How To Avoid A Nervous Breakdown

Have you ever felt so depressed, stressed, or anxious lately? Or do you know someone who needs help with their troubled life situation? In this video, I am going to give you four realistic steps on how to prevent a nervous breakdown, so stay tuned!

00:15 Brain and body
01:27 Do these things
02:28 Think about thinking
04:03 You have a choice
05:26 Tip #3
06:00 Notice this
07:14 Find the right words
07:40 Don't do it alone
09:23 Engagement for others

Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[kimbers]

My therapist just taught me something that I had never heard before. 54321 using ur sences. Say 5 things u see. Say 4 things u hear 3 things u feel 2 things smell one thing u taste. In present time. And it's ok if u can't say exactly the number listed. It is very grounding and stops ur mind from spinning.

[rollerbladinggeek]

1. Exercise, eat well, and rest well.
2. Think about thinking (metacognition)
3. Look back at past results & realise you can't predict the outcome or future.
4. Instead of telling yourself you must do something, tell yourself you "choose" to do it.
5. Interact with people. We are social creatures. Consider getting a counsellor.

These things are of course either not possible for a lot of people or won't help their situation, which is why many people face a nervous breakdown in the first place.

So let's look at them:

1. Exercise & eat well & rest well? Yeah a lot of people can't do those 3 things. Just as a quick example, someone could be living in a condo on a 5 lane highway with damaged windows so they can't rest well, and they have no where else to go, and they have limited money so they can't eat well, and can't exercise due to disability. That may sound extreme, but there are many other examples and people are in extreme situations which is why they face a breakdown in the first place.

2. Think about thinking. Lots of people do this naturally already, such as highly intelligent or perceptive people. When they're in a situation that is incompatible with human life, no amount of thinking about thinking will change their environment or resolve the stress. Such as the highway example above- imagine living with 80dB constant humming noise with no escape, tried to rent it out or sell it to no avail, and can't pay for an empty condo as they're stuck in a contract or mortgage or loan. Lots of people are in inescapable situations like that.

3. Look at past results & realise you can't predict the outcome. Actually, there are some people out there who will have enough information to predict outcomes accurately. Just because you can't doesn't mean others can't. Each time something seriously bad was about to happen to me, I had enough information to know what it was & how it was likely to happen. Accurately. Every time. The knowledge that something bad is happening doesn't always give you power you to change it- you can try your best but sometimes it's out of your control. This ability to predict outcomes isn't always a blessing- it can be stressful. But that doesn't change the fact that some people CAN predict the outcome depending on the source of their problems. This anticipation is of course of no help, but in itself can't be ignored when you have a good track record already.

4. Tell yourself you "choose" to do something. Well, this won't work in all situations. If for example, you need to sell your home to avoid bankruptcy, and fixing your garden is a necessity, but you know the neighbours will harass & abuse you when you go outside, telling yourself you "choose to put up with the abuse while you fix the garden so you can sell, lose your home & avoid bankruptcy", isn't going to be of much comfort. Telling yourself you "choose to live in an 80dB constant noise environment while trying to sell for years", isn't going to be of any comfort.

5. Interact with people. Consider getting a counsellor. Again, if people could afford a counsellor or were surrounded by supportive people, it's unlikely they'd be facing a nervous breakdown in the first place. Quite often, people literally have no supportive friends or family, or no one in their lives at all, and can't afford a counsellor. It isn't always easy to find & make supportive friends when you have limited money & a low quality of life. And another thing people misunderstand is that income isn't always usable money. Spare money equals income minus outgoings. Even if your income is better than you can find in another job, the outgoings can't always be chosen, and for some people (e.g. stuck in contracts they can no longer afford, mortgage, or health or disabilities), this essentially means they're poor or going bankrupt, and swapping job isn't going to help escape the situation that's draining them financially. Friends often only come along when you're in a situation where you can take care of yourself, but people facing a nervous breakdown often lost the power to take care of themselves (hence the breakdown).

