Personality Disorders, Destruction & How to Heal

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Monday, October 7, 2024 10/7/24

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[emilemerten]

from south africa
Feel like I'm on auto pilot. I can't feel things anymore, I don't notice when I'm hungry or tired. The things I am trying to do aren't working, and I don't know what I'm supposed to do, my parents purposefully didn't teach me anything so now I have to learn everything.

[scottoz]

Hello y'all. My anger has definitely ramped up when I got out of the situation ship... .😮 i was left with so much Anger. Resentment AND Bitterness...always WORKING on stay Educated. Much love from PITTSBURGH THANK you David for being so Dedicated....

[Willa]

Yes be careful what you do for others. People can become needy and too dependent. They can also take you for granted. I understand your excellent reply perfectly. Also this relationship can be very draining. You have helped me so much over the years. Yes I am a nice person, that is why I have been taken for granted so many times. I have gotten wiser about human nature. Also dying people are hard to care for because most are bitter the end is near. I have seen that too.

[SandShock]

@daviddemars Really appreciate the 5 things to know about yourself. I've been making a lot of progress in therapy around those topics, its really nice to have them laid out to explore. Also as a personal note, thank you. You answered a question of mine around fake crying a few months back and it was so validating, just one example of many similar moments from your content. Appreciate you & what you do, take care <3

[rorywright]

Rory, from Ohio! Hello, David! As far back as I can remember, one of the things you’ve always reminded us to do, was to “Love Yourself First”! Something so hard for us to do after being beaten down for so many years! But that really is the answer, to take care of ourselves, be there for ourselves, love ourselves! It’s what gives us our strength to go on, have peace, be in the present, enjoy life! I just wanted to thank you for that one phrase! Do you know how many have been helped, by opening their eyes to that? Love Yourself First! Thanks again, David! 😎❤️

[RelRodriguez-hell]

Hi David, healing family from California again. Can u explain the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath? Ur awsome!! Thank u for all u do

[daviddemars]

Please ask questions and tell us your locations!

[daviddemars]

Please sign and share the Stop Narcissistic Online Bullying petition

[johto]

Great talk again 👍 Location, middle of Finland. Cheers ! 🍺

[oh]

On the music healing, I love these two songs, they give me a lift. 1 "Here comes the Sun" and "I can see clearly now the rain has gone"

[ESB-ut]

Hello Mr. DeMars,
I'm located in Florida, United States.
My situation is as follows; I dated a covert narcissist for five months and it broke me, drained me of life and passion, but did allow me to finally find the self awareness to identify these toxic patterns I had always been involved in. I broke up with him, and he then went on to smear me to everyone, including stalkers and groomers whom tried to groom me online at 16-17. Now all of them still smear me, telling anyone who listens that I am an abusive psychopath who raped men, etc. I understand they're broken people. I do have sympathy. But, how do I let go of the effects of the smear campaign on me? It really hurt to hear such awful things and see people be turned against me over insane allegations. It really hurt my ego to be humiliated like that publicly, and they used everything from my ex describing sex to making fun of me for the death of my mother to being assaulted. Thank you.

[danielwright]

Dan from Nebraska. When my BPD/cptsd ex gf slammed the relationship door completely months go, at first, I was devastated and confused. (Addicted) but now puzzle pieces are falling into place. David? My question is why would she have been so elusive/evasive "grey fog" as to details of her life, in the last year? Almost as if she was hiding something. Intuition kept warning me, I ignored it. That is...until she pulled her social media accounts, and ghosted me. I found that perplexing.

[RelRodriguez-hell]

Hello David, healing family from California. Can u pls explain “projection” a bit more and give some examples to make sure I’m understanding it? Thank u

[davidraduziner]

Hey Dave, left a message on your website to give you some really good advice about insurance you don't know about trying to help you out just like you're helping everybody else out. You need to hear this David from MURRIETA California.

[rorywright]

Thank you for another great video, David! Ohio here! I too love Willa’s channel! Have had Crumble cookies and they are all delicious! 😎❤️

[SurnaturalM]

I know the answer to that question for me. At least, you have to be incredibly self-aware and keep yourself in check at all times.

Don't put yourself in a situation where you know that can easily go wrong, if possible, if in doubt, retreat.

That's the way I kept myself out of trouble all those years. I have a brain defect that makes me ASPD, if that's the right way to put it.

I have 2 kids, and I do care about them and don't want to hurt them because I couldn't keep my mouth shut. I'm the very opposite of BPD, I just don't care enough about strangers or others. I don't care much about myself either, but even when I'm alone, I'm used to take care of myself.

The only thing that is different is that when I'm alone in my car, I drive like a maniac. Because it's boring otherwise, but it's usually late at night. I have a relatively fast car and I will use it. (Audi RS6 Avant 2018)
David should set emotional boundaries for himself before anything else in my opinion.

[rose-skqv]

😂 I'm here. My daughter when she was little, was asked where are you from, she said, I'm from home 😂

[oVeRKILl]

I’ve noticed after the abuse from my borderline X. I now have separation anxiety. I was out fishing with a friend of mine and he walked away. After 10 minutes went by, I thought to myself.. “is he coming back?” Will this ever go away? Plz don’t tell me I’m stuck like this 😂 Pennsylvania

[emilemerten]

It is strange the my a narcisistic parent can project his shame onto you, it is very difficult to describe to people or even notice that something is wrong.

[victoriamuniz]

Victoria from the Bay area.My question is, what is your opinion
On Justin Beaver if you could say one thing to the young man what would you say to him ?