If You're Feeling Depressed, Anxious Or Sad, WATCH THIS! | Evy Poumpouras

Resilience is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health and well-being. Being resilient is how single mothers go on to raise incredible children. Being resilient is how generations that lived through war survive to tell the story and continue their traditions. The problem is that you may not feel resilient, and you may not have taken inventory lately to uncover how much adversity you’ve overcome. Adversity is the catalyst for change and the training agent we all need to bounce back from struggles with a stronger mind.

In part 4 of this series, Evy and Lisa are breaking down all the ways adversity and resilience make you the powerful badass woman that you are. This is how you can break the patterns that have been holding you back, become more resilient and reclaim power over your life. It’s time to answer the call and become more responsible to yourself.

Tips To Become Mentally Resilient
1. Be the Leader in Your Own Life
2. Taking Ownership Makes You More Powerful
3. Don’t Weaponize the Other Person’s Insecurities

Evy’s Nightly Journal Challenge:
1. Write 3 things you are grateful for
2. Write 3 things you want to do tomorrow
3. Write 3 things you could have done better today

Resilient Terms:
● Adversity: Difficult or misfortune
● Progressive Overload: Gradual increase weight, frequency, or reps to get stronger
● Hypertrophy: Increase and growth of muscle cells achieved through lifting weights
● Acceptance: Taking stance of non-judgemental awareness
● Ego: A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance
● Disruptor: A person or thing that interrupts an event, activity or process

SHOW NOTES:

Adversity | How adversity creates mental resilience and is better to embrace [0:44]
Shaped by Adversity | Evy and Lisa share ways they’ve pushed through adversity [6:55]
The Reframe | Remove the negative, find ways to make it work, & give yourself grace [17:01]
Take Ownership | Taking ownership makes you feel stronger & requires you to adapt [19:37]
Solution Mindset | Evy on being adaptable by shifting from problem narrative to solution [23:03]
Own It | How Lisa kicked herself into high gear and took ownership over her health [40:45]
Disruptors | 3 ways to interrupt feeling emotional: distance, time, and environment [41:42]
Lisa vs. Evy | It’s a battle of disruptors, whose disruptors take the win? What are yours? [57:26]

QUOTES:

“When you face adversity over a consistent period of time you know how to manage it, how to withstand it, it makes you stronger, it makes you more resilient” Evy Poumpouras [1:20]

“I take ownership of how I act and how I show up in the world.” Lisa Bilyeu [20:40]

“You are the recipient of whatever life is doing to you. You are affected, you are not affecting the world. The world is only affecting you.” Evy Poumpouras [22:07]

“If it was my fault then it means that I have the power to do something about it. If it’s someone else’s fault, then I’m waiting for someone else to fix me.” Lisa Bilyeu [29:19]

“It’s not okay to be vicious and mean to people, and it takes a lot of work to control that. It’s easy to lash out and rip somebody and shred them. It is not easy to control it.” Evy Poumpouras [52:27]

“If you engage with every fool you deal with you become as predictable as that fool. Stop responding to everything.” Evy Poumpouras [56:04]

Follow Evy Poumpouras:

[samihallsays]

I don't know if I am the only one but the biggest thing I notice when they speak with each other is that they never interrupt each other. I find it so amazing that they just give each other room to speak while really listening. I feel like I can't finish a sentence without being interrupted or being talked over. I love their dynamic.

[ascendingaquarius]

I love the friendship between these two. I think Evy was allowed the space to cry and be vulnerable on camera because she has her friend sitting across from her. And when Lisa squatted down to hold Evy’s hand and be there for her, that was so sweet and empathic. These two are such a beautiful powerhouse team, I love watching their videos. ♥️♥️♥️

[AnaPsychology]

Evy’s stoic attitude reminds me so much of my grandma, a fellow Eastern European woman☺️ this is the type of no-nonsense distress tolerance we all need!

[d]

Many of us don't have the support people around us, the positive friends or family. That's why we watch these videos, trying to move forward alone, trying to be strong, stay strong.. by ourselves.... watching videos to give us hope...

[kategitau]

Lost my dad to leukemia in November and the last words he said to me was I want you to live your life as you please..I miss him everyday❤

[lindamallard]

Crying isn't a sign of weakness it's a sign of strength. I never understand why people say " I never cry, it's not me" it's a normal emotion that needs to be acknowledged not apologised for

[fsoufkp]

I get what you're saying, and I've been dealing with mental abuse my whole life, I'm 64. When I finally was too tired to be strong anymore, I went into therapy and started the road to healing. Now, when I'm faced with advercity, it just doesn't bother me nearly as much.

