because of guilt and thinking maybe I am overreacting? And what if this person goes from two extremes of uplifting, motivating, and being your best friend, to emotional abuse?

[thislove]

I've met too many people like this like my ex. People take advantage of nice people. I'm glad I'm a free thinker. I'm done with these people though. Any sign of abuse and I am gone.

[ChiaraSupernova]

This video was posted at the perfect time. I just made the decision less than a week ago that I am leaving my emotionally abusive significant other. He spent 3 1/2 years tearing down my self esteem, controlling who I saw/where I went, manipulating me with guilt and shame, telling me what a piece of shit I am, and to sum it all up--gaslighting me. I don't know why it sent me over the edge, but he started putting me down in front of someone he used to have sex with and he knows I have huge insecurities about. I was caught off guard and couldn't believe it was happening, but in that moment I snapped out of whatever spell I was under and I somehow got this little bit of strength and went to the store that day to buy moving boxes. I'll be leaving in two weeks to go back to my parents house and reevaluate my life and where I should go from here. To those who are suffering, I understand what you are going through and I understand how hard it is to leave and I don't judge you for staying because there were a million times I should have left. All I can say is I hope you find the strength to leave someday <3

[yuhongbai]

My mom basically forced me to get into dental school, then spent the last five years telling me that I was the one who wanted to get in.

[RJ_Ehlert]

In the last couple years I've come to understand that my mother's side of the family had been using a combination of Childhood Emotional Neglect and Gas-lighting my whole life. My mother and her two sisters would call each other every day to affirm how great they were and problems they faced were always people from outside the family being bad.

They always told me that family was the most important thing in the world. I did anything and everything that was asked of me for them as a child and young adult, because I thought that was required to be a good moral person.

After becoming a father myself, I finally was the one who needed help from my family. They basically said no at every opportunity. When I was beginning to unravel C.E.N. as an adult, understanding why I always was so critical of myself and felt deep shame, like I was never good enough, like I was different than other people, my mother's family would always tell me I was wrong about how I saw everything.

When I tried to set boundaries, they threw tantrums. When I asked them to apologize for accidentally hurting my feelings, they refused and told me my feelings were wrong.

Every family get together, which was at least a dozen times a year, they would talk each other up about how they were the best family around. They would often say that outsiders were so envious of the love and support they gave each other. Eventually I realized that they would never treat me as an adult, respect me or my decisions, and would ignore every boundary I tried to set for me and my son.

Eventually I had to cut them out of my life. They remind me every time they can about how sad I've made them all, and how I threw away decades of love because of "one" argument.

To this day I often finding myself second guessing, if I made up all this emotional trauma, and they never did anything wrong to me.

If it wasn't for the support of my friends, I would fall into the gas-lighting again. I'm comfortable and enjoy spending time with my life long friends in ways I never did with my mother's side of the family. My friends are a safe place where I can feel like myself and be accepted. My mother's family would shame me if I ever stepped out of line.