What is Self Destructive Borderline Personality Disorder?

In this video Darren Magee outlines some of the common characteristics of self destructive borderline personality disorder, a sub type of BPD, part of the Cluster B group of personalities.

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[DarrenFMagee]

Please use the comment section if there are any mental health topics you's like me to discuss in the future.

[waynec]

Thank you for this! You gave me another piece of the puzzle.

[keithbennett]

Excellent, . This single video could definitely be used as a tool in counselling so bpd folk can come to terms with the illness and help deconstruct themselves without any prejudices. I also think bpd folk need to look up 'bpd brain abnormalities mri scans'. The amount of damage in the brain is quite extensive among people with bpd.
There are many conclusions when you study this but it actually gives bpd folk an identity and understanding of themselves.

[Canaday]

I have two adult children that have bpd due to neglect, abuse, and abandonments throughout their lives from their dad with malignant npd and alcoholism .
Just like their dad they also have alcoholism,
Use me as a conditional transactional servant, and project their anger, blame for their issues, and abuse onto me
Seeing the manifestation of the damage and corruption the ex has created in my children I spent my life trying to guide and protect them from
I’m still living the ongoing nightmare I thought I could escape from divorcing him

[mzliberty]

this vid popped up on my feed .... great vid Darren
hope you are keeping well.. im so surprised that you dont have more subscribers... x

[mae]

thank you so much for this video, haven’t come across an explanation as clear and elaborate as this yet!

[AfterAFashionASMR]

I wish I could talk to a good therapist like you

[marie-joseelanglois]

I have BPD, bipolar 1 and CPTSD not a good mix. You describe everything perfect thank you to inform people.

[gregoryritchie]

Thank you for your explanation. I'm trying to educate myself on the self-destructive subtype and the quiet BPD subtype.

[bristolcorvid]

Many of the symptoms you describe can also be said for complex PTSD.

[TalkNLyfe]

Just having this explained to me, I feel like it helped me as it's hard to admit but this was pretty much me in a nutshell.

[ADRandAllHisMadness]

Great video.Hits the nail on the head.

[sandie]

I never knew of this illness and when my narcissist was so sensitive to just say I hurt his feelings, I had to think what I really said to hurt him. Then it got worst. Huge rage, smoking weed to numb himself which got worse with Adderall. Then a monster appeared. I gave him so much nurture & love. But it just got more wreckless & horrific!

[ElyJane]

This is just like complex post traumatic stress disorder due to being raised in an abusive toxic dysfunctional family lead by a narcissist. The sensitive empathic scape goat child becomes a self destructive borderline personality disorder adult child as can’t cope anymore around their toxic family members

[tsjukemar]

Sabotaging to be happy, that's my worthless period walking and struggling on this planet. Already wishing my existance is vaporized, seeing it through the "eyes" of f.e. the year 2080 as, fortunately, nothing on this world reminds of me who contributed nothing.

[charlesbromberick]

Something interesting to me is how my borderline is sometimes wonderful and sometimes horrible - that characteristic that they have no core but rather take on the personality of who they are with is the explanation (I think).

[eion-stephenson]

At 61, I have had 2 main relationships and both were difficult. The question is 'Is it me or them?' I met someone some years ago and we have such similar beliefs and life goals that it is so easy to enjoy their company. Where as my partners have always been the exact opposite to me. I find them self destructive in their habits such as drinking, smoking, gambling, tv watching, no desire to exercise, and food choices. I think we don't know how to chose a partner and many of us end up in incompatible relationships and then struggle forever until it breaks. Although my partners have been intelectually intelligent, they seem to ignore some simple truths. Happyness is a constant pursuit of setting simple goals and progressing on achieving them. That's me, but for so many people they are just happy watching tv. I love life in so many ways but that exuberance attracts people who are in a different space and it tends to diminish my/our ability to progress together. For example: I don't much like tv. I would rather go for a moonlight walk but if my partner wants to catchup on the 100 hrs of tv shows they have pre-recorded, then that walk is just me on my own. I have done this compromise for 25 years and then one day you meet someone who loves doing the same as you and you are no longer alone. I feel I have wasted so much of my life trying to help women who had issues. The best I can figure is that they have a Self Destructive nature because, if you tell someone who you aee, what you like and they ignore you, how can you address the issue that you are caught in someone elses lifestyle choices? I would rather be on my own than be in a incompatible relationship. SDPD is a complex subject. Is it me or is it them?

[mariewilliams]

I think I had self destructive bpd. I went through a terrible time I did a lot of immature and attention seeking bad behaviour for years. To hurt myself because I enjoyed playing the victim and thinking people were bad and had it in for me . I behaved so recklessly and I got mocked and rejected and humiliated amd shouted at and attacked by people even complete strangers. When I had 2 ovarian cysts I was even more irrational and out of control. I had to go through a got of humiliation and deep emotional distress to get my self respect back . Because my brain had to learn from a lot of bad experiences to not to do it again. I also had an ovary and a half a ovary removed. Which really calmed me down because I had low hormone levels. I believe hormones play a big part of borderline personality disorder symptoms. And I think learning from bad experiences and staying calm and not taking life to seriously can help people with bpd to keep calm and carry on. And also the book don't sweat the small stuff is great for borderline personality disorder. Because it is all simple psychotherapy. Also having good relationships and not taking it personally what people say or do. with people and understanding if people show disrespect they lack respect. If we ignore drama we will feel calmer. And we will be less stressed if we care less. And knowing if we act like a fool we will get treated like a fool. There are a lot of disrespectful people who will make a fool out of people with bpd to feel better about themselves. It was only when I behaved a lot more mature and respectable I realised I was not giving people a reason to humiliate me or make unnecessary drama .

[janebaxter]

I was diagnosed with BPD after seeing a work mandated psychologist for report. I was younger and I remember reading the report and feeling so ashamed that I was diagnosed with BPD that I denied it for years.

I started seeing a therapist before and through covid and looking back on those sessions now I can see that my therapist may not have been specialised in BPD and in fact I feel like she broke up with me. Although I did tell her I was “good now”

I would like to know how to find a good therapist to help me manage self destructive BPD and do I just tell this therapist I’ve been diagnosed earlier in life with BPD?

[raymondhogue]

This answered some of my questions very helpful 🙂