[aaariana]

I AM UNSTOPPABLE
Takeaways:
- Adversity doesn’t need to be a bad thing.
- Take Responsibility to make yourself feel good. - Accept the situation, feel it, but not let it linger by staying in a Problem Mindset, rather develop a Solution mindset and take action.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for, 3 things you need to get done, 3 things you could do better next time.

[angelacapranica]

Growing up in a unhealthy environment, submissive, blamed, punishment, etc…then stepping into the same relationship type and job type….I had no idea that women could be strong and set boundaries. No idea that cruelty was not a normal life.

Finding out that others live in civility and with respect was astonishing.

Please continue your work and being explicit in dissecting situations and options for change.

Thank you

[belizekellerman]

I bought Evys book a few years ago, and let me tell ya, I became a stronger version of myself. I moved to the US from Brazil about 10 years ago. My life was so different, I had a lot of friends, life was easier. I was depressed, feeling lonely. Fast forward, I feel that I’m much stronger, I don’t need other people to make me happy, I’m responsible for my own happiness. I AM UNSTOPPABLE!

[abbs]

Evy, I see your tears.
Prayers for that area of your life.
Even us lions have moments.
Thanks for being so real 💐 💐 💐

[Sheywh]

I AM Unstoppable!! I woke up at the age of 52 that people aren’t always kind like myself and I have always stood up for what I believed in! Now I stand up for anyone that thinks I’m a easy target to get me to help them in a unhealthy way! No more of that happening on my time!

[Emmabruceofficial]

Omg i love Evy! Having survived a horrific rape ordeal at the hands of my martial arts instructor the very person meant to teach how to protect against such monsters, it took fifteen years until I’d be ready to report this to police. Since I have though and since he was arrested and investigated, steps have now been taken to protect other victims because of my coming forward and police said I should feel very proud for being brave enough to speak up. I always thought I wouldn’t be believed and would be seen as a trouble maker but that just simply was not true. What I had to say was relevant and it did still matter even 15 years later. If anyone is struggling with the trauma of such a situation know that it’s perfectly safe for you to come forward whenever you feel ready and you will be believed - never give up!

[seaofserenity]

I AM UNSTOPPABLE. I've been reading Evy's book and it has been a lifesaver. I've had to change my entire people-pleasing personality in order to become a good leader for my team upon getting a promotion. It's a long process but I try to improve bit by bit, day by day, accept my responsibilities and no longer run away from conflicts. Thank you Evy and Lisa for helping me take this journey and reap the results. <3

[gracesunshine]

absolutely! avoid dangerous people though, they often come in packs

[mirandagibson]

I became homeless this year and I found your video in my feed I think it might be a friend of mine that passed away giving me a sign. A week ago my car stalled and I had to run 2 miles to use a phone because my cell phone died and the home owner called for help and an officer came out to help and he asked if I had anyone and I said no the only person I had that was there for me before was no longer here and he said but you still have them you can't hear them giving advice like before but they're there and to talk to him so I have been and I broke down crying asking him for help and I see your video. The loved ones we lose aren't really gone they're still with us being a light and still helping guide us giving us little signs. And I'm sorry for your loss, your father sounds like a great man to raise a daughter as strong as you and thanks for the video I definitely needed to see it💜

[LifeWithKristen]

I AM UNSTOPPABLE
3 take home messages from this video:
1. Give yourself grace
2. Take ownership of how you act and show up in the world
3. Ask yourself what life do you want to live, don't judge yourself and live that life
Thank you for always being raw and honest - this is what I really believe Women of Impact is about❤️

[JDfaith]

Agree mental adversity is strength and resilience built over time but don’t neglect the grieving process. And by doing that you will appreciate and understand your strength even more when you get to the other side. It’s very important to allow yourself to feel, cry, mourn and even get pissed off so you can heal. If you’re constantly bucking up/pushing through pain and set backs and not grieving, it is detrimental and will cause major issues. Of course dependent on the circumstance and situation.

[tropicalexplorer]

If you had/have great parents this is a lot easier, but not everyone does and if it's the parent that was putting you down it's a daily struggle..

[valeriesilva]

When Lisa said "I honestly can't imagine putting myself in your shoes and understanding what you're going through. I- I couldn't... But one thing I can say is, it's okay. It's okay however you're feeling right now, give yourself grace, " I know we all needed that. God bless Lisa and Evy for sharing their wise encouragement always. <3333