Self employed work from home people can find it impossible to make friends, no matter how hard they try, or where they look. The simple fact is that most people already have friends & family, so don't have time for others, particularly if they're in full time work. Most friends are also made at work or through colleagues or people you already know. There are many reasons someone could end up stuck alone. Intelligence is another factor; the more intelligent you are, the less likely to find supportive people on your wavelength, particularly in certain areas. This is a known. Nowadays finding a genuine supportive forum or contact with people online can impossible- and can't replace quality in person contact. This doesn't mean people have access to friendships or quality interaction though- many don't.

[ninaespinal]

Got it! Somehow you always say what I need to hear. 😉 Thanks Positivity Yoda!

[yesiownfrodo]

I think there is also a flip side to #4 - when you become so service oriented that you can not put yourself on your list of priorities. None of this works if your priorities are screwed up. So I say yes, and I also say you can't pour from an empty cup, we need balance. Basically, this was very good. I'd give it a grade of a B. My favorite tip? "Associate with people that support your sanity." LOL THAT was priceless. I'm putting that in my quotes book.

[sunshineflower]

Haha, I just listen to music when I feel like doing that(that helps too) some people at my school just get on my nerves and music seems to help!

[BlxxdLeaf]

Hey, you have done some parenting videos before. Can I please request that you do a video on how to be a step parent, but specifically on how to be a step parent in a baby's life(1-2) who doesn't have a father at all!
I am about to start being a part of my partners child's life and I am having "nervous breakdowns" about being a good enough parent. As it stands, I would basically be her father and her mother wants me to assume all the roles there are as a parent.
I know in my heart I love her and I want to be her father, I'm just scared.
Any kind of response would be nice, I hope you can find time to talk about this in a video. You're an amazing speaker, and I appreciate your advice.
Thanks for reading :)

[anetoma]

I usually get mental breakdown before exams before of my panic attack just comes in. All that I have studied just erases instantly no matter how hard I try to remember or look to my notes (when the exam is open notes) I just really can't remember how I uderstoon it ☹️. And what upsets me more is that no one believes it and just says its just my excuse. I do get great exam scores but its just the panic attacks that drags me down.

[brightpage]

Let me guess:

1) Eat right (healthy)
2) Exercise
Sleep well (write down anxious thoughts 1/2 hour before sleep or make a to do list for the next day to quell insomnia), on a set reasonable schedule that allows you some extra rest your body might need or crave for this season of stress: 8-9 hours...
3) shower, self care, keep yourself clean. Take a bath or share your legs or face or give yourself a blow out or do your hair or make up... Or give yourself a 3 day break from that and see if the energy savings is worth the smell for you. Honestly. Experiment. Maybe you had dry skin that wants to be soaped only every 4th day... I dunno... You can still rinse I think.
4) take good care of yourself. Better.

Make a plan of action for times you notice your good upkeep habits are slipping.ike calling a counselor, psych, or close friend / family member even just to ask how their day os going and get out of your own head, without intending to drone on about your own current issues...or whatever. Ask how you can help someone else today and them try that. Whether that means volunteering or charitable giving to you or just frightening a down friend's day by dropping off a few wildflowers.. Whatever.

Maybe?

[atifatiff]

I have major depression. I dont even want to go out. With antidepressants I feel fine at home. Bt my major issue is I have severe head and neck pain and balance loss when I stand or walk. How to get rid of these physical symptoms. Kindly guide

[wenlysiao]

Why  I do feeling inability to function normally. Is it due to a very large amount of stress that hardly able to cope to. And with such pressure. Is it same?

[klanderkal]

I lost my career its been my life, .... im afraid. I don't want to do anything else. Ive lost all my coworkers friends, ... my structure. i don't want to do anything anymore. Im isolating, .... and cannot stop thinking about my job and how much i loved it, ... and want it back. I need help with myself..., im not handling this. 🙏

[badger_]

Me: *trying not to break down into tears during online school because of the exam next class*
(P.s. thank you these actually helped)

[conservativenellie]

More guilt I’m not moving enough not exercising enough

[garieldespe]

Help have nervous break down how to recover