What I HATE About Being Autistic - Life Without Understanding & Acceptance

Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I reveal some of the things I hate about being #Autistic. To be clear, I love being an #ActuallyAutistic person. There are just some things I really hate about it. I hope my personal insights can inform and entertain you and ultimately make the world a better place for Autistic people. #orionkelly #autism #whatautismfeelslike

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[cheryl]

“Let’s be friends again. You do all the work” 😂 I have never related to somebody so much before that moment and you made me laugh out loud. Thank you again for making these videos.

[ghostofmybrain]

People do always take me the wrong way. It's definitely the thing I hate the most.

[inflatablewolfie]

Living in a world that's not meant for me, I find that, above all other things I don't like about being autistic, I don't like not understanding myself. God I hate the fact that everyone around me, despite saying how all they live through is hardship, seem to be participating in a big elegant dance with the world around them, while I'm here with a full body cast trying to do the same and, naturally, not being very good at it. Trying to be a part of that whole dance all my life has meant that I've never stopped to take the time and figure out who "I" actually am, as a person, outside of how I'm "supposed" to be, according to the world around me.

[Ann]

1) dyspraxia, proprioception differences, clumsiness
2) social interactions, social cues, communication
3) being misunderstood, being taken the wrong way, being misjudged
4) muscle tone, unable to stay still, never comfortable in own skin
5) traits annoying people, such as extreme curiosity, intensity, overthinking, relentless analysis, info-dumping
6) lack of friends, loneliness, difficulty maintaining relationships, uncertainty about how to navigate relationships
7) lack of knowledge and acceptance in society!!!

[jazmo]

Asking questions! Yep, My family said I was born asking the question WHY? Now that I know I am autistic, I realise I was trying to understand the world around me.

[jessshreds]

As an autistic person I loved all of the points. Being constantly misunderstood and not understanding everyone else is the worst thing by far and everybody not understanding how hard I'm trying all day. The background music you chose made it hard to process what you were saying though.

[ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

"Unless you walk up to me and say, "I like you", I don't think that you DO." ☺️
I felt that! I can definitely relate.

[maulanwong]

I have aspergers and personally it's like hell for me because I have a hard time making eye contact, I have memory problems, I sometimes have a hard time understanding jokes, I'm sound sensitive, and much more. I wish autism was curable

[joeminella]

I'm with you on all these "Hate-able" traits, but the worst for me is "No friends". I'm 81, college grad, 6 yrs military, 20 years construction business, 2 sons, 3 grandsons, but no friends from all that.
Clumsiness: I still remember as a hs freshman watching other guys dance wondering how and where they learned to dance so well and why I couldn't. I've lived alone for 40 years because it's so much easier. Thank You for your very helpful posts.

[neridafarrer]

Being misunderstood was so painful as a child. Luckily, I have a neurodiverse friend/partner in life now and he gets me.

[SDck]

What I hate about being a person with autism is looking back over my life and realizing how much effort others have spent in accommodating my limitations. In situation after situation, people have spent extra time and energy to keep me comfortable because I was, without realizing, making things difficult. It has not been easy to be my family member or friend or co-worker. I have left a trail of turmoil. Sadly, I can't even make amends or apologize because I've outlived nearly all of them.

[raapyna]

I remember I read through an autism/aspie community website once and recognised myself, got offended, and left. 😂 "I'm in this picture and I don't like it" I don't remember what those points were. Maybe something about being misunderstood, honest, loyal, sensitive to detail, having thin skin, etc. I felt like I was being called out like they were bad things. I always thought growing up, that society was wrong and mean and didn't have empathy. I never suspected that there was something wrong with me - that the bullies were right. I guess that's it - I don't "have autism". I am the way I am, I'm being genuinely myself, I was born like this, this is my temperament. I hated the idea of going to therapy for being bullied because I didn't need fixing. I could see everything wrong with the school community's social dynamics so clearly. I saw it as a leadership issue. Me at 14.

