Mastering Relationships for Autistic Adults

Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I explore the topic of navigating relationships with Autistic people. Plus, I share my personal lived experiences as an #actuallyautistic person. #orionkelly #autism #asd #autismsigns #whatautismfeelslike

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[sarahfowler]

Yes, please, to the offer for a video about why we have bad relationships with our families!

[Ponk_]

I feel like no matter how carefully I try to explain anything to a neurotypical person how I communicate, they always end up taking everything that I say, as a personal attack. It’s like they never actually listen to what I’m saying, and then twist the words into meaning something else, because how can a straightforward answer actually be a straightforward answer, it must always have some hidden meaning to it. It’s so frustrating trying to communicate with them, and then constantly having to apologize for something that they chose to misinterpret. I might as well be talking to the wall, at least the wall doesn’t blame me for something that it misunderstood.

[Green_Roc]

5:35 "Nobody likes us" ... how I felt the first 30 years of my life.
I have a soulmate now. He is autistic, I am autistic, we like puns, video games, and eachother.

[Jenna.g.]

I always think people don’t like me unless they come up to me, since I don’t know how to approach people. So glad my fiancé is neurodivergent/adhd and he loves animals as much as I do, our kids have four legs and fur

[suecollins]

Thanks Orion, needed this today. Brother who shut me out because I laid a boundary has just turned up while I'm visiting our elderly mother. Haven't seen him yet but the thought of it was sending my heart into erratic overdrive. Your vid calmed me because you validated my need to set that boundary. I am not a bad person for setting that boundary! Whew, thanks again 🎉

[GoodBeetsME]

This has been such a helpful video. My closest friend is may husband. We've been married for 27 years....however....it has been a hard 27 years. I recently was diagnosed with AUD. SO many things now make sense. Your video on "The Cassandra Syndrome" really, really helped our communication shift for the better. My problem is with my oldest friends. They seem to have a story of who I am and the autism hasn't fit right. A few are open to this new understanding of "me", a few are not. None have been curious which mystifies me. I have a few newer friends and they have been very intrigued and accepting, even congratulatory. I feel fine with drifting away from most of my friendships, not sure if this is sad. But my friendship with myself, my spouse and new people we meet along the way for short periods of time are plenty! I really like the clouds and plants and animals and Earth as friends, far more consistently. and I cannot touch the issues around family with a 10 foot pole!

[Beafree]

Thank you for putting this video together, very helpful.
As a recently diagnosed autistic, I was the one who told my husband I was interested in him. A little back story, we had dated 4 years prior we had agreed we'd never get back together. At this point we had become good friends and I started having feelings for him, I knew where we stood on this issue so I figured he would run away. We got married a month later and have been together for 23 yrs. We have 5 kids and always wondered why our kids were on the spectrum, many assumed it was due to vaccines (we postponed vaccines). Nope, I am autistic. My husband was diagnosed a year ago with adhd and now suspects he is also autistic.
I had to cut off my mother and sister because they were toxic. It was the best thing I've ever done for myself and my kids.

[lexi-vaughn]

This video adds *so much* value to the community and extended community (those that love an Autistic person). Thanks for another great video, Orion! : )

[Moon.]

Not seeing people’s intentions is a huge issue. Ive been bitten many times for not seeing people arent trustworthy and have equally missed opportunities with good people.

[BillysFingers]

The biggest issue i've had over my life with dating is sensory overload. All the feelings that neurotypicals have are magnified. So like just holding hands takes my breath away let alone more, so i have to take things really slowly but this can come across as anxious, nervous or unconfident etc which isn't the case at all. Being friends and being understood first is ideal, but by this stage i'm friendzoned so the whole process is a nightmare.

[wendyheaton]

Thank you so much for this video it will help many people. It has taken many years of suffering and over trying to make things work with my siblings before I finally recognised that the relationship is toxic. I now actively avoid contact. If I'd seen this video years ago I could have saved myself so much pain....

[janewarnock]

Well timed Orien. I've got a big family gathering coming up. You've reminded me I need to make plans for when me and my son get overwhelmed and decide to go off for a random walk. Last time we just got back before they started out on a search party 🤣

[pikmin]

29:50 that would be incredible! if someone ever says that to me, I'll know I've found a real friend. so many relatables here, Orion. cheers!

[ckck]

I was going to hang out with this guy who clearly seemed interested. He asked if I wanted to hang out at his house.
I asked what he intended.
He went silent for awhile and then told me "it didn't feel right".
Later he told me I came on too strong. 🤷

I guess I was supposed to know that sex was a possibility but I like to know what someone is thinking.

I would've happily just gone and hung out with him as a friend but apparently he interpreted my questions as desperation.

I'm still confused about why exactly. I thought clarity of intentions was healthy.

[victoriadolbeare]

Yes please, I would love a video about why we have bad relationships with family.

[rachelmintoff]

Omg please do a video on family relationships! Would love to hear your thoughts 🙏

[j.b.]

6:06, I have always relied on the opposite sex, to show interest in me, and make the first move. Fear of rejection related. Once I have the green light, I can take charge.

[keithandsmarie]

Found your channel several weeks ago and I'm crying... You are answering so many questions! I feel validated (finally) after YEARS of knowing I'm different but not understanding why? 🤔 Both my spouse AND I are definitely on the spectrum but NEVER been officially diagnosed. Thank you so much for your openness and honesty...

[magicmummy]

Orion, thank you so much for that video. You have no idea how much it helps.

[TOGSolid]

Oh I would love to see the family vid cause it's definitely the boat I'm in