Healing the Stress Response of a Perfectionist

For the perfectionist, I believe they are in a constant state of fight AND flight, where their stress response is in overdrive. Their constant busy living and avoidance keeps them from dealing with matters of the heart that need compassionate healing and grace. In this broadcast, I want to lay out how the stress response of fight and the response of flight both impact the perfectionist in destructive ways. I will also share what can be done and how we can allow our stress response to heal so we can more effectively navigate through the broken areas of our hearts.

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[lilbitlady]

The fact that you uploaded this 2 hours ago if confirmation of God’s timing for me. I am currently sitting through some debilitating anxiety, panic, fight AND flight. Apparently I’ve always operated out of it and now I’m needing to begin this journey of allowing God to heal the wounded places in my heart. I have endured sexual abuse at the hands of my biological father while being a caretaker to my diabetic mother all starting from the age of 5 years old. I’m just now at 37 in this very moment realizing the emotional neglect I experienced amongst the rejection Of my father and a hyper critical mother. I’ve been striving and surviving my entire life. I am now finally in a “safe place” with a safe spouse and I truly believed God has chosen this season in my life to get me to begin to dig deeper Bc He wants to heal these areas. Thank you for all of your resources. I have 3 of your books on the way!

[ashleyjackson]

Words can’t express my gratitude for your insight on these topics. I came to the end of myself this past week realizing the things I’m obsessing over cannot be the actual issue. And no amount of human reassurance could help, sometimes it even made my thoughts worse. Things are starting to make sense now. After being sick with the flu on top of it, I’ve been forced to sit back and look at the real problems. My ocd, my perfectionism, but my deep deep need to be loved and secure in my relationship with God. My ocd and perfectionism are blocks to my relationship with God, and are also symptoms of my insecurity in my relationship with God.
Thank you Mark.

[ms]

SO good to hear my patterns described so well! I stumble over wanting intimacy -- people/God are just NOT safe. : ( And when I am "still"...not doing anything to relieve the internal pressure, nothing seems to happen...so I go back to trying to care of things. Feels hopeless.

[Hollyfilly]

Wow can I relate to all you said about performers. It's scary to step out of my element into relationship. I am a professional at avoidance. And masking. Thank you for outlining the process to challenge the disturbance and start learning to slow down and take moments to accept God's love. I drive my adrenal system like Mario Andretti

[lindadodd]

Wow. I really AM messed up... You just described me.

[angelablain]

I always wondered in my fear if God would get me the help I needed or was it a million things I needed to do. But God led me to your book about the love of the Father and I feel like wow!! God knows what I needed so bad. Because I’ve never felt safer or more understood than after listening to your teachings. I thank God for your ministry!! To receive Gods love in a real way is so much relief to my weary soul. Thank you and truly God bless you and your family.

[partheniafayne]

Constant! I typed that in my journal notes yesterday. It was a word that the Lord emphasized in a message to me as he was highlighting the nature of my thought life. Constant and continual rating and checking!! Then, later in the day, I see this video! So good!! I am grateful to God for your teachings!

[iBi_uBu]

The Lord delivered me from so much this past 2 years from stuff I was using to alleviate the symptoms of trauma to bring me to this season of healing. Having to look at the deep stuff has been extremely painful because it's everything I been running away from for so long but thankful He truly leaves the 99 for the 1 cause there is no way I could've done this on my own. Thankful for your calling as a big bro Mark and this ministry! An answer to many prayers! For the those of you here at the beginning of what the Lord is doing ❤️ stay encouraged brave children of a great promise🙏🏽

[coolmister]

Thank you my brother from another mother.

[Mumsy_Soap]

Thank you so much. YouTube suggested you 6 months ago. I am learning layer by layer. Slowly marinating. Trying and trusting to enjoy the process, to "just be OK" in the moment. In my recovery from compulsive overeating and food journaling, I saw the fear and rejection, as I continued I realized "just right, not enough" is the back ground noise of the train running on the wrong rut deep track. This video is lots of good content. I'll have to review it several times.

[loriwicker]

Hello Mark, everything you said spoke to me. Eye opening, it made me think Wow, he knows me. Great video, thank you.

[micheal]

That is so good 'fixing mode' God has been speaking rest to me . Now you are helping me get there. Thank you Mark

[lindsaygraham]

Great teaching!! I’m definitely going to buy the book on CPTSD by Pete Walker.

[krystenray]

I’m listening to this episode for a second time. I so need this and this is very much like me. Thank you for this.

[leeleewaters]

Definitely learning how to have compassion for myself. Just recently started walking that path with the Lord.

[theadumitriu]

This was right on time for me, it ministered to me, thank you!

[asijahjett]

Need prayer for chronic stresss and panic attacks please

[CharlieBass]

The more I listen to you the more you irritate me. Don't get me wrong, I like and appreciate you. This video is kicking my butt.

[juhim]

This has been a fantastic podcast? Even cried a bit when listening because it helped answer so many questions I have about myself.

[JessicaJoy]

This is so great and timely! I’m seeing fear or weakness and imperfection because I have an underlying belief that I just fix it myself…or fix it NOW! Leaving no place for journey. I just started seeing my therapist again and I feel this is SO timely!!! I also was able to raise $500 to have some sessions with her! 😭😭😭 Believing this is a place of healing for me. Thank you for all you do Mark! Love you brother!