Narcissists expect you to forgive them for everything they do but will hold things against you

Narcissists expect you to forgive them for everything they do but will hold things against you forever.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you so much and lets HEAL together

[kirbyaugustine]

To a narc every infraction they commit is in the past… even if it just happened. The narc’s only true concern is whether or not you leave or stay. In their eyes that is all that matters to them.

[ssaliormoon]

Don't forget they're quick to sweep things under the rug after a fall out

[SS-ints]

This is what made me craziest. I’d think we had an understanding and an agreement and then nope! Back to chasing my own tail. Fml.
Feels great having stability and peace again but the breakup pain is real.

[parrotpirate]

You have been my cheerleader through this I’m two weeks separated in a whole other state! Please keep it coming!

[aliciacurtsinger]

Mine would always'forgive" me for what he projected that I was doing, but also demanded me to do the same with his actual disrespectful behavior. 3 minutes ago was the past to him

[SS-ints]

This and the silent treatment pushed me so far away, 13 days of silent treatment. who could trust someone like that?
I love him and he is a good man at heart but his emotional abuse is increasing. Had to leave. Sad.

[birds]

I think that's why kids of a narcissistic parent develope weak memory to be able deal with this situation and manipulation they get.

[randomoldcrone]

I'm so proud of you for being a voice of reason for this disorder.
Thank you for caring enough to make such a strong effort toward self improvement, as well as sharing the knowledge that helps guide us through this gauntlet of life.

[Breauxmann]

Miranda rights of Narcissism? That’s classic Rich!

[lynnfincham]

Trouble is lee we don’t know what we are dealing with our life with a narc. It takes time to understand. When you enter the relationship your not understanding narcissism 🤷‍♀️

[TheLoonAttic]

Staying strong, in the face of the hurricane ❤️

[Canaday]

Rules, laws, boundaries, morals, principles….don’t apply to the HYPOCRITE malignant narcissist alcoholic I divorced .

Yet he holds everyone else accountable to them and he punishes, judges, projects and blame shifts everything he’s guilty of onto others.

[lozannevanniekerk]

Age is a blessing in many ways and not a curse, it all depends on how we view the world .🤗

[Dani.J.]

Damn if this isn't truth. My narc still does this on the regular (even though we're broken up), and often makes up things I never did to hold it against me, while actively telling me what a worthless bitch I am, then denies he ever said it the next day, or "apologizes for responding negatively to all MY abuse".
(btw, not responding to his abusive texts = abuse. responding with the same tone = abuse ..typing for too long = abuse .. reminding him of his past abuse = abuse ..at least according to him)

[Varianton]

You speak nothing but the truth. I literally told him that I know he has NPD and just asked him to tone it down and for him to choose to do the right things, to seek a therapist that he trusts to tell him when he’s wrong, do a few things and I would stay. Basically I told him to do what you’re doing and I wouldn’t leave, he chose to keep acting like nearly everything you describe in your videos. And of course, I’m the narc according to him, NOW that I’ve called him out and exposed it after he kept dropping subliminal messages on social media for over a year until I finally blew and blasted him. Now he’s playing the victim. Anyway, appreciate your honesty and you should be proud of yourself for working hard to improve yourself.

[zee_lolaj]

And the Past was Literally YESTERDAY. And he'd act like that shit was 10 years ago🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️

[Mothermochi]

Oh see whenever something that I didn’t like he would just avoid me until it became the “past.” Then later I would get a blanket apology immediately, so then I couldn’t say anything about it ever again. I would get “why do you keep bringing that up” even though I never got to digest my feelings about what happened. This became something he could frame as me living in the past. Later I’d get an excuse (depression or adhd), the fake apology and then demand I answer for any number of real or imagined grievances.

[loraineinspahr]

You are hitting some hume runs today, Lee !!

[Kntkt]

I never did anything wrong to my narc exes so the had to hold things against me that I did to OTHER people before I even met them. It ws insane. I could tell how badly they wished to be able to hold something I did to them personally against me but I gave them NOTHING

[AL-ppyy]

The beach property and hurricane analogy is so spot on. Such a great way to describe how the narcissist thinks. 😆