Is Separation Good for Marriage? | How to Know When to Separate

Is Separation Good for Marriage? | How to Know When to Separate. There is often a lot of confusion around separation. Some people fear it because they believe it's just step 1 of the process towards divorce. Others advocate for separation anytime a spouse is unhappy. In this video we'll talk about when separation makes sense in a marriage and what it should look like if a couple does decide to separate.

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[Affliction]

My wife says I talk mean to her and she has been telling me for months and I felt like it went through one ear to the other because I was comfortable and was thinking she won’t leave me. We got into an argument and I was drunk and I was saying things that I didn’t mean. Like “get the divorce papers I’ll sign them” it hurt her so much. It’s been a month and a half now and I know I did wrong and I want to change. We are doing marriage counseling now and we only been on our first session we have one this weekend. Our counselor said to work on our communication skills. But now she’s saying she’s broken, she doesn’t believe me and doesn’t trust me. She says she doesn’t know what she wants in life and that she’s broken. I want this marriage to work so badly and I’m fighting for my marriage. She says she sees I’m giving my all and she’s very proud of me. She says she can’t give the love that I’m giving because she’s so hurt and it’s not fair to me. Idk what to do. We are going to counseling this weekend but it’s taking forevers. We just live like roommates in the house. She doesn’t text me that much or talk to me that much in the house. We still watch TV together and also sleep in the same bed. She on her side and I’m on my side. I know I need to work on my communication skills and never want her to feel like this again. I’ll fix myself for myself and for my marriage. I want this to last for the long road. But now she’s saying your not the problem now it’s me. 🤷🏻

[tonybowers]

Greetings, Brother E!
Another message filled with Wisdom & Practical Application...In Community (well thought out, intentionally purposeful) Guided Separation or No Separation at all!! AMEN!!!

[dreambeliever]

We were separated at that time so I got pregnant. Wow!
That’s a ONE and DONE for me

[victormiller]

Those Rules of Engagement are good to spell out. If I had a dollar for the women I've met who say, " I'm Not divorced, Im separated " I then have to watch myself in acting like a therapist and explaining why that's NOT a good idea to be out here trying to date. SMH

[chadcowman]

I live in a place where you can't divorce without a full year seperation first. soo I'm not sure if any of this applies if one person already wants a divorce and the other has to sit in limbo for a year

[jessieboyd]

Is separation useful for someone that is continuing to cheat? I feel like I'm being used. I tried to stay around but it's getting harder and harder. So I've been thinking of separating so she can see if that's what she wants.

In really thinking about it. I need it too. I need to see if I want to stay with her.

[Sammikinz]

Some of us literally have no community 😕

Also, if one spouse is unwilling to communicate in marriage how the heck can one expect them to during separation?

Also also... didn't like the part where you said it's not about feelings.

But hey thanks anyway

[chelyfranco]

Is stonewalling and extreme neglect a form of abuse?

[snigicbryan]

I acknowledge that your last 5 points don't apply in the situation where one spouse just walks out because he or she have divorce on their mind. How would you advise the one in such a situation?

[dreambeliever]

Yeah…. Sounds like she may want out. She may want to feel free again. It’s not you man. I’ve said that over and over to mine and meant it. We say things out of shear anger. She’s crucified me in front of the kids too. Marriage can be brutal. I love mine but honestly our trust is broken with each other. No affair or anything but constant fussing and family backbiting.
Her family thinks I’m a drunk. I’ve lost my crap a few times but when I’m not with her, I can pull it together. She brings out the worst in me. Honesty, I’m acting a 180 from who I am in my core. Too much friction and damage through the years. I just want to date her and hook up because we don’t agree on anything. Very shallow communication or it ends up in a mess. 3 girls and they’ve witnessed the fighting and it’s so pitiful man. I would love to try LAT ( living apart together ). Sounds crazy but idk and other way without absolute losing my mind. Best of luck my friend.

[j.n]

I would love to split up. But I'm stuck in a crap marriage 🤔