Why Do We Feel Shame?

Tori Olds, a therapist at Deep Eddy Psychotherapy in Austin, TX, talks about why we feel shame and how we can repair the overuse of shame.

[abyyman]

Shames played a part my whole life and I find it hard contacting friends. Crazy man honestly

[LarlemMagic]

Fighting the shame to share this video as widely as possible.

[wuer]

You nailed it for me with this video! Exactly how my parents "parented".

[craniumproducts]

Wish I'd found you years ago. My mother has a crippling shame-based identity, to where she's been a narcissist ever since anyone can remember. I left her to marry another narcissist with shame that became our whole lives. Thanks for the validation!

[Mooni]

I feel shame because of one time my mom ignored me, i was excited and talking about something about scool, she shout on me, i drop school, and from that moment i can't explain my feelings, and always shamed and shy and my throat hurt😢😢

[MrBrink]

Me too happened because shame isn’t an emotion or thought anymore.

[ljkohable]

The activation of shame in your example is mixed with neglect

[theotherway]

Good vid. The book "30 Days to Overcome Shame" by Harper Daniels, was also a big help.

[ljkohable]

Being a baby boomer. My parents way back then never repaired my shame. As long as i got their point, then that was it.
No wonder it stuck with me

[einareinarsson]

Because its necessary for some people to behave for the best of everyone. Embrace your shame. It helps. Its your ally.

[tulip]

Yeah I realized I have been feeling deep shame towards my friends.

[blenderheadxyz]

Wow thats such a good explanation. Could you suggest books to read up more about Shame ?

[r_tiom]

Nope. Mostly guilt has to do more with actions than shame. Shame is a result of unhealthy self interpretation whereas guilt is about rules and actions.

[universeofopulence]

.... there's lot of audio disturbances..!!

[alkashbaig]

I sold my brother for no reason in front my online class 😖😣

[debaguisso]

I am madly in love with your voice. Marry me in a phenomenological way?

[Atomic-toons]

That nasty feelings come from other people and they effect me like toxic

[erikg]

This has to be the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, who is she?

[Eli_water_lily]

I'm sorry this is just my opinion but to me this is very mental. The toxic shame as many call it often is caused in childhood . Since it produces a lot of stress in the body and the brain I was hoping to understand why, the utility of shame. I did not get it .

[emerica]

This is true, but this is not shame. Shame comes from a not having your needs met throughout development and the child, whom has an innate intuition about what needs need to be met, doesn’t have them met and infers something is wrong with them