The Boundary Trick Narcissists Use to Manipulate You - Watch out!

[Kris_Reece]

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[TamiE]

That's a Big AMEN... that's manipulation... I'll tap out

[shawn.]

This one kinda triggers me cause my relatives and coworkers have this level of entitlement, where they think they can just demand and boss you around and you're just supposed to take it
#don't leave your drink unattended

[nickisnyder]

Sounds like the mother had a few boundaries set on her and didn't like it! She's struggling now to get around those boundaries. I would give her a dictionary with the word boundary highlighted and explain to her that once you're an adult your mother doesn't make rules for you anymore and rules are not boundaries

[proverbs]

I agree.
A boundary would be to say you will not tolerate being called a bad name or else they will no longer have access to you.
A rule or demand would be to say you want to be referred to as your majesty or whatever.
My ex husband thought boundaries were rules too and now he’s unable to contact me at all because he didn’t stop crossing mine to attack me.

[Ana-vo]

I said No to my mother and she cuss me out and hanged up the phone on me. There’s never a communication. I’m 47yo and just tired of that… We haven’t talk since April. I texted her on Mother’s Day saying that I love her, but nothing back. My two sisters are also not talking to me. I thank the good Lord for opening my eyes, and make me spiritual strong through His word. Also, thank you for your videos.

[emeraldquack]

Amen amen amen. 100% correct, a boundary is a barrier or a wall, it is not a road or a direction.

[alexishill]

Amen.
My little sister does this crap. She doesn't realize she is a controlling, narcissistic, and self-centered person who believes herself to be a good person. It's really sad.
Thank you for sharing this. I knew it didn't feel right.❤

[misbritt]

Yeeesss I know a few narcissistic. One was if I didn't want to comply with a favor I would get thrown at with really bad news such as back stabbing news or had to deal with a problem pinned on me. Even to this day.

[uniquemay]

Wow. Thank you so much for breaking it down for me. ❤ This is what I'm going through right now at my work place. Thank you. Amen 🙏

[nealrich]

I had a family member do this to me. I didnt think it was narcissistic but they asked me for a favor and i told them i would help if i wasnt busy and would not help if i had other stuff to take care of. Sure enough, they assumed i would help them out the next time and when i couldn't/wouldnt and i told them no, im busy, they flipped out and played the "after everything ive done for you card." They were taking advantage and completely disregarded what i told them before like it was never broufht up before.

[mistitaber]

So I told my wife that I wouldn't put up with threats of divorce anymore or her leaving. Sadly she did it several hundred times in about 4yrs. She said she wouldn't promise not to. Is that a boundary or rule I did? Maybe this shows how I found you 🤷‍♀️. I'm still learning & trying not to be in denial still but it's so hard to grasp the evil in people. I left yesterday & I'm so lost & numb. Though if it wasn't for God. I wouldn't have made it to this point. He is my strength ❤.

[MsDuchess]

Thank you… what about when your daughter, knows I can’t be around her narcissistic dad. And I ask her to do things with me without alway having things done at his house. I ask her to plan things with myself and her step dad On other occasions. And she said no! And many times when I have time off as a school teacher, she plans a trip with her boyfriend and asks me to watch the kids and take them to school. Spend the night with them etc. I said no! Because she always uses my time off to do her own thing! I’m done with her!!

[zabraarms]

Absolutely, I agree with you, Kirs. Thanks for sharing your topic today. Amen-Amen ❤

[SheilaBang]

AMEN!!!
THEY THREATHENS YOU TOO IF THEY THROWS A TANYRUM@!!

[lindawest]

When someone works for you it's entirely different. Rules are rules in the job sector. If their job description sa ys that they're suppose to do certain things then telling the employee the employee must do what's being asked. If it's not part of the job description then you're free to say no.

[gwendolynwehage]

I have people communicate demands about how I will do this or that, when this happens I go away. Since my "no" is not going to have an effect and the person who sets their rule treats me with contempt I end the relationship.

[susancarter]

Nobody on this planet gets everything they want when they want it.
Not even the son of God.

[angelamartin]

I Agee. Amen. My boundary is when I visit mom, I now stay in a hotel. She doesn’t like it and tries blame, guilt, passive-agressive, control. She says I don’t need an invite however it’s not inviting.😮I’m good, and I feel good that I’m not trying to manage her emotions/behavior.🙏

[InfiniteMindset]

A slew of ultimatums - demands. Learn to laugh these off & say I don’t think so- end of….You will feel so centered, amen!