Overcoming the Fear of Love | Trillion Small | TEDxSMUWomen

[slhx]

whenever im not talking to anyone, i want to be in a relationship. when im close to being in one, i start to panic and push the person away and sabotage myself. idk how to stop feeling like this ugh.

[indigo_dreamz]

LOVE didn't hurt, abuse, or leave you.. It was the PERSON that you loved that did those things to you.
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[Weekendwavves]

2 lessons from this
1. Be vulnerable
2. There is no shame in trying.
It's ok to be vulnerable and accept love♥️

[bobbobbo]

It's not love that scares me. What scares me is the chance of being betrayed or cheated on, or be abandoned because they fell in love with someone else when you promised to be forever. I've seen so many examples of this that I'm scared of trusting people will be good and loyal

[Mira-wcix]

Its me. I am that person that pushes everyone away. Youtube is shady for recommendin this

[mlambalulu]

I get panic attacks when I develop feelings for someone.

[ladyantronette]

At age 12 my mom told me all a man will do is hurt you, I'm 56 two children and never married, her words still haunt me and she is dead and gone but her words are still follows through every relationship I have, I've been sabotaged in love by a woman who never experienced love herself.

[staciadenyce]

When she started talking about her dad I cried, I wasn’t even aware of how damaged I felt

[tamannasyed]

She deserves way more applause and a stronger crowd. What a beautiful and helpful concept. Do not be afraid to experience love <3

[trentonwilliamson]

The girls of my past definitely had a fear of being loved. All of them only knew violent and emotionally abusive relationships. Sometimes I wish videos about self help, openly expressing emotions and loving ourselves were more common. We all want love, but sometimes the "what if" monster comes creeping in and messing everything up. Thank you for the video!

[helenarosno]

I’ve never been in a relationship and grew up in an awesome family, but for some reason I’m terrified at the thought of being in a romantic relationship

[spottieottiedopalisciousan]

I feel attacked that this ended up in my recommended, but it’s necessary because I do fear love. It’s something I’m persistently trying to overcome because I do want to love freely and receive love freely. ❤️

[ebonyhinton]

This was amazing. She gave us personal experience, emotion, neuroscience and spirituality... So glad I stumbled in to this. Truly liberating expression.

[victoriamkheyan]

She definitely deserves better audience!!

[xdivaokurrratsymbol]

So in other words: take responsibility for your insecurities and don't project those things onto people you don't know that well. It is unfair and completely irrational to believe the person standing in front of you that you just met is at all the same person that abused you in the past.

[dohaemad]

My trust issues are ruining my youth and this terrifies me, I don’t want to end up alone but once someone gets any close, my guards immediately find their way up and I keep pushing them away then hate myself for them leaving. I don’t want to get attached to anyone because getting attached to anyone means giving them the power to hurt me by leaving and the cycle goes on.

[jacknichols]

I can truly say that watching this has changed my life for the better. It made me realise things that I had been hiding from myself for a long, long time. Firstly, I was in fact afraid of love and intimacy. Secondly, deep down, I knew exactly why. Thirdly, I knew all along exactly what I had to do about it, and strangely enough, it didn't actually end up being that hard to do. Thank you Trillion for your brave and honest talk.

[ray]

*love didn't hurt you it didn't abuse you it didn't leave you, it is the person you loved that did all that*
wow, such powerful words

[Omangozika]

I found myself being drawn to unavailable men, I attracted broken and dismissive men until I took a journey within myself and I discovered I was doing myself, started dating my boyfriend and the first week, I had a panic attack because he was everything I’ve always wanted and needed, I had to gradually talk myself and still talking myself out of it . Thanks for this

[aamu]

who else has father issues?😅 I usually crush on guys that are totally unaittanable and when there is a guy that has a crush on me I'm totally perplexed and run away from him