how to approach someone...

Get ready with me before I attend The Met's date night! Please take my tips and tricks as a grain of salt for you all have your own personalities that I have no doubt shine brightly on their own. Just in case you're having trouble sharing you light for others to see; I hope my video can help.

00:00 - Intro
01:32 - Confidence and Intentions
03:17 - Tip #1
04:12 - Tip #2
04:43 - Meaningful Components
05:31 - Tip #3
05:59 - Down Payment
06:46 - Finishing Getting Ready
07:39 - Pie Theory
09:07 - Good Luck

Until next week my romantics!!

[Tipsicc]

asking someone out rubs me the wrong way. I dont like the concept of going up to someone just to get there number just to see if you would date them or not. id rather naturally start talking to someone. maybe i need to get over myself idk


7:35 Stunning btw ✨

[michaelcueva]

I admire your boldness. The thing I try to do myself as a guy when anxiety and adrenaline heightens is to just do it. Because the pain of regret is just too unberable than the pain of stumbling over your words or embarassingly expressing yourself to someone. Express yourself boldly doesn't matter if you get rejected or not, what matters is you had the courage to do so.

[hcock]

just want to say that your videos are awesome and engaging and i agree with a lot of the points you have.

a couple months ago i decided to cold-approach a girl in one of my classes that i thought was cute, and we’ve been talking ever since and my life has gotten much better as i get to know her. its really crazy how daunting of a task it seems to start a conversation and it’s mad anxiety inducing, but a venture taken is a lesson gained and all your advice rings very true. keep making these awesome videos, they’re special!

[chiphamtran]

starting a conversation is giving a chance for a connection, not TO CHANGE ✨the trajectory of my life ✨. So true bestie

[Dziv]

There is a girl at my office and we have been looking at each other for almost a year, none of us has made a move, but I feel a mutual attraction. I think something that connects us is our fashion interest. There were only two times that we talked for a while and it was because I gave her a compliment on her outfit, those interactions were so natural and just great.

I finally decided to ask her out and this video appeared on my youtube. I'll keep your advice in mind when talking to her, I think she comes back from vacation next week, so I'll be waiting for her these days.


The thing is that when you already know there is a subtle connection with the other person, you can just relax trust that the interaction is going to flow in a good manner.

I'm so excited haha

[eclipse_]

Every time I watch these videos I say to myself "Man Lucy is so cool" 😭
Really tho, you're such a cool person, and such a real person, and your words and authenticity are vastly appreciated :) 💛

[yomulv]

this video is super useful, especially the point about intentions and lowering the pressure of the interaction, i love the way you articulate yourself and your mix of self-confidence and consideration for the person being approached is really inspiring! wishing you the best with your future romantic (or platonic) endeavours✨

[camillerosanslay]

at my job i keep telling someone i liked his shirt and that his style looked nice, and then i pulled a way a bit and let him approach me, a few days later he for the first time initiated a conversation with me. im going to keep slowly working at him since he seems receptive and i think he's handsome, small but positive interactions like these help a lot, and though he doesn't seem to get that i like him slowly it seems he's moving towards me more regularly, i agree with your other video that these attractions can take time to build, and should, so for now i relish the small moments that i get to smile at him and how he never breaks eye contact when we talk

[spicyvro]

really cute and insightful perspective to bring to this topic, , , this is advice i will always remember !

[KobeBeefBryan]

I’m a big flirt, so when we make eye contact, I usually smile and wink first. I find it cute and it tends to lower her guard before I make my move with a joke or a compliment—depending on how I read her energy of course. 😏 The key is not taking yourself too seriously.

[ImmanuelAlvarez]

I havent watched the whole thing, but every video off your tiktok are bangers, i know your youtube videos wont let me down. 😊

[nicolasyang]

Timing on this video release is crazy bro

[小馨馨-qx]

Something I’d like to share is that I went to a coffee shop and a guy walked in and sat the opposite seat in front of me and he a wore a green sweater and blue jeans which is exactly what I’m wearing and I got curious so I intentionally put my feet a little in the front when he went to the bathroom and when he came back he “accidentally kicked me” I looked at him but he didn’t notice it but after awhile I sent him a note saying “ good luck with whatever you are studying but you kicked my new shoes :(“ and asked me if it was dirty and apologized but hey I was nervous sending it but that’s something about love it’s either you start it or they start it, sometimes it might even become a magical moment but haha unfortunately it was meant nothing, although I got more confident in approaching people I genuinely I like

[alexsanimeart]

From a guy's perspective, the whole creep thing is about avoiding getting me too'd. There's a lot of stuff on social media that makes a guy view it as he's bothering the woman by approaching her. People have to separate the Internet from reality, but the conditioning is strong

[solidcestlavie]

You legit made the most adorable face when you said you were going on a date with yourself 😍

[thejazzcolossal]

wow… genuinely i’ve never seen this perspective on cold approach and it is definitely insightful to see a fresh perspective on how to get to know someone… the idea of giving em a free trial subscription of “YOU” is something i feel like not many people would consider because of dumb psychological shit all the red pillars and “alpha” males be saying. This is definitely going in my arsenal of conversation thank you!

[ryanmckenna]

Thanks Lucy, this was really good advice.

[poetictriangle]

I had one girl come up to me for my number, i gave it to her, she was really bubbly and charming. However it didn't work out because she had a lot of male friends, she didn't understand the concept of healthy boundaries and i did not want to appear too pushy so i had to lie to her that i am still in love with my ex. 😂
I have realized one thing, the girls who have the courage and are comfortable to come up to guys are usually already dating someone else and is looking to monkey branch or are most likely to have some close male friends and that is not a good thing for the boyfriends.
I am not exactly opposed to the idea of girls approaching me but through experience i found that it works out well when i go up to a really shy gurl, the opposite energy is very attractive, their soft and feminine energy makes me feel really safe and comfortable for no reason, and that is how met my current GF. 😅

[Jameslite]

5:08 what if their ugly but their make up makes them look beautiful. Then it's a compliment on her hard work right. A prime example Victoria katei (I don't think she's ugly without makeup).

[wayunknwn]

Hypothetically, if you were infact a liar wouldn't you just lie to yourself about not being a liar? So how could you know if you're not a liar? Because you could just be lying to yourself about not being a liar since you are infact a liar.