I 'got over it', I accepted that being unique got me too much attention and started to blend myself in. I started paying attention to teenage girls' fashion, talking style and gestures. I guess most people do this subconciously at 12, and not grudgingly and intentionally at 16. Idk? It's hard to walk the wire now. I'm always a bit nervous how people will perceive me. Socialising politely often feels like an act. I'm so used to being judged for everything that made me me. It used to feel like people were using my name as a slur. For some years every time someone would say my name I would internally flinch. So I learned to pretend that I'm casual, and to cool my heart. When people avoided me I pretended I preferred being alone. I numbed my emotions and put on a polite mask. Pretended I didn't notice that people never preferred me. So now when I try to engage with people, I'm wary, and although I've learned to be a bit more optimistic, there's always the risk that they will notice that I'm the same person as in highschool and they're supposed to treat me like I was treated back then. That if I don't wear the right thing, or smile the right way, my mask will fall off. And sometimes it feels safer to be alone, but that doesn't mean I want to. I'm actually really warm and affectionate with my friends. So it's hard when I don't know people's true faces. I don't know how much to give away. People can be really good at hiding their disgust in you. I want to take that act at face value but it's hard. Deciding between protecting your dignity or trusting someone with your humanness, that they could then choose to hurt you.

[CoolDudeClem]

2:36 "Becuase in the end we all have to live on the same planet". Sometimes I think I'm from a completely different planet as everybody else is is so different to me. I'd love to live somewhere where life is like the way it used to be.

[davo]

I have a hard time making eye contact, I sometimes have a hard time understanding jokes take it literally particularly Aussie humour which is very sarcastic and certain social cues. I'm definitely an over thinker and can be overly analytical just like Orion. I'm definitely an introverted person, suffer a bit of social anxiety and always being a bit of loner due to my Asperger's syndrome.

[robertshows]

Love these videos. I'm 71 yo man. Found out last year. So much in my life is explained now.

[farcamp]

Old as a 60-year-old autistic female, I can tell you that what you say you hate about autism is exactly the same as I do. It’s quite refreshing to be able to hear it from someone else that what I’m thinking is true. It’s a great blessing to know that there are others who understand. Thank you for your videos and your spirit and your happiness and your intelligence. Thanks for sharing all this with us.

[praypetsrraptured]

I've watched several of your videos and I feel like I'm in a therapy session 😌 It's so comforting to know that this daily nightmare I live in isn't unique or freakish.
The hypersensitivity, multiple anxiety, and straight forward/unable to sugar-coat facts as I've always called it, make me like people repellent. My own family included. I'm wife in my mid 40s and I can relate to every bit of this. I can't understand people, why I can't just "say it like it is" and expect others to be straight forward to me as well. I feel like every person I meet hates me 😔 I'm so tired of the struggle, and loneliness 😪
Thank you so much for helping us and more importantly I feel, helping us feel like we matter. Thank you 💙

[gonnfishy]

Rarely, i will preface a statement in conversation with “i won’t lie to you...”. I don’t know why i do it. I think I’m mimicking other people when they have conveyed to me a serious or relevant point.
I don’t lie or cheat regardless, but sometimes when people are telling you things that are clearly designed to make you question how you could be autistic but SO gifted, “i wont lie to you I’m not mildly gifted i tested as moderately gifted” is like pouring the truth out and letting THEM know YOU know being gifted and being autistic are not mutually exclusive

[thisbagisnotatoy]

I so appreciate these honest videos. When people try to downplay the effects of these it actually make me feel so much more alone and broken. When I hear that other people share my experiences and are pissed about it I almost want to high-five them! 🙌🏻 Yay! Same damage! That actually makes me feel more connected to people.

[MsLisa]

I adore you!! You do the best videos. I watch many. My bf is autistic high functioning mechanical engineer. However he is in deep denial about it. He says he doesn't have an ailment lol..
I've been handling this relationship for 1.5 yr, the best I can as I'm very patient. Is getting more difficult. Ugh 😒😭
I'm in love with him.. I have mixed emotions about our future.