The dark empath

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[maf]

There is something terrifying about someone who can understand other people's emotions and pains yet still decides to manipulate those affected for personal gain.

[MissDLinx]

In my experience real monsters aren't ones you can point to easily and say "him, he's a monster", real monsters go out of their way to appear more human than the rest of us. They hide themselves, they seem more genuine, more honest, and harmless than the rest of us so if a victim does speak out, no one believes them. Those are the real monsters.

[kimtaff]

Someone told me once that "the worst kind of evil is cloaked in love and light."

[diestos]

When I worked for Apple, the term “tactical empathy” appeared in my life… they taught me how to replace my normal empathy into something less meaningful… there are employers and corporations out there who are dark empaths !

[PurplePinkRed]

I feel like the narcissist is "evolving" when using this type of dark empath behaviour. More and more people know how to spot toxicity nowadays, and especially in the grandiose narcissist. They have to be "smarter" in their tactics to reel people in, as the age of social media has made it far easier to do your research on people.

After having a few narcissists in my life, my best advice is to notice how you feel in their presence. Ignore the words and the false promises. Stay in tune with yourself. If I get that icky feeling at any point, I run in the other direction. If it feels wrong, it's wrong. Don't keep the relationship going with these types and go no contact if it's safe to do so.

[singularitygarden]

The real confusion is being an empath and meeting a dark empath but being so empathetic you question which one of you is actually the dark empath.

[thecoppfamilychannel]

This is it, 100%. There are few things more painful than finding someone who sees you and understands you as no one else ever has, and then discovering they are completely incapable of truly loving you.

[MesRevesEnRose]

I always thought empathy can be a double edged sword. As an empath, you are deeply aware of people's emotions meaning it's easier to spot their weaknesses and manipulate or hurt them. But of course, if you are true empath, by definition, hurting others does not make you feel good.

[michaelaneumann]

I love the definition of empathy like:
“Empathy is your pain in my heart”

[joandeart]

I watched my partner study and memorize all things about people that would bring them credit when they needed it. Names, B-days food preferences, etc, so when they pulled this info out to use it others felt flattered ....I watched little love bombs all the time. Made me feel like I was so fortunate because this caring would for sure be reflected in our relationship. But as things panned out this "caring" was reserved for "friends" and strangers. Empathy was used for power and manipulation not for connection and concern.

[kylewhite]

Dr. Ramani I hope you have the opportunity to read this, I genuinely want to thank you for saving my life, I was spiraling into insanity from narcissistic abuse and it took me about 3 months of listening to you and others talk about narcissistic abuse. But you were the 1st one that I began listening to and put me onto my path of healing, since having this knowledge, I've confronted the Narc, and now I'm narc free, this information genuinely saved me.

[StarcoreLabs]

The Dark Empath sounds like someone with advanced social engineering skills. Gaining trust while looking for openings and weaknesses to exploit. Beware.

[yarnarrutor]

I thought 'dark empathy' was when a good empath finally has had enough and he or she uses their moderate prescience to defeat or frighten a bully.

[kimheartsuds]

This is my mother. She's an empath, psychic, and extremely intelligent. So aware of everyone's feelings but uses that awareness to manipulate, dismiss, and invalidate other's feelings at every turn. I could write a book about how horrible she truly is to the people she's "close" to.

Dr Ramani, you've provided me so much insight into my mother and therefore myself. I cannot express how helpful your channel has been for me, and my family.

[alicegrace]

In my experience, especially covert narcissists fit the description of a dark empath. They are more aware of their vulnerability and often take great pride in being the helper, but they still use their empathy to "read" you and use it against you whenever convenient because of their need to dominate. I believe they are probably unaware of that, it's like a background program that always runs.

[scarletohary]

I imagine that empathy helped early hunters understand their prey.

[Marcaline]

I’ve been on a relationship with one for 9 years, but only married for 2. Left him today

[bloodstripeleatherneck]

Remember; being difficult to manipulate makes you prone to being covertly labeled as, "difficult" by the narc.

[ip]

Dear Dr Ramanai, I fled from my vindictive, manipulative, abusive, elderly, disabled parents today, bravely, permanently and I am currently typing sat in silence for first time, trying to decide what to do next and am sat on the ready made bed in the clean, tidy, spacious refuge after all these years of being stuck in that dirty, undecorated, cramped, awful box room from childhood. Thank you for being one of the beautiful people who have inspired me.

[debic]

My ex used to say ‘you’re a tough read’ and I’d say: I’m not a book, just ask if there’s something you want to know…. Now, about 2 years out of the relationship, and healing from that narcissist relationship - and hearing this, I realize that he was studying me…. like the predator that he is