Things I HATE about being a KOREAN guy

Everyone has different experiences and opinions :)

00:22 1. Going to the army
02:26 2. Being forced to study
03:57 3. Having the pressure to have nice cars and houses
06:11 4. Pressure of paying for everything when you're the oldest
06:50 5. Being judged for my looks
07:48 6. Being compared to a Kpop star or kdrama actor all the time.
09:21. 7. Being told that I'm not a real man when I don't want to drink or go to hostess bars

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[ThizisDanny]

sorry the lighting kept changing 🥲 technology is really not a friend to me …

[ebtisam]

"I really like when everyone talks about the truth, even if they are good or bad, I really respect them.

[storytimetv]

not many asian people say what bothers them or their dislikes. it is good to see you express yourself.

[spruillgirl]

First, WELL DONE! With KPop and KDramas so popular now, it is important to hear the truths of the REAL-life as a Korean. Vanity should have its place and living a life with excessive stress is not healthy for anyone. We are born with different gifts and abilities so this should be embraced. Stop the STIGMA!!! Well done with this video!

[Jinok]

You are 100% CORRECT!!
I am Korean and I live in the States!
I was adopted in the States but married a Korean guy and there were so many rules and customs that I hated!
There we so much pressure from his family to me!
I used to have a lot of Korean friends in MN and all they did was compare to each other and expected me to live up to their standards being Korean!
I let all those Korean friends go in my life, I can’t stand being compared constantly to other Koreans!!
They live a fake life!!

I am happy being myself now!!!

Thanks for revealing the truth about Korans, it’s spot on!!!

[laurabaker]

I love how your accent goes from Korean to British to Straight American all in one sentence! Enchanting...

[angelamarieeberhart]

Love this young man for being honest and up front about how he feels. He’s adorable and I love that he isn’t a man who feels the need to please everyone. Kudos Danny 🥳🥳🥳

[lisamilner]

That's good, you stand up for yourself. I've dated Korean men, both from S. Korea and American-born Korean. I noticed a small difference, I'm a member of a Korean church here and although most of the members have been here for a long time, some are only recently been here for less than 10 years. But they are all wonderful people. I grew up around Asians, so I'm familiar with the many different cultural values. I had one BF who was born in Pusan and he was here to go to school to learn how to work on his own airplane, his ideals concerning things were a bit different, but he didn't drink alcohol, nor smoked anything, he was allergic to soy as I am, and he had an allergy to seafood. But his friends that were here also going to school would try to tease him about not drinking and he would simply tell them, that he has already told them that he doesn't drink, and no matter what they said would force him to take a drink. Finally, after a while, they gave up. I asked him once why and he told me and I was okay with it because I didn't drink either, I did when I was younger in the military. He would tell me about how men would wear makeup to get better jobs and had to have the latest fashion, even if it meant they would have to eat Ramen for a few months. But, here in Oklahoma, men aren't like that, they can be whomever they want, and dress as they want. He hated having to return back to Korea. But he was the only son and his father had died and he had to return to take care of his mother and grandparents and younger sister. He begged his family to move here and he would get a bigger house for all of them, but they were scared to move here. They never visited him, the whole 4 years he was here going to school for that very reason. He finally got married due to pressure from his family and we are still friends, but he's not able to do the type of career he wanted, he had to go work at an insurance company, that he hates. He came and visited with his then-new wife when my mother died because he liked her and she liked him. The wife is very nice, she has called me a few times to ask about recipes of things he used to like to eat when he was living here. I hope that he is truly happy at least with his family, the children are cute and his wife really loves him. She was shocked that I didn't have any ill will towards her. I understand life, so I was okay with it and I wished them both true love and happiness for a lifetime.
So, I can see where you are coming from, you just continue to stand up for yourself, and don't let anyone bully you into doing something you don't want to do. If it doesn't feel right, back away from it or that person.

[karenfisher]

1. mandatory Army service
2. forced to study instead of exploring your own interests
3. pressure to impress others with your possessions
4. pressure to pay if you are the oldest
5. being judged for your physical appearance
6. being compared to a celebrity
7. pressure to drink alcohol and/or go to hostess bars

[Krystal]

7) The whole drinking culture, in general, bugs me about Korea. I've never really enjoyed drinking and although I did it socially with friends in my late teens and young adults, it now bothers me when I'm with friends who go "just have one drink". Like, if I don't want to drink, respect it. I've always told my friends, "look, I don't drink or smoke weed and if you want to do that, it's fine, but respect my choices and don't do it around me or pressure me".

This doesn't mean I don't drink at all, but the point is that it's MY CHOICE and it doesn't determine who I am as an individual. Just because I don't party or drink, doesn't mean I'm "NO FUN". Just because a guy doesn't enjoy going to a strip club, hostess bar, or whatever overly masculine thing doesn't mean they "AREN'T MEN".

[amandaspence]

I just recently became interested in K-POP and Korean shows on Netflix. It made me curious about ‘real life’ in Korea. Thanks for providing your perspective. I love learning about other cultures and your opinions seem to be very reasonable to me. I look forward to learning more through you and your videos. Good luck!

[MiZShortiiE]

As an Asian American, who lives in the US, I can relate and understand some of these expectations of us as developing beings. This has been nice to learn about some of these cultural differences in Korea vs the US.

I didn't realize the korean military had paid so little 😳 😅 😕

I'm sorry for your struggles, and I just wanted to thank you so much for sharing your experiences and the expectations that are placed by society there.

Just know you're doing great and that you are very much appreciated 😊

[deborahhalligan]

Korea has had such a surge of attention in the past few years due to k wave. It must be so difficult to deal with all the unrealistic expectations from fans whose knowledge is based soley on k drama presentations. Thank you for speaking so openly about this. Best wishes. 🙂

[uthornss]

I'm glad that the younger generations are starting to push back against toxic societal 'norms', I hope that this continues around the world. there's so much unnecessary pressure to be 'successful' that it's ruining people....just be happy and find something that you enjoy. great video, I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to share this list with us. keep your head up!

[dpurple]

Just the fact that you have the courage to speak your mind and opinions, makes you a man! So never completely loose yourself, continue to stay strong and be a great positive example!

[hebaragi]

I really hope more and more Koreans start to think like you! I love Korean culture for a lot of things, but there are some social rules and a lot of pressure that shouldn't be there for people to enjoy more their lives. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions about it :)

[wowamy]

My mom is Korean. She is 91. She came here to the US in 1963. Korea today drives her crazy. She thinks everyone has become so shallow. It really bothers her a lot. As far as the skin care regime. It amazes me that men have better skin care regimes than most women in the US. I don’t drink at all so I don’t understand the whole drinking culture.

[emmapurcell]

As an Australian it's crazy to hear about these social expectations. I'm so used to Aussies not caring about what car, social position, or how much money you have, we have such a relaxed culture; of course there are some people in Australia that aren't like that, but mostly we care about how you treat other people, and your personality. I generally don't care about judgment and pressures from society for this reason, but I could understand If I grew up in a culture that was, It would be tough to try and break free from that and the stereotypes that proceed. This video was an eye opener for sure

[dominikapasek]

One of the most valuable lesson I've learnt in life is not to care about what people think. I can see that Koreans still have a lot to learn in that matter. Great video, greetings from Poland!

[Me..]

I don’t know if it’s just me but I really respect this guy