Conversation Skills: DON'T BE SHY!

TRANSCRIPT

Hi, there. My name is Ronnie. Today, I'm going to teach you something very fun and exciting and important. It's how to improve your speaking. Whether you're speaking English or whether you're doing public speaking in front of people or whether you're just speaking to a neighbor, someone on the bus, someone in a store, or a taxi driver, you might be shy. What does "shy" mean? "Shy" means you don't like -- or you're nervous -- to speak to strangers or to speak to other people. So if you are naturally a shy person, I'm sure you've heard people over and over again say, "Don't be shy! Come on. Don't be shy!" Easier said than done, isn't it, shy people? So I want to give you some tips or some pointers maybe to help you to be less shy. It's impossible to be 100 percent outgoing if you are naturally a shy person.

So today's lesson is how you improve your speaking. Don't be shy!

The first thing that you have to do is think about why. "Why am I shy?" There may be many different reasons. I'm just going to go through a couple of them. The number one reason, probably, if you're watching these videos, is because you are trying to speak a new language. Maybe it is English. And you are shy to make a mistake. You don't want to say something bad, funny, rude, embarrassing. You don't want your face to go red and they'll go, "Ha ha! You said a funny word!" Okay. That will happen. And you know what? Who cares? It happens all the time. I say funny things a lot, too.

Another reason why you may be shy is because you "talk funny". Lots of people have different problems with their mouths. Some people have a speech impediment. Some people have a lisp, so they don't pronounce words probably like me. Maybe you have a very strange or different accent than the other people around you. People often ask me, "Ronnie, where are you from?" And I say, "Canada." And they say, "No, you're not." "Yes, I am." "But you have an accent." "Yes. I have an accent. I talk funny. Who cares? I'm from Canada. Nice to meet you." So even if you do talk funny or you do have an accent, rock with it. Yeah. You speak differently. Good. Don't be like other people. Other people are boring.

This is a problem. Maybe you just don't like to talk. Okay? Maybe you are quiet. Maybe you don't want to talk to anyone ever, at all. That's cool. If you don't like people and you don't like to talk, don't force yourself to talk. Maybe you could write something. Maybe you could text message or email someone. But that's not going to improve your speaking. If you do not like to talk to people, that's your choice. But I'm trying to help you overcome your shyness. So let's go through a couple ways to actually do this. Don't be shy!

Just say, "Hi!" So if you're standing at a bus stop or the subway station or anywhere, and there's another human being beside you -- let's say that you're at a bar, and there's a beautiful girl or a very handsome boy. The quickest, the easiest, and the best way to speak to someone is just to say, "Hi! My name is Ronnie." Don't use "Ronnie", though. That's my name. You have to use your name. So just say "hi" to people. If they want to speak to you, they will start the conversation. They will say, "Oh, hi. My name is --. Nice to meet you." "Oh, nice to meet you, too." Uh-oh! And then, your shyness sets in because -- "What do I say? Shoes. I have shoes. Do you have shoes? Oh, God. I'm such an idiot. I can't even speak." Maybe the other person will have asked you a person. You can always ask people basic questions, like, "Where are you from? Why do you talk funny? Why are you shy?" All those fun questions.

When you're actually speaking to someone, it's really important that you choose a topic that you like. So if I were to meet someone -- "Hi. My name is Ronnie." "Hi." "Cool. So -- oh, I like music. Do you like the Sex Pistols?" "Yeah." "Me, too. Oh, my God. No way! What other kind of music to you like?" So I like to talk to people about music. The only problem is not a lot of people like the same music I do. So you have to choose a topic that you like to talk about. If you're lucky, the other person will also like the topic.

The next one: Get a job. Now, this might be very strange for you to even comprehend, but I -- right here -- am shy.

[PabloStarOk]

This is not just an English lesson, it is a life lesson.

[bluebird]

I feel more comfortable around other shy/quiet people because I can understand them and feel like they understand me too

[naz]

Reasons why I'm shy ?
1- I don't want to make any mistakes .
2- I was raised like this.
3- sometimes I become talkative and get lost . (Lol) .
If u have any of them reasons in u, you r the best hahah .( because I'm not the only one ).

[technoh]

She's the "most" funniest teacher on internet 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🤣🙏🏽
Very good class 🤣 thanks

[nourjan]

Ronnie is one of the beast teacher who teaches in a style that attracts every one to see her videos and enjoying to learn English in a simple and easy way. thank you Ronnie

[soumyabanerjee]

I am shy particularly when I am speaking to a person who is more knowledgeable than me. But one thing I must admit the fact you are most dearly teacher having a very friendly attitude which I hardly find these days.

[bartdude]

I'm shy because I'm afraid that when I start a conversation, I'll run out of things to say and I'll just sit there looking awkward and it'll be all silent.

[mohibullahkoka]

This is very essential for future among every students all around the world.Because having watched this video, I have already avoided my shy.

[LotofloveAriana]

I'm shy because I don't want to mess up or embarrass myself in front of people. I used to be bullied a lot too and I always felt down and wanted to disappear. I don't want to be bullied and made fun of.

[tahiramudasir]

I love the way she teaches. Easy to understand and easy to remember.👍

[kpopper]

i respect this woman so much, she makes fun while she is learning you . my great teacher all the best 😀💕

[Jurin]

I adore her way of teaching so much it makes me feel so comforting and motivating.

[sayedur]

Hi Ronnie! I thought it would be rude to leave your channel without saying a word. You made some of the greatest English learning videos on YouTube! Please keep'em coming!

[amirkmn]

I'm not really shy, I just don't know what to talk about or how to talk

[renatamarra]

I can read things in English and listen it too. But when I have to speak with someone or write, I'm shy to make mistake. 
Well, I've just met your youtube channel, and I really like it.

[atumnleaves.]

Thank you Ronnie for your English class, this is best class i ever watched in you tube.

[Matheus]

This is the best video, I undestood almost words she said

Greetings from Brasil

[macori]

I don't know English very well, but I can say that I understand your every word. The way of explanation and facial expressions are interesting enough. Thank you for helping us Ronnie..

[darideivipeguero]

this is the first time that I saw one of your videos and I have to say something!! The way that you explain and speak is perfect to can understand and learn. Thanks. You got a like!

[chand]

You are my favorite teacher because I learn how teach very effectively with lots of humors and funs, of course without any shy. Love you my favorite teacher.