3 Things You Need To Understand About Healthy Relationships | Kerwin Rae

Here are 3 key lessons about healthy relationships that I've learnt over the last 21 years that have transformed how I relate to myself and to those around me.

0:00 | The True Meaning of Love
2:56 | Chemistry vs Compatibility
7:53 | Codependence & Boundaries

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[shirleyfleming]

Me, too…as a retired psychotherapists, I’ve understood co-dependency, etc, etc….but only thought of them in terms of primary relationships, not friendships. This presentation gave me the best language and principles to adjust my friendships that are imbalanced. When I say ‘no’ to a friend and that person reacts with pain/sadness, I typically feel so sad for them, I do what I don’t want to. The piece about: that is their feelings, not yours to resolve, transformed me…gave me language to express the change…and hold my ground. Sadly I have taught lots of people to think of me as an unending resource. The capacity to love deeply and have such a wealth of wisdom, has misguided me. Thank-you fir that amazing correction!! Shirley from Alberta😊💜👩🏼

[shirleyfleming]

I was just introduced to your name yesterday, googled YouTube…found such great info on parenting techniques and philosophies…then this co dependant piece! Such great languaging to understand and implement!! Applied specifically to a 45 year friendship! Thank you!!😊💜👩🏼🙏👍

[iloveyellow]

Ok Im at the time stamp 6:26/12:36 and I just had an AHAAAA! moment.

You just gave me the answer as to why I always get attracted to men who see women as independent humans, great conversationalists and equals to them.
WHY? Cause thats how my Dad raised me and treated me as a kid even tho 80% of my life hes out of my life cause of work. He never made me feel I am less capable of dreaming, achieving and doing things men are also able to do. 😍

Thank you. You just gave the answer to an age old question why I get attracted to guys that in hindsight more of the same as how.my Dad is to me growing up.

WOW 👏👏👏👏👏

[JB-xmwh]

I couldn’t have any conversations with my ex and we stayed together for 12 years. He could never talk about boundaries or feelings. He would say it wasn’t his problem. He didn’t care. We would yell and then he’d get physical with me. When I kept bringing it up he’d get mad and say I don’t care what you want. So sad. My responsibility. I chose him. It’s my fault I was in a trauma bond with a narcissist. Thank you for your videos man, they’re very helpful.

[borntobeamom]

Amazing and how at ease words fall
into your mouth! I’m amazed how you word the problems and your advices are priceless! Thanks for being out there on YouTube and sharing your wisdom with the world!!!

[shirleyfleming]

Opps, I had already commented…went back to make sure I expressed my gratitude😂

[jessie]

Woooow some profound information coming through! Thank you

[renelind-steyn]

You Nailed it for me Kerwin, yet again...! (damn) So many light bulb moments there...thank you. Communication certainly is key!

[bKClaudia]

Love this 👏 exactly what I need right ❤️ Thank you 🙏

[JoshPerryBMX]

Fuck, this was amazing. Thank you for being a gift to the world and a virtual mentor and friend to me. 🙏🏼💚🧠✌️