Fawning is the Traumatic Reaction Ruining Your Relationships

Welcome to Q&A Mondays! Please ask any question you have in the comment section and watch the next question and answer video on Monday for my answer. This week covers different topics related to narcissistic abuse such as our emotional reactions such as PTSD.

Monday, September 16, 2024 9/16/24

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[eaksgeeks]

Hey david, Ben again from florida. Thank you for your sound advice. I've started looking for another job aggressively. Due to not making enough to eat or clean my clothes. My Boss has tried to get me to move into a halfway house due to my finacial situation and i told her i am not a hardcore drug addict or a felon i just need to make more money she kinda dismissed my needs. I spend 6 days a week with her plus church its emeshment and its gross and needs to end i have to be fake at church just to keep my current job i am about to break down and loose it. Thank you, david. Nothing more awkward than your boss trying to be close to you while telling her husband all my personal issues as well as her telling me all her husbands personal issues. I keep running into women like this their all over South florida, and its gross.

[betsyerreve]

Hola David. I am sadly sending this video to my sister. I am still watching your videos healing every day . I will never end to thank you for what you do for us . I remember your first videos 😢. Love from México always

[truth]

Thank you for your kind empathetic replies. It feels nice hearing your voice.

[sarah.j.]

hi it's Sarah from wiscOnsin 😊
please tell us the diagnosis of people who steal other peoples' lunches from the work fridge? thank you.

[elleonard]

Tasmania.

Hello! David.

Very helpful & informative Q&A.

I love your round picture or sign on your wall. Great choice!!!

Thank you and hope that Yourself and Everyone here, also has a "beautiful!! week, " as well.

Take care ❤

[rorywright]

Hello, David, from sunny Ohio, where we are in a drought. When you say” To step out of the relationship and get help” do you mean quit trying to fix them, quit trying to find the right words to say to them so they won’t explode, quit trying to appease them, quit thinking if you only did this or said that differently, they would see the light, and finally understand? There is no peace with them, no really caring for you. They could care less what We think. Get help! Thank you, David! I hope you’re having a great weekend!😎❤️

[rorywright]

Hi, David! Ohio here! What a magnificent piece of art on your wall! It stands out! Thank you for answering all the questions! 😎❤️

[Niknoodle]

Hi David. Absolutely you are spot on with the bpd saviour complex. Having someone else's welfare to look after means they are not thinking about themselves a short amount of time, plus they get the added benefit of attention & admiration for their faux acts. My ex usually went for females with mental or medical health issues before me...I obviously know this because he told me to gain martyr status... it didn't wash with me though, saw through it, the absolute chump!

[waterbabe]

❤🎉🎉 Thankyou kindly David look forward too your uploads . .

[rose-skqv]

He seems to have cycles of being OK and looks happier, his happier not ours.. to these odd times, when he looks angry, he looks unemotional, he doesnt sleep, wants to go, wants to just work, only sleeps 3 hrs is his max

[emilemerten]

I struggle with relationships with people. Everything they do irritates me

[Sally-ihls]

Yes we do sabotage without communication, so, if someone refuses to communicate, I am assuming we r not worth their time, done!

[emilemerten]

We learn to fawn our whole lives, then if we get out people act wierd around you.

[victoriamuniz]

Victoria from the Bay area. Thank you for answering my question about the young man taking his own life When I look back on this memory. I can no longer see the young man's face. Somehow I was able to erase certain parts of what happened that day I'm hoping it stays erased.

[emilemerten]

from south africa
Hi David
I like the circular plate behind you, it looks interesting.

[RelRodriguez-hell]

Thnx for all ur awsome answers and thought! Healing family from California here. As u remember, awful ex fiancé and toxic family upbringing he grew up in. I totally think all his family is mentally ill. And like u mention in other videos how bpd and other illnesses come/start in womb, infant/childhood trauma. Totally agree! This is another example of ex fiancés sister that would shake newborns upside down like I shared in ur last Q&A. Like two years ago ex fiance had shared with me that his sister was pregnant almost due and she started punching her stomach and yelling at her unborn baby inside her womb calling the baby awful names and tellin her to stop kicking because it was hurting her. Unbelievable!!! No wonder it could start in the womb!!! I would tell him to call the cops but I think he was afraid of his toxic family. They must all b sick!!! What do u think of this? What are ur thoughts?

[daviddemars]

Please ask questions and leave your locations.

[lilkos]

I live in Greece. My boyfriend when angry, tells me repeatedly that he goes out at night to bars to meet other women while we were together and he would like to have sex with them, but he's so insecure and they see it and that's the reason he hasn't done anything. He has also told me that he gave his number to more than 10 women while he was in a relationship with me just to hurt me. Does it sound like BPD? Also the emotional and psychological abuse that I've been through is extreme.

[davidraduziner]

I DATED A WOMAN WHO WAS BIPOLAR FOR SURE POSSIBLY BORDERLINE A TEACHERS ASSISTANT BUT WITH DEGREE IN THAT TO UNDERSTAND THEIR DISORDER OR HIDE THE SYMPTOMS? OR BOTH ? THX DAVID

[CuriosityVaultChannel]

Hey Coach, wondering if you could answer whether or not Mood stabalizers are at all effective in the petulant type of Bpd sufferer? For somone with high constant irritability and occasional bpd rage outbursts, would they be at all effective and if so, by how much? Mild? Moderate? Barely noticeable.