Secret Service Agent Teaches How To GAIN RESPECT & TRUST From Anyone | Evy Poumpouras

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[clementine]

True. Every weakness will be used against you. Quiet and listen.

[MNP]

So glad to hear someone confirm this! I’ve never felt comfortable sharing details of my life with coworkers. There are very few I can trust.

[StuartRochabrunt]

We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say. Period.

[MariaLuckyxo]

0:58 I was always told *'you're not vulnerable'.* I tried working on that.
What really changed for me was when I realized *I have to feel safe with you* to become vulnerable.
The people in my life were gossipers, self-absorbed, critical, bad listeners, not caring but only curious/nosey etc....
No wonder I didn't feel safe to open up.
Now I'm very discerning about whom & when I share my life & vulnerabilities with.

[jyc]

I was told as a child to not reveal too much of your thoughts. Listen more than blab especially if you don’t absolutely need to reveal something about yourself. It has stayed with me all life long.

I’m kind, I treat everyone with respect, and I’m not standoffish but I don’t walk around revealing more than needed recklessly or freely.

[sailosikepa]

Don't be vulnerable. Be Competent.

[johnel_ovi]

"Have more than you show, speak less than you know.” — William Shakespeare.

[sharonconroy]

I'm 56 and I want this woman to be my mum just to help me navigate the rest of my life! So amazing 🤗🇦🇺

[Mind-Skills-by-Leif]

The essence I took from this (+ another interview with her) is "Everybody is different" so "Pay attention" when talking with people and BUILD an understanding of that person

[AmyEdmondson-lp]

I'm learning that less is more with people and I mean giving them more time to show me who they are rather than showing who I am all the time and expecting people to reciprocate. 🎉

[emgee]

Top advice here. Especially about not having a physical object between you e.g. a desk or table. In personal relating situations, better to sit beside the person rather than opposite them. And yes, don't try to fake understanding. Better to admit that no, you don't understand them or their situation or their beliefs or actions . Another thing about " understanding". If you can, work out whether it is understanding OF them or AGREEMENT WITH them, they're really seeking. Because so often, it's the latter.

[jrb]

Awww so sorry Lewis to hear about your father 🙏🏼 sending you lots of love and prayers 💜

[Mmmmchocolate]

Back in my day a lot of this advise was just common courtesy. We have lost our way in our society, basic manners are gone.

[yerbool]

Impressively clear voice. Emotionally smart too.

[dougwomack]

Vunerability isnt about over sharing its about being able to be authentic with yourself, not hiding amazing parts of you away from the world that you chooose to share. Its about freedom and liberation. Yes when your in company that is narcissistic you need to be very careful what you share as they will use it against you! Being vunerable can be pausing and exseriencing the world in stillness and quietness, oversharing is too often a trauma response.

[shaukah]

I need to learn this soo much, basically to Keep to myself. World just wait for you to open-up & bang its used against you, its gossiped against you. 😢

[giffordshoneyfarm]

I read her book a couple of years ago and passed it on to my girls. Mrs. G

[nstv]

Never show your weakness it’s a jungle out there!!!

[smartechick]

Absolutely brilliant, most people don't learn these communication skills until they reach 40+. Sometimes you just need to listen.

[dlicious]

When I first met my husband’s mom she would always ask me personal questions about my life. When I opened up to her because she made me think that I could trust her. Once I opened her she went and told everyone everything about me. It’s been 3 years since I’ve talked to her and cutting her out of my life has been the best choice I ever made.