If your ex is sending mixed signals, TEXT THEM THIS!

Breadcrumbing is when your ex is checking in on you, but unwilling to progress towards getting back together.

This video will help you know if you are getting breadcrumbed, why it happens, and what to do about it to maximize your chances or getting back together or freeing you enough to finally move on!

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If you need more help crafting your breadcrumbing boundary or replying to a reach out, I created a course to guide you through the process! It includes copy and paste texts for the most common reach outs!

[Koko________]

I said this and he never responded: “You know I love hearing from you when you reach out, but I realize it’s keeping me stuck. I’ve wanted a relationship with you where we can try life together once we’ve both done the work to heal and grow. I respect that you’re not ready for that right now, and I think it’s best if we stop contacting each other until you are.

If you do come to town, I want you to reach out only if you’re choosing me and genuinely want to work on the relationship, not just because you miss me. I care about you, but I need to prioritize my own healing too.”

[raz]

I had been seeing a girl for about 3 months and she ended things with me yesterday and text me this today.... i have not responded to her. What are your thoughts?

Hey just want to say.

I appreciate the truly lovely things you’ve done for me. Your kindness and care have meant a lot.

I owe you an apology, not for anything you’ve done, but because I know I’ve left you with unanswered questions. The truth is, I don’t have the answers myself. I’m still trying to figure that out.

Please know that my lack of explanation isn’t a reflection of how I feel about you or the gratitude I hold for what you’ve done.

Much care

[konnichirin]

He breadcrumbs me... broke up for 6 months and he come back once a month to check how I'm doing but nothing else so I tell him to stop it, he was shocked but respected me and said he will not contact me anymore but I can always contact him... it hurts but I think it's best for me

[Jakuboooooooooo]

Holy hell it’s like you’re talking abt my exact situation. And this is exactly what my friend was telling me yesterday 😂

[youtubecommenter-cg]

She wanted to stay friends after the breakup, which I said I couldn''t do, but I caved and called her after a week of no contact at first (I just wanted her backing my life...). For a while things were almost normal - still texting everyday which she always initiated. Eventually the texts became more sporadic... every other day, then maybe once a week... etc. She would always reach out eventually though, often with an inside joke or on odd dates (Valentine's Day, seriously?). I pretty much straight up accused her of bread crumbing which she denied she was doing, and I told her how I was willing to work on things but that this had to stop -- though the door was open. 3.5 months since and haven't heard a peep. It's over but I can't get over it.

[nikolburgelova]

I am in this loop for 2yrs and dont know what to do. But I think your video help me to get through this hard time. Wish me luck, guys!

[bot_iceraven]

I love talking with you but it’s making it hard for my mental, I think we have something special [BLANK]that can be fixed but I respect whatever choice you make. As long as this is your decision then please don’t text me, if you change your mind let me know, goodbye [BLANK]


Is this a good model message?

[ginger]

Im glad I handled this accurately then. I told him it was hard for me and I needed to be working on the relationship together or not talking and then he broke up with me all over again and said he didnt see us together. I said ok, I understand. I think it could be fixed but that I respected his opinion. it hurt but I did feel better knowing that I stood up for myself and told him my expectations. it forces him to be honest with me and himself and it shows me his honest feelings.

[justintrades]

I love hearing from you but makes it hard for me to move on, I think we have something special than can be worked for, but i respect your decision to break up with me, as long as thats your decision please don't talk to me anymore. If you change your mind let me know?

[anb]

My ex wanted to start a friends with benefits situation and I agreed to one encounter, but the next day I told him that it wasn't beneficial for me and I will stop waiting on someone that doesn't want me back, which to he apologised and agreed. It hurts me to realise that out of all the things that he could miss about me he just wants sex, with no contact will he value the relationship he lost?

[donovanlemos]

Mine reached out after 3 weeks, spoke for 3 days and then disappeared. She's done it before then we got back together, this time she didn't come back.

2 weeks later we spoke and she said it's for the best that we stay broken up.

A month later she reached out again. Said she was wondering how I am and that I was quiet. I asked what I was supposed to be doing, she said I don't know.

Got ghosted again, and this time a week later, I confronted her about it. I said it doesn't work for me, she either wants to work on it or then she needs to let it go and stop reaching out.

She didn't really answer about what she really wanted, she said she would call me but didn't. She avoided it completely.

Back to silence now again.

Thoughts?

[lethal]

My ex ended reaching out after four months on my birthday just wishing me a happy birthday. I waited a few hours then said thank you. Few days later I visited the college we go to, I graduated she still attends, I saw her and she saw me however we never confronted each other. When she left, she sent me a text saying, “you looked good btw lol”. I replied the next day by just saying thank you again. What do I do?

[brandonrojo]

What if she’s blocking and unblocking me, commenting on my friends posts for me to see, having her friends watching my stuff and recently just watching my story posts

[hiflowerz]

She breadcrumb me for about a month after breakup I went nc she’s reached out twice. She’s with someone new already

[ENDLESSxDREM]

She just doesn’t agree to meet but even said “I love you the other day” what do i do?

[DestinationX-yfsc]

Someone please help.i broke up with her first and she said it was mutual.than 3 weeks later i texted her and i told her that clearly it was all my fault i took responsibility for everything but she didn't want to try.than she texted me 2 weeks later to test me how im doing.than 1, 5 months later again she texted me again but she doesn't feel sorry for anything she did.she said she was the best thing happened to me.i didn't blame her or be rude but still she wants me to beg her.what should i do?i don't wanna beg anymore even though i love her because i did enough

[MrCirac]

So my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago. Then every week she would text or call me checking on me. And she told me she loves and cares for me but she’s just too hurt to get back together. I found out she’s been seeing this dude and she has no intention of ending that. 2 days ago she called me and told me she loves and misses me and that she just wanted to hear my voice. I found out they slept together so I blocked her number. I told her if she has no intention of ending it with that dude then she needs to leave me alone. She blocked me in all social media already. I’m confused on how to go about this. Should I unblock her? Am I over reacting? Is this boundary fair? If she really wants to reach out she’s gonna have to unblock me in social media

[kuramainc]

My ex texted me and deleted the text before I could see it about a month ago. I saw her at a birthday party last week and it was very hot and cold. I shouldn't have gone as I'm not ready to see her yet. I ended up leaving without saying bye to her. Later that night she called and hung up and then texted it was nice to see me. Should I leave it at that or use your boundary technique?