STOP people pleasing forever by doing these 3 things

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To be honest with you, I don't want to do that at all. But uh, if it makes you happy, I'm all about pleasing yourself. I'm down to do it. Please. Like just give me a, give me a little more of that, that validation and that approval. I just get off to it. So good. Ow that kind of hurts. Like I said, please, please like me. Just me. Okay. Please. People pleasing isn't going to get you very far. It's a never ending rabbit hole that you just continue to go down. And in this video I'm going to show you how to finally stop people pleasing, how to take your power back and how in a way to really show up in the world as who you're meant to be.

Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now I'm going to share with you how to not be a people pleaser. No Mo you have, you have had it up to here and you are ready to say, yo, I got to take my power back. I gotta have boundaries. I don't need to make you happy for me to be happy. And here's the, here's the dirty secret about being a people pleaser. By the way too, you want to hear a secret here is people pleasing is a shadow mechanism.

It is a shadow part of ourselves that is trying to gain the approval of other people because we believe deep down that we don't have value for just being us. And the key to this is realizing that that's a barrier. Keeping other people from knowing the real you, even if the real you is a little bit blunt, even if the real you has a quirky sense of humor is says things on their mind.

So this is a way that uh, a way that you are blocking other people from getting to know the real you. Let me tell you something. The real you is probably freaking cool. It's probably way cooler than the people pleaser version of you. You just don't know it yet because you haven't, you haven't been able to express that part of you. So first off, let me say, I am a recovering people pleaser.

There. I said it. Okay, I got this off my chest. I used to be a people pleaser until I realized that it wasn't so fun. I mean, I used to work a sales commission job, so pretty much my job was to please other people by, by providing them shoes that they could then buy. Worked at Nordstrom's for years and then a place called Barneys New York for years, and it was my job to do to do that, but I realized that in a way I actually got some type of sense of value from it, like a sense of worthiness from it.

I was like, I'm adding value. I'm pleasing, therefore I'm worthy. And that's what I realized as I started to do more shadow work. Now, first off, let me share this with you as well. People pleasing is normally a side effect of guests that you barely saw right here, parent pleasing. If growing up you had very critical parents, they were telling you what to do, they reprimanded you a lot, or you had to gain their love in some way.

What you may find is that then that pattern after they're not, they're not, you know, you're not in the same house as them anymore. You're then in relationships and then you'll find it that you're trying to make them happy and you're trying to please them and maybe that's taken away your own happiness as well because you may be doing things you don't really want to do.

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[MichaelDennis]

One of the easiest ways I've found to stop people pleasing and seeking approval is this: when you meet someone, instead of thinking "how can I get this person's approval?", think "how can THIS PERSON get MY approval?" -- remember that YOU are the star of your own movie and everyone else just makes cameos💫✌️

[wisdom-for-all]

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner” [Lao Tzu]. People pleasing is rooted in fear and is focused on earning love. Real love does not accommodate fear 😊

[TruthTalk]

Moral of the story
1. Know your worth 💰
2. Don’t use others to validate you 💪
3. Your external identity Is NOT your reality🧘🏻‍♂️
4. Practice unconditional love ❤️
5. Balance your masculine and feminine 🌊

[vershonc]

Once you stop pleasing other people, you make it easier to manifest anything that you desire. Please yourself and work within and it shall reflect on the outside. Peace 🙏🏽

[zooz]

-be yourself
-please yourself
-seek approval from yourself
-not care what others think of you

This is how I stopped people pleasing

[moonpleiades]

People pleasing is a big hurdle and realization for abused/neglected kids and empaths. It's also a big deal and brave to admit that we are people pleasers. Lots of people try to take advantage of our kindness. Remember, number one is the most important. Great video! Lots of us need to hear this.

[ashleyconway]

Kindness is not the same as niceness. Much deeper, eternal

[darhmakarma]

Aaron, thank you, I just had an epiphany, and tears rolled down my cheeks. I just realized why I had three failed marriages on top of many other failed relationships. All my life, I was a people pleaser and when I dared to be me the relationships wouldn’t last. Well that’s it, it’s over, for the rest of my life I will be me and nothing else. I doesn’t mean that I’ll be rude but I’ll stick to who I really am. No more Mr. Nice Guy. I’m reclaiming my own power and taking my own course now. Thank you again.

[hannah.jane]

Women Who Run With the Wolves is such an incredible book that helped me heal my deep mother wounds from an abusive/narcissistic mother ❤️ And healing this taught me boundaries and self worth which in turn eliminated the people pleasing patterns that I was programmed with xx

[noelkinz]

"It's not that i hate or dislike people in general.

I just value my time and energy so much that I've decided how to respond & when respond.

[clapton]

The greatest horror of a people pleaser is when his help is not needed.

[nattyybee]

One day I made the decision to stop craving my parent's love and just accept what is. Since then, I gave myself that love and discovered thats where true love comes from.

I also saw my parental conditioning patterns within my relationships. My parents didn't promote my self expression and many times halted it. I attracted relationships where I didn't feel seen or heard, and couldn't be myself. Amazing once you make the associations and break out of the pattern.

[warriorsamongstmen]

You are either letting the matrix drain your energy, or you are using that energy to create

[brightbeatrice]

I have always felt as though I am responsible for over people happiness (my parents, friends ect). But actually I just need to focus on how I am impressing myself!

[MeditatewithAbhi]

Validation and approval seeking is conditioned into our subconscious mind between the ages of 1 to 7 and we will live our whole life being people pleasers to get the validation. Awareness is the Key ! :) Namaste and Love

[Kennedyop]

Needed this. Quite synchronistic that this popped into my inbox actually lol

[JulianSymonsPhoto]

Its took me till recently to finally start getting out of the trap of being a people pleaser. I'm now gaining my independence, doing my own thing and as you say, starting to become the star of my own movie.

Keep up the good work, your videos have helped me massively!

[smileyface]

We cannot save anyone from themselves, but you can give them encouragement. I also am a people-pleaser, and I know that it doesn't work. People take advantage more and more and lose all respect for you. Thank you for pointing this out to me. What I got out of it was thinking that I was the better person, thereby shoring up the ego.

[lillianp]

My parents adopted a special needs boy when I was 7 and ever since then I felt like I had to be the perfect kid to make up for his behavior. It surfaced the other day when I said something minor that upset my mom and I burst into tears from guilt. It’s crazy how it’s coming to light now. Thank you for this video 💕

[AndreyZenperial]

Being a “nice guy” isn’t the most fair approach your your mental health and spirituality😌