Secret Service Agent: REMOVE PEOPLE From Your Life if They Have THESE RED FLAGS! Evy Poumpouras

Today, Lewis welcomes back Evy Poumpouras, a former Secret Service agent and author of "Becoming Bulletproof." Evy shares invaluable lessons learned from her 13-year career in the Secret Service, emphasizing the importance of one's inner circle, the distinction between identity and instrumental mindsets, and the value of humility. She provides practical advice on handling stress, being coachable, and navigating interpersonal relationships with a keen understanding of personality types. Evy's insights are grounded in her extensive experience and deep understanding of human behavior, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their resilience and leadership skills.

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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:19 - The Importance of Your Inner Circle
00:04:55 - Building Resilience
00:07:22 - The Effects of Chronic Stress on Mental Health
00:09:50 - Being Instrumental in Service-based Work
00:12:17 - Being Goal-Driven vs Emotion-Driven
00:14:51 - Shifting from self-focus to service-focus
00:17:10 - Coachability and Humility in the Secret Service
00:19:39 - Teaching Children to Process Emotions
00:22:06 - Understanding Personality Types: Lion, T-Rex, Mouse, Monkey
00:27:11 - The Four Predominant Personalities
00:29:38 - Creating Space for Others to Share
00:32:02 - Personality Types: Narcissism, Sociopathy, and Psychopathy
00:34:28 - The Rise of Narcissism and Lack of Empathy
00:37:07 - Self-Focus and Harm
00:39:47 - The Importance of Therapy and Emotional Expression
00:42:26 - Near Death Experience at the World Trade Center
00:44:42 - Appreciating Life and Letting Go
00:47:16 - Moving Forward and Overcoming Challenges
00:49:51 - Finding Therapy through Service
00:52:15 - The ability to sell harm to ourselves
00:54:38 - Stealing and Red Flags
00:56:42 - Understanding the Reasons for Bad Decisions

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[lewishowes]

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[CogMarks]

The covert narcissist is the worst to be in a relationship with because everyone else thinks they are so kind and giving. They will help strangers but do nothing for their family. They volunteer to get praise, not for the sake of helping others.

[fhjjk]

After you dance with a your eyes are wide open. There are some BAD people who walk this earth. Don’t let them in.

[victoriavitoroulis]

Your misery is their happiness & your happiness is their misery .

[dsjmtwu]

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Maya Angelou

[suemiller]

Narcissism is a real thing, I lived with one for 11 years. To give you a feeling of what it's like try walking on quicksand, no matter what move you make or word you say you sink a little deeper.

[meshezza]

I grew up with not only a narcissistic mother but maternal grandmother too and no father on the scene. The problem with people like me is when we get into relationships, the red flags are there and you do get some gut instinct about it but the behaviour they are showcasing is also very familiar because it’s all you’ve known, so we constantly give people the benefit of the doubt

[mikecamacho]

As a man I found that the key to managing emotions is not to suppress them but to understand them then learn to let them go.

[StoicInYourLife]

Evy Poumpouras's advice is spot on and truly resonates with me. As they say, "Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you." Thanks for sharing such valuable wisdom, Evy! 🌟

[cjhkllc]

Listen when someone has drama in their life, it could also be because they are just suffering in this shitty life and isolated without a lot of help. Doesn’t make them a narcissist. Usually it makes them a target for narcissist.

[meanoldhag.]

My ex is a narcissist. They are incapable of feeling empathy for ANYONE, including their own children. And that will never change.

[Jason-mlvs]

The disconcerting part is there are people who enjoy making others suffer.

[mariebrown]

Narcissists are people who claim to be victims of "drama", but they're actually the ones causing drama.

[BM-]

These people are everywhere.
Doesn’t matter if rich, poor, good looking or ugly.
It’s shocking when it’s someone you trusted most or closest to you.
Once you educate yourself to the level of spotting them and learn how to move on,
that’s strength, power, and wisdom. You win💪🏻😉✨

[CareBearGL]

I really appreciate how quickly she gets to the "meat" of the interview. No having to wait half an hour of mindless chitchat.❤

[sivtgvh]

She said something that really resonated with me about people that stay on their phone, aren't connecting, or spending too much time in a negative mindset: When we aren't connecting with people, we feel less empathy, we fear or don't like the other, & we are more likely to cause harm. She went on to pinpoint some of these mindsets. "You can sell anything to yourself if you want to".

[DominionAnako-bbry]

For sure! Red flags can be different for everyone, but things like lack of communication, dishonesty, or disrespect are usually big ones.

[ScorpioStar]

"Their drama is your drama"-Ex-boyfriend always getting into fights-telling people to pullover-getting pulled over by cops-I'm always in the car when this happens... 15 years later he wanted to get back together!...NOPE...NOT EVEN AS A FRIEND.

[titahi]

This made me cry . We tend to ignore the important things in life, our faith, our health and our family.

[anyonecansee]

1. Your circle matters- curate it
2. Be instrumental and team goal driven
3. Recognize the 4 animal archetypes
4. Notice the self focused individuals-red flag
5. Label the behavior not the person.